OHbaby! Forums : Before you went home... https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 03:12:02 +0000 Fri, 09 May 2008 20:27:41 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=15846 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Before you went home... : NeoshasMummy wrote:Omg that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=379421&title=before-you-went-home#379421 Author: Neeks
Subject: 15846
Posted: 09 May 2008 at 8:27pm

Originally posted by NeoshasMummy NeoshasMummy wrote:

Omg that is rude! I got that one as well "oh well at least u didnt have to give birth and experience all that pain" um excuse me I went through 25 hours of labour before being cut open and left stuck in bed for 2 days! Giving me pushing pain anyday thank u very much


I too went through the labour before getting the big slice.. and it's definitely not nice especially when you've finished and in recovery (before I had even met my little girl properly) and you get taken down to have yet another ultrasound because they think they've stuffed your kidneys ]]> Fri, 09 May 2008 20:27:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=379421&title=before-you-went-home#379421 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : cuppatea wrote:Yes I had an...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=378995&title=before-you-went-home#378995 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:41pm

Originally posted by cuppatea cuppatea wrote:

Yes I had an elective because of him being breach and my sister in law said to me "at least you won't have to go through the pain of labour" no cos recovering from a major surgery whilst looking after newborn will be a breeze!!!!!! Idiots..



Omg that is rude! I got that one as well "oh well at least u didnt have to give birth and experience all that pain" um excuse me I went through 25 hours of labour before being cut open and left stuck in bed for 2 days! Giving me pushing pain anyday thank u very much]]> Fri, 09 May 2008 13:41:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=378995&title=before-you-went-home#378995 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Wow, I never even considered that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=378502&title=before-you-went-home#378502 Author: 2bmumof3
Subject: 15846
Posted: 08 May 2008 at 7:15pm

Wow, I never even considered that I might have been entitled to extra help after c-sections. I've had 2 c-sections and my kids were 17 months apart. I do remember my midwife asking if there would be anybody home and yes my husband was for 2 weeks so I guess that was her disqualifying me from additional help??? Would have been nice though, even with the relatively easy recoverys I had]]> Thu, 08 May 2008 19:15:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=378502&title=before-you-went-home#378502 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Hey all, my Mw got me home help,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377489&title=before-you-went-home#377489 Author: hooper
Subject: 15846
Posted: 07 May 2008 at 7:10pm

Hey all,
my Mw got me home help, i was told if you have two kids under two you should get help.
i will be getting two hours a week for 4 weeks.]]> Wed, 07 May 2008 19:10:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377489&title=before-you-went-home#377489 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Yes I had an elective because...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377317&title=before-you-went-home#377317 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 15846
Posted: 07 May 2008 at 4:01pm

Yes I had an elective because of him being breach and my sister in law said to me "at least you won't have to go through the pain of labour" no cos recovering from a major surgery whilst looking after newborn will be a breeze!!!!!! Idiots.

Sofia speak to your mw she should be able to give you the right info about any home help that you are entitled. I also hate the word elective too as it makes it sound like you are choosing it rather than it being for a medical reason.]]> Wed, 07 May 2008 16:01:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377317&title=before-you-went-home#377317 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : pity you dont get it (i assume)...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377311&title=before-you-went-home#377311 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 15846
Posted: 07 May 2008 at 3:55pm

pity you dont get it (i assume) if you have a DH who has to go back to work after 4 days like me:(

leas ti had Mum every wednesday...sadly two_blondinis I'm ashamed to admit i used to think it was the easy way out ... but rest assured i know different now... and sofiaj people say some stupid stupid things dont they:( no c-section is every 'lucky' no matter elective or not. !]]> Wed, 07 May 2008 15:55:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377311&title=before-you-went-home#377311 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Mmm I think the word elective...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377174&title=before-you-went-home#377174 Author: grrrgrrrr
Subject: 15846
Posted: 07 May 2008 at 12:34pm

Mmm I think the word elective needs to be explained to some people, I have placenta previa and everyone keeps telling me how lucky I am that I am having a c-section.
I don't consider myself lucky at all, woudl much rather have no complications and do things "naturally".

I'm looking around to try to find some home help at the moment as I am scheduled for the 30th May, any ideas of where to look for the Brooklyn area in Welly?

]]> Wed, 07 May 2008 12:34:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=377174&title=before-you-went-home#377174 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : wow just discovered this thread...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=351842&title=before-you-went-home#351842 Author: AnnC
Subject: 15846
Posted: 10 April 2008 at 10:41pm

wow just discovered this thread and probably way too late to offer any help. But I had heard you got offered home help after a c section from a friend And so when I was booked into an elective i asked my midwife. Which she said was true, so after I had Rhyley I transferred down to our local maternity home and stayed there 4 days (my midwife was a huge beleiver in people staying longer when theey have had a ceasar or first time mum - she was great) She also brought the forms for home help and got them filled out with me and sorted. I had a person come round twice a week for 1 and half hours per day to do the vacumming, bathroom, washing out and beds. It was great and well worth it, you get it for 6 weeks - although I only got for 4 weeks as it came to christmas and no home help people to work, but dh was off then so no worries.

All i say is make sure you ask and ask and ask for it as you are entitled to it - as long as you have no one who can be home for you and espec if you have other kids as that was a big thing that got me it - even if the kids were older they still make a mess.]]> Thu, 10 Apr 2008 22:41:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=351842&title=before-you-went-home#351842 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : I had a c-section with my twins...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=351623&title=before-you-went-home#351623 Author: mumoftwins
Subject: 15846
Posted: 10 April 2008 at 8:50pm

I had a c-section with my twins and I don't recall anyone asking if I had help at home, but I know we talked about how DH was having a month off work so maybe they decided that was all the help I needed.]]> Thu, 10 Apr 2008 20:50:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=351623&title=before-you-went-home#351623 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Oh BS - that&#039;s too funny!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341993&title=before-you-went-home#341993 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 10:40pm

Oh BS - that's too funny! *filthy laugh*

I was never offered ANY help at all after my CS or my private lap! Only had a visit from the physio lady just as I was about to walk out the door (on day 4 after CS).

NeoshasMummy - Your MW needs to be struck off!
Fast recovery from a CS?!?! Like heck! I think her attitude was disgusting and she should not be allowed to look after anyone else!

Unfortunately there are far too many people that still think that haveing a CS is the easy way out. If only! ]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 22:40:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341993&title=before-you-went-home#341993 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : It&#039;s cause you said do it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341917&title=before-you-went-home#341917 Author: busymum
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 9:40pm

It's cause you said do it "to" BSDH instead of "for" ]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 21:40:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341917&title=before-you-went-home#341917 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : ok sounds awful - I meant &#034;do...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341828&title=before-you-went-home#341828 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 9:09pm

ok sounds awful - I meant "do it" as in housework! LOL!!!! ]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 21:09:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341828&title=before-you-went-home#341828 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : i wasnt offered any help...i had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341825&title=before-you-went-home#341825 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 9:09pm

i wasnt offered any help...i had five days in hosp, felt pretty good when i came home and even braved the stairs (admittedly mostly only morn and night!!!) but by four weeks i was emailing Anil (spec) to beg him to say OK you can drive...I walked around botany a day or so after i came home, and by four weeks was driving there and back and walking around pushing stroller quite happily...slowly but out and about nonetheless....

I would have LOVED someone to step in and do washing etc etc....maybe next time (altho I know for a fact the amazing Ginger did offer to come do it to BSDH! and I am grateful for the offer)]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 21:09:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341825&title=before-you-went-home#341825 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Have you PMed AnnC? I think she...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341396&title=before-you-went-home#341396 Author: busymum
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 4:37pm

Have you PMed AnnC? I think she had home help after a c/s. I didn't get offered any but I only had a c/s for #1 - not that that's not hard work with abdo surgery!!]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 16:37:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341396&title=before-you-went-home#341396 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Kels wrote:EKk sorry Deb, I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341291&title=before-you-went-home#341291 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 2:15pm

Originally posted by Kels Kels wrote:

EKk sorry Deb, I didnt mean my last post to become a rant



oh thats alright - you are allowed to rant!]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 14:15:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341291&title=before-you-went-home#341291 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Kels that sounds TERRIBLE!!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341232&title=before-you-went-home#341232 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 1:25pm

Kels that sounds TERRIBLE!!!!!]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 13:25:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341232&title=before-you-went-home#341232 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : EKk sorry Deb, I didnt mean my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341211&title=before-you-went-home#341211 Author: Kels
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 1:11pm

EKk sorry Deb, I didnt mean my last post to become a rant

]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 13:11:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341211&title=before-you-went-home#341211 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : They were terrible and being a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341210&title=before-you-went-home#341210 Author: Kels
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 1:11pm

They were terrible and being a nurse myself now i would never put up with that sort of treatment. I was very young at the time and with having just laboured for too many hours, had my baby's shoulder stuck on my pelvis bone and then nearly losing her and having an emergency c-sect was too much for a 1st time mum to deal with esp  being a teen mum at that. There werent LMC back then so I had my GP Npractice nurse come and take the staples out at home. SHe did it too early and my wound opened a few layers. As they couldnt staple it back together I had to leave it to heal from the inside. It was a really badtime of my life. I guess in some ways I am still not over it. That became clear to me when I had my son and he was stuck due to the cord around his neck twice and I point blank refused to have a c-sect. they even had the OB there trying to talk me into but I was adament I was having a VB as te horror of my 1st childs birth still haunts me..

 

]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 13:11:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=341210&title=before-you-went-home#341210 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Kels wrote:Nope I never got...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340992&title=before-you-went-home#340992 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 01 April 2008 at 8:13am

Originally posted by Kels Kels wrote:

Nope I never got offered anything not even pain relief, mind you I went home a day after my c sect cos it was so traumatic I needed to get out of there and the nurses were so MEAN!!



They were mean???/ Thats not very nice, I found the nurses AWESOME BUT I hated being there without my partner I would cry as soon as he left and never slept until he came back so it was a hard time]]> Tue, 01 Apr 2008 08:13:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340992&title=before-you-went-home#340992 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : i THINK and don&#039;t quote me...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340950&title=before-you-went-home#340950 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 11:28pm

i THINK and don't quote me on it.....you can get help if you have other children at home and there's no one there to help you. i asked about it but as DH was off work, i wasn't eligible]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 23:28:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340950&title=before-you-went-home#340950 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Nope I never got offered anything...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340814&title=before-you-went-home#340814 Author: Kels
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 9:57pm

Nope I never got offered anything not even pain relief, mind you I went home a day after my c sect cos it was so traumatic I needed to get out of there and the nurses were so MEAN!!

]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 21:57:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340814&title=before-you-went-home#340814 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : my dad wasnt eligable for home...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340539&title=before-you-went-home#340539 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:35pm

my dad wasnt eligable for home help after hip replacement...:( dunno why..

i had the labour and the emergency c section..i took 4 weeks to feel ok..i dont think my weight mattered..i wasnt lazy unwilling..how rude!:) my mw gave me more visits than usual but i sure wasnt offered extra help..got an extra hospital appointment..lucky me:) but thats it.. if i had other kids i would have thought it would be necessary but i would think unlikely to get help then either:( ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 18:35:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340539&title=before-you-went-home#340539 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : I think you are Deb as you have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340516&title=before-you-went-home#340516 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:15pm

I think you are Deb as you have other children. Quiz the hospital over the phone about it.

I personally don't know as I haven't had a C/S but when I had my lap (and I don't know if it was coz I went private) but I could of had a few hours of home help each day for a few weeks but I didn't take it up as we had already arranged help for me and Andrew. However after my hystorectomy i'll be taking up any offer.

]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 18:15:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340516&title=before-you-went-home#340516 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : No checks as such but my MW was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340503&title=before-you-went-home#340503 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:05pm

No checks as such but my MW was stoked when she found out DH and my mum would be helping as she said I'd need it (and she was right). She maintained that an elective C was better than a bad vaginal birth anyway.

But if you're labouring and then have a C sect surely you've had a rougher time than someone who has had a straight forward vaginal birth.

Mind you they don't actually cut the muscle during a c-sect unless it's a crash. Otherwise it's just pulled aside so I had better strength than my friend who had his appendix out and did have his muscles cut.

]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 18:05:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340503&title=before-you-went-home#340503 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : I know, I kept trying to tell...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340476&title=before-you-went-home#340476 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:26pm

I know, I kept trying to tell her that I was in ALOT of pain and couldnt get in and out of bed or stand straight and she said that some women just have a higher pain tolerence. Turned out my staples were to tight and had been tugging at the wound causing a very nasty infection.
I was young and nieve but I definately wont tolerate that sort of thing now! She was against C/S I found out later by talking to other nurses and docs and stuff.


EDIT: personally I believe its harder than having a natural birth especially if it was an emergency, u got through hours of painful labour only to be ripped open and stuck in bed for days then only half mobile for weeks after that. I used to feel jelous when I saw people out shopping with their babies the day after having them because I remember just being in agony! Im hoping for a less stressful time during round 2 lol

Edited by NeoshasMummy]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 17:26:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340476&title=before-you-went-home#340476 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : NeoshasMummy wrote: &#034;mothers...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340467&title=before-you-went-home#340467 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:17pm

Originally posted by NeoshasMummy NeoshasMummy wrote:


"mothers that dont push their babies out arent entitled to any more help than the next mother" I was like Oh OK then lol. She said that c/s recovery should be fast and if its not its generally due to a) your weight b) your diet c) laziness and an unwillingness to try.

She had more of a stern approach to some topics I guess


how rude... its bloody majoy surgery having someone cut thru all those layers of flesh and muscle and what not! ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 17:17:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340467&title=before-you-went-home#340467 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Nope I was never offered any help....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340457&title=before-you-went-home#340457 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:09pm

Nope I was never offered any help. I asked my midwife and she said

"mothers that dont push their babies out arent entitled to any more help than the next mother" I was like Oh OK then lol. She said that c/s recovery should be fast and if its not its generally due to a) your weight b) your diet c) laziness and an unwillingness to try.

She had more of a stern approach to some topics I guess]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 17:09:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340457&title=before-you-went-home#340457 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : no wasnt asked either would of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340346&title=before-you-went-home#340346 Author: james
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 3:39pm

no wasnt asked either would of been nice though ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:39:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340346&title=before-you-went-home#340346 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : I was never asked or offered any...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340323&title=before-you-went-home#340323 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 3:26pm

I was never asked or offered any help. I thought that if you had other children though that you were entitled to help. ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:26:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340323&title=before-you-went-home#340323 <![CDATA[Before you went home... : Were you seen by the social worker...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340307&title=before-you-went-home#340307 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 15846
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 3:16pm

Were you seen by the social worker or anyone who checked what help you had at home??? were you offered any help, home help perhaps?.
My mother was very surprised that i wasnt as a caesar is major surgery and evern after her hip replacement she was eligible for home help for 6 weeks... She said after any other surgery they quiz you about your circumstances at home before discharging and was very surprised they sent me home without making sure i had help...   

Is this normal? Or was i just a forgotten person? ]]> Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:16:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15846&PID=340307&title=before-you-went-home#340307