OHbaby! Forums : Getting past "it" https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 00:59:14 +0000 Thu, 15 May 2008 15:37:51 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=17149 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : I hope these next few days pass...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=384443&title=getting-past-it#384443 Author: EmDee
Subject: 17149
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 3:37pm

I hope these next few days pass quickly for you Marisa

OT - OMG Emma you're down to a few weeks?! It doesn't seem that long ago I was reading your post abut being preggers!]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 15:37:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=384443&title=getting-past-it#384443 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Yay for a heartbeat Genie! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=383091&title=getting-past-it#383091 Author: Maya
Subject: 17149
Posted: 14 May 2008 at 10:57am

Yay for a heartbeat Genie!

I missed most of my pregnancy with the gremlins too for fear of losing them, I never actually let myself believe they'd be born alive. It wasn't just the m/c, altho that was a big part of it, it was also the risks associated with monochorionic twins. I've ended up having all sorts of bonding and attachment issues with them as a result.

For me this pregnancy has been quite healing, altho I've been too busy to think much about the baby and having a baby, I'm a lot less stressed than I was with the gremlins and can actually see her being born in a few weeks.]]> Wed, 14 May 2008 10:57:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=383091&title=getting-past-it#383091 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Yay for the heartbeat Genie and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=383044&title=getting-past-it#383044 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 17149
Posted: 14 May 2008 at 9:59am

Yay for the heartbeat Genie and definitely come and join us.
I am gonna go to the docs and get my referal form and hopefully go next Tuesday, DH is on earlies so should be able to come with me.
I feel so ill at the moment that I think everything must be ok and I'm too tired to worry anymore.]]> Wed, 14 May 2008 09:59:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=383044&title=getting-past-it#383044 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Genie, come and join us....there...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382803&title=getting-past-it#382803 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 9:41pm

Genie, come and join us....there are a few of us with "past history" and we can all freak out together. YAY for your scan. I am getting a referal sent out to me for one at 8 weeks....going tobe brave and hold out. I'm 6 weeks tomorrow, next week I have an antenatal coffee group and so the following week I can do it!]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 21:41:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382803&title=getting-past-it#382803 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Hmmm i do have a pregnant brain..repeating...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382773&title=getting-past-it#382773 Author: Genie
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 9:27pm

Hmmm i do have a pregnant brain..repeating myself like that..oh well i guess it will get worse before it gets better!]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 21:27:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382773&title=getting-past-it#382773 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Well I did some checking on when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382768&title=getting-past-it#382768 Author: Genie
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 9:24pm

Well I did some checking on when the heartbeat could be seen and knew I should wait till 7wks but when I rang the radiology place this mornig they said they could take me today so off we went. I was soo wound up and nervous, but trying to tell myself even if they couldn't see it didn't necessarily mean it was all over at this stage. My husband had his appendix out last Monday so he is still off work and was able to come with me. Anyway..we have a good strong heartbeat!!! yayyyy what a relief and still due Jan 2. My dr said jokingly yesterday of course it will be ok with such an inconvenient due date, now that stuck in my head it makes sense in some crazy way. I'm thinking about joining in the Jan babies thread now but still a little unsure. I know I have more hurdles to freak out over yet and don't want to inadvertently say anything to upset anyone just because of my past history.
Its really good to know that I'm not the only one who finds this such a difficult time, hang in there and try to keep the mind occupied, not long and I'm sure you will have good news too]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 21:24:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382768&title=getting-past-it#382768 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : try not to over think it, hard...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382128&title=getting-past-it#382128 Author: my2angels
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 1:24pm

try not to over think it, hard i know but you cant dwell on what has happened, just try to think positive. There is no reason you would miscarry this time so you need to look on the positive side and not the negative and analysis it right down to the fact that its the same day cos in all reality, that means nothing but is just making yourself crazy. when i miscarried with the twins i just kind of felt from the start it wasnt going to happen, i couldnt see myself with a baby (or two) at the end and yep i miscarried. with addison it was completely different but i still stressed and worried so i just tried not to think about it to much and got on with things which is different to discecting every little thing which sounds like you are doing. I dont mean to sound harsh but its not doing you any good and its not going to change things in the long run.]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 13:24:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382128&title=getting-past-it#382128 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Genie I am waiting to have a scan...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382110&title=getting-past-it#382110 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 1:03pm

Genie I am waiting to have a scan at 7 weeks so that there should definitely be a heartbeat at 6 weeks sometimes there is sometimes there isn't and just because there isn't doesn't mean there is a problem but I didn't want the stress so am waiting a little longer.

I think once I have the scan I will feel better (I hope) it just these next couple of days, it also doesn't help that it is the exact same time of the week. Last time the mc happened on a Thursday adn I will be 6 weeks 2 days this Thursday, so not great timing.
Just talking about it on here has made me feel a bit better about it all.

I have a jigsaw puzzle I might get that out. I should do housework but I'm not that desperate yet.]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 13:03:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382110&title=getting-past-it#382110 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : bizzy-very true..i missed so much...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382052&title=getting-past-it#382052 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 11:47am

bizzy-very true..i missed so much too!:( ]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 11:47:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=382052&title=getting-past-it#382052 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Marisa, I know this sounds airy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381935&title=getting-past-it#381935 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 10:09am

Marisa, I know this sounds airy fairy and its not normally me but I have a really strong picture in my mind of me bridesmaid at my brother-in-laws wedding next April with a 3-4 month baby in my arms and Tom hanging on to my leg. It is a REALLY strong image and I am clinging to it with all I am worth. Whenever I get worried I think of the picture.

Sounds strange but I kinda knew I was going to MC last time and I dont expect to this time...god I hope I didnt just jinx it...picture the pic picture the pic...ok, back in happy space (oh...and its a girl????)]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 10:09:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381935&title=getting-past-it#381935 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : i didnt let myself believe i was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381926&title=getting-past-it#381926 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 10:03am

i didnt let myself believe i was going to have an actual baby till i was about 5 months pregnant ... sorry prob not what you wanted to hear. but i was in complete denial and ended up missing out on so much. but its how we cope and you will get there in your own time. if you want a mindless game i dont know about the boggle one emma mentioned but scamps have a noughts and crosses game that is a real time killer and mind number! ]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 10:03:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381926&title=getting-past-it#381926 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : i had to wait till 12 weeks and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381781&title=getting-past-it#381781 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 17149
Posted: 13 May 2008 at 7:14am

i had to wait till 12 weeks and frankly i did a crap job of trying to get through it :( i just talked to some people who knew what i had gone through eventually but initally i tried to forget it and just carry on(at work with workmate 7 weeks more pregnant than i was:( ) so in the end i talked but in the beginning i just worried my way through(wouldnt recommend it:( )

i couldnt talk about him as if he was going to be born until close to the end..! anyway if you want to talk I'm here:) ! ]]> Tue, 13 May 2008 07:14:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381781&title=getting-past-it#381781 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : I wish I had an answer to this....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381767&title=getting-past-it#381767 Author: Genie
Subject: 17149
Posted: 12 May 2008 at 11:59pm

I wish I had an answer to this. I'm definitely going well round the bend, driving myself and my husband crazy. I've been too scared to add myself to the rest of the January 09 mums, but by my dates am due 2/1/09, making me 6wks3days. I've had a very traumatic history as far as pregnancy goes, I had 6 miscarriages, and also made A Heartbreaking Choice in Dec 03, sadly this baby would not have lived to full term and we had to end the pregnancy at 21wks which was completely devastating. I am lucky enough to have 2 gorgeous healthy children. This pregnancy is a surprise, but a happy surprise (if all goes well). I've been having slight spotting the last few days, not bleeding just like staining and very slight, but enough to really throw me into a spin. I saw my dr today and he has given me a referral for a scan and HCG bloods. I will ring for the scan appt tomorrow, but I don't remember exactly when it is that the heartbeat is visible, and as for the bloods I have no idea what my HCG should be at 6 1/2 wks. I have been through all of this plenty of times before, but not for several years and I guess I didn't try to remember details. I'm just trying to stay positive and get through each day right now, and trying to ignore some of those compulsive toilet checking urges! I did get a jigsaw puzzle to try to have something to focus on without doing anything strenuous, but focus can be easier said than done. I liked what my dr said today..oh of course with such an inconvenient due date your baby will be fine ;) All the best for getting through this tough time, I truly do understand.]]> Mon, 12 May 2008 23:59:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381767&title=getting-past-it#381767 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : I guess I was lucky (if you can...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381571&title=getting-past-it#381571 Author: Maya
Subject: 17149
Posted: 12 May 2008 at 8:39pm

I guess I was lucky (if you can call it that) that we didn't lose our babe till 7 weeks, so I was able to have a scan at 6 weeks and see the heartbeat which helped to reassure me.
I did play a lot of Web Boggle in the early weeks, sorry can't remember the link but it is basically just a mindless online words game that fills in time so you don't spend it stressing out.
Good luck, I'm sure this wee one is a sticky bean!]]> Mon, 12 May 2008 20:39:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381571&title=getting-past-it#381571 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : Me who is someone who pushes everything...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381462&title=getting-past-it#381462 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 17149
Posted: 12 May 2008 at 7:43pm

Me who is someone who pushes everything away like you do. I am finding councilling really good.

]]> Mon, 12 May 2008 19:43:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381462&title=getting-past-it#381462 <![CDATA[Getting past "it" : I couldn&#039;t think of a better...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381392&title=getting-past-it#381392 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 17149
Posted: 12 May 2008 at 6:58pm

I couldn't think of a better way to word the title.
Basically what I'm talking about is getting past 6 weeks and 2 days which is when I lost the last baby. I am starting to drive myself a little nuts now. I think DH knows something is up as I don't talk about the pregnancy except to say I am sick/tired etc and if he starts talking about the baby as if it is real and is gonna be born at some point then I change subjects.

So how did you cope? My plan of ignoring it doesn't seem to be working out too well.]]> Mon, 12 May 2008 18:58:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17149&PID=381392&title=getting-past-it#381392