OHbaby! Forums : Arghhh I need to vent! https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 17 Apr 2026 20:38:06 +0000 Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:42:02 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=14868 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : I have to say that most days with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314902&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314902 Author: HippyMama
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 10:42pm

I have to say that most days with my 20 month old DD are good days. Except just as I start to relax a little, we will have a real sh*tter of a day that knocks me completely on my arse! Today wasn't too bad BUT culminated in me catching DD almost literally dancing on top of her dresser drawers She'd managed to climb up there by standing on bed-end and then shoving off the basket full of her wipes and lotions etc. The only reason I knew she was up there in the first place was all of a sudden the radio was blasting almost full volume! The dresser has since been moved and the stereo now lives on the floor, but boy did I need a stiff drink after that one (was feeling so crap that I wasn't watching her more carefully, what if she had fallen!?).

With kitchen cupboards, we dedicated one to DD, and shoved all our die-hard tupperware and plastic stuff in there and 99% of the time she is allowed to open it and go hard - this has solved most of our kitchen battles. Plates and things are up high on shelves above our benches too, or we wouldn't have any left I'm sure!

At the end of the day I have to at least try and remind myself that it is part of her natural development to challenge me and push the boundaries of her little toddler world - and that I am learning a lot about myself in the process too!

Edited by Pearls]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:42:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314902&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314902 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : It is amazing how you describe...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314742&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314742 Author: Shorty
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:29pm

It is amazing how you describe T from a couple of months ago.
We even had his ears tested thinking he had a hearing problem! No just selective hearing lol.

For the time being it has passed for us...touch wood.
]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 20:29:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314742&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314742 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : I feel your pain Kelly, reading...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314721&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314721 Author: Maya
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:05pm

I feel your pain Kelly, reading everyone else's replies is like reading "A Day in the Life of the Gremlins" - except multiplied by two if you can imagine it. The dishwasher thing - yep! The cupboards thing - yep! The licking batteries thing - yep! The selective hearing thing - yep! (in our house we call it Maori Glue Ear )

I wish I had some advice, but all I can say is more power to mummies of toddlers! I remember this being a bugger of an age with Maya too, so I have faith that it will pass - eventually!]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 20:05:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314721&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314721 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Right, I didn&#039;t read all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314445&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314445 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 1:03pm

Right, I didn't read all the rest of the posts but I have to say that Ashleigh's age was IMO the HARDEST I have come across thus far. I was exhausted by her. She wanted to do things that she wasn't quite physically ready for and everything seemed to take forever because she would battle it.

It does pass!! Breeeeathe. ]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 13:03:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314445&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314445 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Andie wrote:...and her fave...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314439&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314439 Author: FionaS
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 12:52pm

Originally posted by Andie Andie wrote:

...and her fave drawer is a big one filled to the top with electronic junk, lightbulbs and batteries.  I got so sick of her getting into it so many times a day (I mean come on, what baby licks batteries for fun, I ask?!? )  I duct-taped it up one day when I was in a foul mood.  God bless that duck tape - I haven't looked back since!!



Got a battery lover here too! Mmmm, yumm ]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 12:52:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314439&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314439 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : OMIGOSH! This is Joshua completely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314436&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314436 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 12:50pm

OMIGOSH! This is Joshua completely too!!]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 12:50:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314436&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314436 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : i hear ya on the selective hearing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314253&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314253 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 14868
Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:52am

i hear ya on the selective hearing front!!   unfortunately, it's both my kids that suffer from it......jack prefers to just ignore me fullstop and charli only listens if i'm offering her food

hang in there kelly ]]> Fri, 29 Feb 2008 09:52:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314253&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314253 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : ...and her fave drawer is a big...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314046&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314046 Author: Andie
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 10:48pm

...and her fave drawer is a big one filled to the top with electronic junk, lightbulbs and batteries.  I got so sick of her getting into it so many times a day (I mean come on, what baby licks batteries for fun, I ask?!? )  I duct-taped it up one day when I was in a foul mood.  God bless that duck tape - I haven't looked back since!!

]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 22:48:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314046&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314046 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Ah I sooo hear you on the dishes...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314045&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314045 Author: Andie
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 10:46pm

Ah I sooo hear you on the dishes thing!  Ella loves our dishwasher and it's just not worth me trying to load or empty it when she's awake, basically I just can't.  Ugh, it's all very frustrating isn't it.  If it helps you feel better, Ella has completely selective hearing and 'no' 'don't' and 'stop' don't register here one bit! 

]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 22:46:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314045&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314045 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Kryssi already goes faster when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314010&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314010 Author: busymum
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 9:45pm

Kryssi already goes faster when you say "come", or keeps going and giggles when you say "no" and she's just 13mos lol.

I found up to 2yrs it was so much easier to put up breakables, makes for less battles. And I use heaps of distraction: no you can't have that *insert paddy here lol* but you can come play with these *plonking her in front of some toys, a fair distance away and often playing with her*. After 2yrs I expect a lot more! But we still have the odd problem with Briona. For her it has a lot to do with boredom now, she wants to learn and explore etc but if we won't do stuff with her (when she wants) she'll get into mischief for negative attention ]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 21:45:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=314010&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#314010 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Stop means nothing here either...other...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313936&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313936 Author: FionaS
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 8:16pm

Stop means nothing here either...other than run faster or add a giggle and a "no no" whilst continuing with the behaviour! LOL.

They WILL learn eventually. I guess we just have to be patient and have plenty of outlets for our frustrations.


Xx]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 20:16:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313936&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313936 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Thanks guys, I&#039;m glad I&#039;m...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313928&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313928 Author: KH25
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 8:10pm

Thanks guys, I'm glad I'm not the only one! I did until a couple of months ago, have a gate up so she couldn't get into the kitchen at all!! Then took it down and she was really good but just the last week or so has been into everything again. I have a lock on the cupboard under the sink with cleaning products but the one she is getting into has all the plates, bowls, glasses and mugs so is used allll the time and would be a pain to have a lock on it. I guess I just need to be consistent and hope one day she will learn

Anna    We miss you, and Ash wants to play with Brenna ]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 20:10:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313928&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313928 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : It will pass - and then be replaced...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313886&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313886 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 7:26pm

It will pass - and then be replaced by other stuff equally annoying! Hannah was a shocker at that age too, and she has improved heaps. I had always said that I wouldnt put kiddie locks on stuff and put everything out of reach cos I wanted Hanny to learn not to touch, but now i go by the mantra 'pick your battles' and found it much easier not having to say no all the time for small things like getting into cupboards.

Hugs mate, it really does suck sometimes...]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 19:26:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313886&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313886 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Oh man I feel your pain. DD is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313847&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313847 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 6:17pm

Oh man I feel your pain. DD is exactly the same, the selective deafness has started already!! ]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 18:17:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313847&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313847 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : I feel your pain...believe me!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313843&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313843 Author: Paws
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 6:12pm

I feel your pain...believe me!!! We don't call our one hurricane Maddie for nothing. She used to listen when we said "Stop!" All of a sudden she is now deaf to that word.

We're just persisting in taking her away from what she is doing and if she throws a tantrum as a result (very common! ) then she gets 1 minute of time out. ]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 18:12:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313843&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313843 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Hugs Kelly!!! That sounds frustrating...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313825&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313825 Author: Brenna
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 5:38pm

Hugs Kelly!!! That sounds frustrating and I'd be a very grumpy mummy too if that was me. Don't have any advice for you but bummer that I'm working cause then we could hang out together and let the girls go crazy outside ]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 17:38:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313825&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313825 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Poor You! I hate those days!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313803&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313803 Author: katie1
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 5:02pm

Poor You! I hate those days! So tiring and full on. So hard to constantly be consistent. You sound like you are doing a great job.
Going for a drive in the car is always a good wee break for a few minutes when you really just can't bear to be in the house with mess acculumating every minute!
Have you got any of those cupboard lock things? We haven't but I am going to get one just for the glasses drawer as I am also sick of them getting pulled out.]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 17:02:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313803&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313803 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : I was told by Andrew and Josh&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313734&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313734 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 3:42pm

I was told by Andrew and Josh's daycare that they take all the children away from the child that is being naughty as their punishment as negative attention is better than no attention at all. I'm trialing it with Andrew at the moment and its working as he thrives on attention.

]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 15:42:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313734&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313734 <![CDATA[Arghhh I need to vent! : Sorry about the following rant...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313728&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313728 Author: KH25
Subject: 14868
Posted: 28 February 2008 at 3:35pm

Sorry about the following rant lol!

Ashleigh is driving me bonkers lately! She is get into everything, no matter how many times you tell her no. I have tried yelling (lots and lots of times lol) tried speaking calmly to her, time out, even a smack on the hand today but still she goes back and does it again. I think it may be partly boredom as we both have colds so can't really go visit anyone, and also an attention thing if I am trying to do something else. I can't do the dishes when she is around as she is constantly trying to pull knives etc from the cutlery basket or in the cupboards pulling all the glasses out.

I took her to the park before to get out of the house hoping it would help, but we got home and I went upstairs to open windows and when I got back down she had all the glasses out again    It is all quite minor things but add them all together and it makes for a very stressed yelling mummy

Anyone else found this around Ashleigh's age (20 months)? Currently I have plonked her down in front of a Hi 5 DVD with a bag of poppa jacks so I can have some time out

Oh and after my shower this morning I found she had climbed onto the back of the couch onto the kitchen bench, pulled everything off, found a pen and drawn all over the couch ]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2008 15:35:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14868&PID=313728&title=arghhh-i-need-to-vent#313728