https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:11:55 +0000 Sun, 29 Jun 2008 16:47:51 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18651 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426993&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426993 Author: nztui
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Posted: 29 June 2008 at 4:47pm

I was so sorry to read about your loss vanillabean.
Sending you lots of hugs!]]> Sun, 29 Jun 2008 16:47:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426993&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426993 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426708&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426708 Author: FionaS
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 9:57pm

Big hugs. Like the others said, take some time and take the TTC pressure off yourself. You will know when you are ready to TTC again. After my 2 miscarriages I was dead set against TTC for a while but slowly but surely i'm feeling ready. Time doesn't erase hurt but it does help you regain your strength and move forward.

Thinking of you.]]> Sat, 28 Jun 2008 21:57:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426708&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426708 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426700&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426700 Author: NeoshasMummy
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 9:41pm


After going through reoccurant miscarriages myself I understand your pain. Time out may be a good thing. Take care of yourself though chicky!]]> Sat, 28 Jun 2008 21:41:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426700&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426700 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426632&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426632 Author: Huggles
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 8:01pm

Vanillabean.. I feel for you. Hope that you are doing okay and spending quality time with DH. Take as much time as you like to make sure that you are in the right mental frame of mind. Good luck babe

]]> Sat, 28 Jun 2008 20:01:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426632&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426632 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426333&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426333 Author: Shadowdance
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 11:53am

I remember one day going online after our third loss feeling like 'why bother' someone up there obviously hates me and I'm just going to keep being punished for something. (hey after a miscarriage you're not always feeling logical)

A woman online had been through something like 13 miscarriages and was still trying. I asked her how she kept going and her comment to me was

Through all the pain, the need never dies.....

It was a very basic statement but one that has never left my mind and I still hold her in total awe.]]> Sat, 28 Jun 2008 11:53:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426333&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426333 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426157&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426157 Author: Genie
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Posted: 28 June 2008 at 12:32am

I'm really sorry for your losses, I know how difficult it is. I suffered losses before each of my 2 living children, as well as this pregnancy, they all devastated me and each time I didn't have successful pregnancies until I had decided there was more to life than ttc and I wanted to focus on something else..then each time - wham pregnant and with a happy outcome. Take care of yourself.]]> Sat, 28 Jun 2008 00:32:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426157&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426157 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426121&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426121 Author: Bizzy
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 11:13pm

sucky, you take as much time as you need/want.


Edited by Bizzy]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 23:13:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426121&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426121 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426105&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426105 Author: Mama2two
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 10:22pm

Vanillabean - I am so sorry to hear that this has happened to you twice in a row. There is no rush with this process though so if you can't imagine trying again then wait until you can.
I had 2 m/c's in a row reasonably close together, gave it a break and then the next pregnancy resulted in my DD.

Big 's to you.]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 22:22:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426105&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426105 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426071&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426071 Author: cuppatea
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 9:48pm

Some time out is probably a good idea, take care.]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 21:48:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426071&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426071 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426046&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426046 Author: katie1
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 9:31pm

Am so sorry too. Look after yourself. ]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 21:31:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=426046&title=courage-to-keep-trying#426046 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425956&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425956 Author: peanut butter
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 8:23pm

Oh Vanillabean I am so gutted to see you back over here.  Big hugs.  Take some time to spoil yourself!!!]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 20:23:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425956&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425956 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425936&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425936 Author: mummyofprinces
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 7:57pm

Oh vanillabean, honey I am so sorry.

Big hugs!!!!!]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 19:57:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425936&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425936 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425914&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425914 Author: Snickerdoodle
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 7:25pm

vanillabean

I said it in another thread, but I'm really sorry for your loss.

You'll know when it's the right time to start trying again.
Taking time to grieve is important ]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 19:25:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425914&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425914 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425902&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425902 Author: Vanillabean
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Posted: 27 June 2008 at 7:05pm

So here I am back here for the second time this year and I find have so much respect for people with recurrent losses who keep trucking on.

Last time I wanted to get back on the horse straight away but this time I can't even imagine going back to ttc right now. I guess its not a bad thing but I think I am going to take a little time out to grieve this time around.

Wish it really was the stork that brought babies, it would be so much more straight forward.

The ttc journey is full of so many twists and turns.]]> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 19:05:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18651&PID=425902&title=courage-to-keep-trying#425902