https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 18 Apr 2026 03:01:54 +0000 Sat, 17 May 2008 17:10:29 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=17233 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=386461&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#386461 Author: busymum
Subject: 17233
Posted: 17 May 2008 at 5:10pm

Is the new pillow too bulky? Swap it with a flat one of yours!! Then just leave it at the end of the bed or somewhere accessible and I'm sure she'll go to it in time. Relax, Janine LOL - probably what you say to mums every day ]]> Sat, 17 May 2008 17:10:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=386461&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#386461 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=386336&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#386336 Author: SMoody
Subject: 17233
Posted: 17 May 2008 at 1:49pm

I really wont worry about it. if it is due to people making you feel like crap just put one on the bed. No need for them not to know she doesnt sleep with one. ]]> Sat, 17 May 2008 13:49:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=386336&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#386336 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384944&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384944 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 9:07pm

jack has had a pillow ever since he moved into a big bed at 2yrs. but in saying that, he very rarely uses it. he snuggles down in his bed until he's away from the pillow and lies on his teddy ]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 21:07:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384944&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384944 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384178&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384178 Author: Roksana
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 12:24pm

Zaara's had a pillow since she was 1 and a bit but it is one of those really thin ones and she loves it. But occationally likes our pillow. Every child is different, she is right when she is as big as Paris she will have one!! Clever wee girl!! ]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 12:24:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384178&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384178 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384124&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384124 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:57am

I wouldn't think not having a pillow would make much of a difference? I'd just let her do what she wants.]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 11:57:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384124&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384124 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384119&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384119 Author: Maya
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:54am

I'm thinking you've hit the nail on the head with the stubborn part!
But I wouldn't worry too much, they tend to change their minds more often than they change their knickers at that age anyway so who knows what she'll want this time next week.
Maya's big thing atm is sleeping in her sleeping bag, World War III here last night when she wet it and I told her she had to have a duvet instead.]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 11:54:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384119&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384119 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384088&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384088 Author: Kellz
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:33am

I hate pillows,..I do ahve one but only ever sleep on the very edge of it,...,millions of people in the owrld dont use them, and dont have funny necks! Lol! ]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 11:33:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384088&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384088 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384081&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384081 Author: KH25
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:29am

What if you put the pillow under the bottom sheet again, and maybe not mention it to her. She won't be able to throw it out and maybe wouldn't even really notice but it would be nice and comfy???]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 11:29:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=384081&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#384081 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383997&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383997 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 10:18am

see that's the thing.. until now she's always beena kid who moves around and ends up sleeping with her head on her soft toys or her cluddly blankets all scrunched up. when she had the little pillow, we'd go to check her and she'd be lying on it, still in her blankets, nice and still and not restlessly sleeping like usual.. hence why we though "YAY!" . I dunno if she's just being her usual stubborn self calling the shots, or what.]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 10:18:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383997&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383997 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383979&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383979 Author: FionaS
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 10:03am

Ditto what the others have said. Don't they tend to move all over the bed anyway or has that stopped by 3?]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 10:03:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383979&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383979 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383973&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383973 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 9:57am

theres more damage to necks from pillows as opposed to the other way round...]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 09:57:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383973&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383973 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383906&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383906 Author: newmum
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 8:51am

Leave it I'd say. If she's happy without that's fine. I'm pretty sure that no pillow is almost better for your back (don't quote me on that though, lol).

I'm sure she'll want one some day. ]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 08:51:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383906&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383906 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383897&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383897 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 17233
Posted: 15 May 2008 at 8:43am

Ok, here we go, Paris moved into a big girl bed at 11 months, and at about 14 months we introduced a pillow (trapped underneath the bottom sheet so no suffocation could ensue)

Here's our dilema:

Ayja, has been in a cot, a convertible cot, and since about 15 months we have asked her if she would like a pillow. We have always gotten the reply of "no thankyou, no pillow" or something to that effect.

Finally about 5 days ago she decided she'd like to try one... and of course not having any suitable spare pillows, a grabbed a small square flat cushion (you know those inserts for home made ones you buy from spotlight) and put it in a pillowcase.

She has used that, and liked it, and seemingly actually slept better having something nice to snuggle into - as opposed to turning upside down in her bed, bunching her sheets up like a pillow and sleeping that way - which is how we had often found her previously.

So, of course, wanting to be humane, and get her a real pillow, no just a dolly-size pitiful excuse for a pillow, we went out yesterday and got her a normal one, made from the same stuff, the same thickness, just a little more pillow-shaped.

Within an hour when i went to check on her, it was on the floor. I went to put it back and was told she hated it, she didn't want a pillow. Ok, so i left her to go back to sleep.

I then snuck in there before i went to bed, and again asked her, to which i was told no. So i went and got the 'ol faithful little tiny pitiful pillow again, and snuck that under her head while she was asleep.

this morning, both are on the floor. I asked her and she said that nope- she didn't want a pillow, NOT EVEN the tiny little one. AT ALL.

She reckons that "when she's a big girl like Paris, she'll have a pillow" She's 10 days away from being 3, I feel horrible for the fact that up until this point (not that it's my choice) she hasn't had one. We have people visit and say "doesn't she have a pillow?" as if i am a mean mum who won't give her one!

Do i push the issue? or do i give her time. I mean it doesn't bother me too much, just the fact that she sleeps better with one and is obviously more rested.

Have i left it too late to really try and introduce one? and also, is there any damage to be done etc by her not having one?

stupid dilema i know

any ideas?]]> Thu, 15 May 2008 08:43:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17233&PID=383897&title=to-pillow-or-not-to-pillow#383897