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OHbaby! Forums : Discipline https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 17 Apr 2026 18:45:21 +0000 Sat, 01 Dec 2007 16:56:37 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=12629 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Discipline : Hannah was a biter. Finally has...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255899&title=discipline#255899 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 12629
Posted: 01 December 2007 at 4:56pm

Hannah was a biter. Finally has grown out of it!!!! Yay.

Anyway, like everyone else, removing from the situation and ignoring seemed to work well for us. Just generally not rewarding her with attention for bad behaviour as well as firmly telling her that biting really hurts.

I think like Liz, I introduced time out around 18 months... I think. Anyway, I remember it worked well.]]> Sat, 01 Dec 2007 16:56:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255899&title=discipline#255899 <![CDATA[Discipline : Another thing is to show her how...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255890&title=discipline#255890 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 12629
Posted: 01 December 2007 at 4:08pm

Another thing is to show her how to be nice. We used to stroke Jack or the cat and say 'nice and gentle' and then so whenever he was going in for a bite or hit we would grab his hand and say make him stroke and say nice and gentle. Then he would get lots of praise for being nice and gentle. It wasn't long before he picked it up.

At more 18 months time out worked wonders for his biting. but we had to put him in an area (the hallway) where there was nothing to do and he couldn't get out of. ]]> Sat, 01 Dec 2007 16:08:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255890&title=discipline#255890 <![CDATA[Discipline : Teehee, Gabrielle has learned...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255027&title=discipline#255027 Author: FionaS
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:58pm

Teehee, Gabrielle has learned how to say a sentence that sounds just like a telling off. It always starts with "no, no do dat" and then she adds in a little bit of gibberish but uses inflections in all the right places. It is so cute but it may be sign that we talk that way too often!!! LOL

I find she gets upset if I try to do time out, I guess 'cause she senses I'm really angry (internally) so I prefer the walk away method for now.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:58:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255027&title=discipline#255027 <![CDATA[Discipline : Caitlin is such a lil madam!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255015&title=discipline#255015 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:53pm

Caitlin is such a lil madam! She knows what she's not allowed to do (like put her hands on the oven or play with the stereo (Daddy's toys lol) she even says "NO!" when she does it!

The only thing that works with her is telling her no and removing her from the situation, then distracting her. I've tried a couple of times to do Time Out or stand in the corner for 30 seconds thing and I swear it was more trouble than it was worth and I got more rilled up from trying to keep her there than I ever was over her touching stuff she knows she shouldn't!

I think time out would work better when they understand consequence. Knowing right from wrong is a whole different skill IMO.
]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:53:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=255015&title=discipline#255015 <![CDATA[Discipline : Elle either laughs and keeps doing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254993&title=discipline#254993 Author: FionaS
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:46pm

Elle either laughs and keeps doing it or she totally ignores me until I remove her from the situation. If I say "stop", she laughs and starts running in the direction she knows I don't want her to go. When I take her by the hand to lead her in the right direction she has a total meltdown and struggles and cries. If she's in the kitchen she'll head for the rubbish bin saying "no, yuck" but will dig into it anyway and keep trying to go back to it.

So I'm not help...we have a very cheeky & determined little mite on our hands! She seems quite defiant although that word sound a little harsh for a 15mth old.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:46:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254993&title=discipline#254993 <![CDATA[Discipline : I think your doing fine. I use...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254966&title=discipline#254966 Author: Kels
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:31pm

I think your doing fine. I use a firm voice on Alize and he responses really well to being off. I think he understands the whole cocept as he sees his sister getting told off and he tries to put his stern voice on and get all mouthy with me telling them off lol..

Kellz I think she will response really well,

]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:31:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254966&title=discipline#254966 <![CDATA[Discipline : Good thread Kellz I have also...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254956&title=discipline#254956 Author: Bubbaloo
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:27pm

Good thread Kellz I have also been wondering what to do with James.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:27:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254956&title=discipline#254956 <![CDATA[Discipline : Lol! Im a dork! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254945&title=discipline#254945 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:21pm

Lol! Im a dork!]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:21:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254945&title=discipline#254945 <![CDATA[Discipline : Kellz wrote:Also I remeber...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254935&title=discipline#254935 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:19pm

Kellz wrote:

Also I remeber super nappy always reinforced to the parents that the other side of the naughty stool thing is postive praise

Hee hee - super nappy! Sorry, had to giggle.

Thanks Kellz, will be trying a combo of all of that. Will see how it goes! ]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:19:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254935&title=discipline#254935 <![CDATA[Discipline : Yeah I think definatley the ingoring...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254925&title=discipline#254925 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:11pm

Yeah I think definatley the ingoring part will work best for you Mazzy. When I put Isla in the corner of the room, even tho Im only a few metres away where she can see me, I sit half facing away from her, and pick up a book or something so she can see Im ingnoring her. Maybe you need to pick her up and put her by the door or something, then walk down the hall or next room etc, so that shes not getting the attention she wants from doing the hair pulling etc.
Also I remeber Super Nanny always reinforced to the parents that the other side of the naughty stool thing is postive praise,...praisng the child often, and being positive, giving lots of attention when they are doing things well, being good etc,...then removing this when they do something you dont like.
Good luck!

Thanks everyone for all your comments!

Edited to change spelling from 'Super Nappy' to 'Super Nanny'! Lol! Opps!

Edited by Kellz]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:11:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254925&title=discipline#254925 <![CDATA[Discipline : Good point Ann, I think I will...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254906&title=discipline#254906 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:56pm

Good point Ann, I think I will give that tactic a try and see what happens.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:56:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254906&title=discipline#254906 <![CDATA[Discipline : Mazzy - Rhyley laughs at me too...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254902&title=discipline#254902 Author: AnnC
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:50pm

Mazzy - Rhyley laughs at me too and goes to do it again - thats when i have to walk away - and thats what he doesn't want me to do so its easier for me to walk away than trying to get him to stay away (it just wouldn't happen)]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:50:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254902&title=discipline#254902 <![CDATA[Discipline : We used the stern voice with Andrew...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254895&title=discipline#254895 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:40pm

We used the stern voice with Andrew from about that age. We got the timeout spot from about 18 months.

]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:40:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254895&title=discipline#254895 <![CDATA[Discipline : What is wrong with DD then?? It...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254894&title=discipline#254894 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:40pm

What is wrong with DD then?? It really annoys me when she just laughs at me when I talk to her sternly (low voice, at her level etc.). Although she probably does know what she's doing is wrong because she watches me while she does it and laughs. Maybe she just likes the attention and I need to do more with her during the day...something to think about. Have been so tired lately I think I've been letting her down with that one.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:40:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254894&title=discipline#254894 <![CDATA[Discipline : when i was nanying in states my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254878&title=discipline#254878 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:27pm

when i was nanying in states my youngest charge watched her brother getting time out...we had a chair in dining room away but close to other rooms, and set the kitchen timer and he came out and apologised when timer went off. Well at 12 months old she watched this - he got a few time outs! One day she was naughty and i told her off quite sternly...she marched herself to the chair, got on it and sat there looking serious...I was sooo taken aback and trying hard not to laugh (or cry) and set timer for 20 secs and when it went off she jumped down and came told me sorry....I tell you my eyes leaked!

she comletely understood what is right and wrong and what the method was....at 12 months! I Will never forget that!

]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:27:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254878&title=discipline#254878 <![CDATA[Discipline : Kellz, DD has started biting too...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254842&title=discipline#254842 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:52pm

Kellz, DD has started biting too (14 months) and pulling my hair - it's her favourite game and she calls it 'ow' and laughs. We are trying something similar, but she just laughs at us and thinks it's all a game. It's like she doesn't get it that we don't like what she's doing...am not sure what else to do, but hoping consistency will win out. So hard to keep it up when it doesn't seem to have any effect though!]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:52:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254842&title=discipline#254842 <![CDATA[Discipline : What I do with Rhyley if he hits...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254822&title=discipline#254822 Author: AnnC
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:09pm

What I do with Rhyley if he hits or head butts is say No very stern and place him away from me and not talk to him - look away - for a 20 seconds (this seems a long time to him and me) and then if he does it again i will say No again and get up and walk away. It hasn't totally worked in the fact that he still does it but it stops it at the time - hes only 1 so don't expect something to work first pop.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:09:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254822&title=discipline#254822 <![CDATA[Discipline : She is defintely not too young!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254821&title=discipline#254821 Author: Bumble
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:07pm

She is defintely not too young! if she is giving you "that look" then definitely carry on with what you are doing!

Good Job!]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 19:07:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254821&title=discipline#254821 <![CDATA[Discipline : I think you're doing fine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254805&title=discipline#254805 Author: busymum
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 6:52pm

I think you're doing fine Kellz. When Hannah was that age I didn't do the whole talk thing but I would put her in the hallway (with a firm voice) and she could come back when she was going to be better behaved. Of course repeat actions got repeat consequences and she didn't like it much

Just stay consistent

]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:52:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254805&title=discipline#254805 <![CDATA[Discipline : yeah before that is a little young...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254799&title=discipline#254799 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 6:43pm

yeah before that is a little young for time out..but still removing them etc works.. I'm not a fan of biting back either..it's a normal developmental stage.. will have to talk to my Mum about it and she believes in biting them back.. :(]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:43:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254799&title=discipline#254799 <![CDATA[Discipline : Kellz - jake bit a lot and mum...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254793&title=discipline#254793 Author: lizzle
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 6:15pm

Kellz - jake bit a lot and mum bit him back. he laughed at her then smacked her in the face. she never bit him back again. he eventually grew out of it. we started time out for him at about 18months - the plunket lady suggested it and it worked really well.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 18:15:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254793&title=discipline#254793 <![CDATA[Discipline : yeah that is exactly what they...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254788&title=discipline#254788 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 5:52pm

yeah that is exactly what they teach us at college and what seems to work with under 2's (did that for 4 years) ...i feel weird answering this topic when I don't have a baby yet:) ]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:52:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254788&title=discipline#254788 <![CDATA[Discipline : Thanks Kaww. Yeah Isla seems to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254785&title=discipline#254785 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 5:48pm

Thanks Kaww. Yeah Isla seems to defiantley know that I am not happy with her,..she burts into tears. It doesnt stop her doing it again tho, but I guess nothing will at that age! But if we are consistant she will recoginse when we not happy with what shes done.]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:48:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254785&title=discipline#254785 <![CDATA[Discipline : sorry to lurk i know i cant comment...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254779&title=discipline#254779 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 5:29pm

sorry to lurk i know i cant comment as i dont have a child yet but for that age at work.. we didn't put them in time out(cant at preschool) but we did do similar and if i was at home I would have.. as you say we got down to their level and said 'We don't bite each other at preschool, please be nice to your friends' and removed them from the play and then showered attention on the other child.. we would go back and see them after 1 min and talk to them about what they had done..even very young they seemed to understand.. ]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:29:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254779&title=discipline#254779 <![CDATA[Discipline : I will be interested in what other...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254771&title=discipline#254771 Author: katie1
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 5:13pm

I will be interested in what other people say to this. I have been wondering about discipline things for this age too. ]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:13:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254771&title=discipline#254771 <![CDATA[Discipline : Is Isla too young(13 months) to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254766&title=discipline#254766 Author: Kellz
Subject: 12629
Posted: 29 November 2007 at 5:05pm

Is Isla too young(13 months) to use a variation of the SuperNappy naughty stool method,...ie- get down to her level,...use a stern voice to say what we dont like about what shes done,...then remove her from the area- corner of lounge- where she can still see me,...ignore for 1 min,..then go back to her and say eg."mummy put you here cos you bit mummy and its not nice to bite,",..then hugs.

She seems to get the message! But is she too young? And is there something else that I should do instead?

ETA- I do not want to bite her back which has been sugested to me

Edited by Kellz]]> Thu, 29 Nov 2007 17:05:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12629&PID=254766&title=discipline#254766