OHbaby! Forums : Sex after a c-section https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 03 Apr 2026 17:52:13 +0000 Sun, 21 Jun 2009 11:37:34 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=25086 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : It wasnt too bad, was armed with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=706476&title=sex-after-a-csection#706476 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 25086
Posted: 21 June 2009 at 11:37am

It wasnt too bad, was armed with plenty of lube. It did hurt, but I was prepared for that.

I think after a few more rounds we should be back to normal.]]> Sun, 21 Jun 2009 11:37:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=706476&title=sex-after-a-csection#706476 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : I was told by the docs to wait...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=697580&title=sex-after-a-csection#697580 Author: Mum2L
Subject: 25086
Posted: 29 May 2009 at 10:42pm

I was told by the docs to wait 6 months PP until DH and I even attempt to BD, due to the horrid recovery I had during thr first 6 weeks PP.

We did try it once at 4 months PP, and it too sore. We didn't even do the whole hog, and I couldn't believe how tight everything was, even though we used a tonne of lubrication. And I think all of the oxytocin that whizzes around your body when you are breastfeeding desensitises everything down there ]]> Fri, 29 May 2009 22:42:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=697580&title=sex-after-a-csection#697580 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : I remember asking my MW at 2 weeks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=675599&title=sex-after-a-csection#675599 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 25086
Posted: 01 May 2009 at 2:53pm

I remember asking my MW at 2 weeks when I could BD again and she looked suprised to say the least lol! I think we did it at 4 weeks as per MW instructions and it was fine although a bit tight and definitely needed the lube.

ETA: To clarify the MW instructions related to the timeframe not the actual act lol

Edited by Bobbie]]> Fri, 01 May 2009 14:53:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=675599&title=sex-after-a-csection#675599 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Oh god, I am petrified now! Not...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=672018&title=sex-after-a-csection#672018 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 25086
Posted: 27 April 2009 at 3:33pm

Oh god, I am petrified now! Not that I have any desire to be getting busy right now, I certainly will be making sure I have some lube handy before we go down that road again.]]> Mon, 27 Apr 2009 15:33:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=672018&title=sex-after-a-csection#672018 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Yes i rember it hurting after...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=667305&title=sex-after-a-csection#667305 Author: jacobsmummy
Subject: 25086
Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:39am

Yes i rember it hurting after after c-section we waited 5wks before doing it.]]> Wed, 22 Apr 2009 08:39:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=667305&title=sex-after-a-csection#667305 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : LOL @ &#034;dedication to the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=642125&title=sex-after-a-csection#642125 Author: toniellis
Subject: 25086
Posted: 22 March 2009 at 1:35pm

LOL @ "dedication to the cause" that is SUCH a brilliant way to put it!!
On a more serious note, good that it is coming right. Something that is often a problem which I forgot to mention is that it is natural after childbirth for down there to tighten up because with normal birth it has to... When you have a c-section your body still "tightens up" even though Bubs has not actually gone through the birth canal.....IYKWIM? Also a common thing also to happen is a lack of self lubrication... ]]> Sun, 22 Mar 2009 13:35:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=642125&title=sex-after-a-csection#642125 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : It turns out, it just needed some...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=642064&title=sex-after-a-csection#642064 Author: ginger
Subject: 25086
Posted: 22 March 2009 at 12:22pm

It turns out, it just needed some dedication to the cause I'm not sure what the cause was/is, but it's gradually coming right.

Thanks so much everyone for your feedback - I really appreciate(d) it!]]> Sun, 22 Mar 2009 12:22:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=642064&title=sex-after-a-csection#642064 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : I had no issues with this and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=641862&title=sex-after-a-csection#641862 Author: Lulu
Subject: 25086
Posted: 21 March 2009 at 9:55pm

I had no issues with this and got back on the 'horse' early days... sorry if TMI - I would check it out with your ob Ginger for sure.]]> Sat, 21 Mar 2009 21:55:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=641862&title=sex-after-a-csection#641862 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : i would think if it hurt that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=639891&title=sex-after-a-csection#639891 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 25086
Posted: 19 March 2009 at 1:02pm

i would think if it hurt that much then it something may not be right... i dont recall having that much pain during sex after any of my births, including the caesar.]]> Thu, 19 Mar 2009 13:02:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=639891&title=sex-after-a-csection#639891 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Okay it SHOULDN&#039;T hurt unless...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=638933&title=sex-after-a-csection#638933 Author: toniellis
Subject: 25086
Posted: 18 March 2009 at 1:57pm

Okay it SHOULDN'T hurt unless you are talking about the wound where you were cut open With my first c-section I was enthusiastically doing the wild thang about 2 weeks after, no pain etc. My second c-section was only about 10 days after.... Actually after my natural birth it was about a week or 10 days too.


Thats probably why I had 3 kids 3 & under...

Anywya I would get a check out, with your doctor or maybe a gynaecologist. It don't think it should be like that at all.]]> Wed, 18 Mar 2009 13:57:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=638933&title=sex-after-a-csection#638933 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Lol Nikki, so you had a few drinks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=638177&title=sex-after-a-csection#638177 Author: Glow
Subject: 25086
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 5:27pm

Lol Nikki, so you had a few drinks last night ]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:27:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=638177&title=sex-after-a-csection#638177 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : phew...didnt hurt! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=638020&title=sex-after-a-csection#638020 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 25086
Posted: 17 March 2009 at 2:47pm

phew...didnt hurt!]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2009 14:47:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=638020&title=sex-after-a-csection#638020 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Nope wasnt sore for me at all....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=637598&title=sex-after-a-csection#637598 Author: SMoody
Subject: 25086
Posted: 16 March 2009 at 9:54pm

Nope wasnt sore for me at all. I bled for 6 weeks then got period so we only did it at about 8 or 9 weeks but wasnt sore at all. We were super careful of the c-section area and took things slowly but never once hurted. ]]> Mon, 16 Mar 2009 21:54:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=637598&title=sex-after-a-csection#637598 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : lilfatty wrote:Gah .. I recall...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632985&title=sex-after-a-csection#632985 Author: busymum
Subject: 25086
Posted: 10 March 2009 at 7:02pm

Originally posted by lilfatty lilfatty wrote:

Gah .. I recall it hurting after Issy .. although I also recall getting pg again .. so it cant of been that bad


*has similar recollections*

]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:02:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632985&title=sex-after-a-csection#632985 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : We had sex 3 months after Caden...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632379&title=sex-after-a-csection#632379 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 9:03pm

We had sex 3 months after Caden and it was fine

Dont be scared, it doesnt hurt for everyone, it just takes some time for things tog et back to normal down there.]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:03:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632379&title=sex-after-a-csection#632379 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : It was a little sore after the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632239&title=sex-after-a-csection#632239 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 7:03pm

It was a little sore after the c/s but did come right after not very long, just use lots of lube to start with especially if breastfeeding as that dries you out (as my mw so nicely put it).

It's hurt more this time around after a 2nd degree tear and episiotomy So much so that we have only attempted it that one time and I had to get DH to stop. I will be talking to the doc next week when I have my IUD fitted, although really with this kind of pain there is no need for any contraception. I had an internal that hurt before we had sex but I just figured that I had got a nurse that was a bit heavy handed.

Ginger I would talk to your doc if it's that painful as I don't think it is normal, is why I shall be having the embarrassing chat myself.]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 19:03:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632239&title=sex-after-a-csection#632239 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : The thought of getting pregnant...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632127&title=sex-after-a-csection#632127 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 4:23pm

The thought of getting pregnant again is putting me off somewhat]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:23:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632127&title=sex-after-a-csection#632127 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : My tummy muscles were what hurt...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632120&title=sex-after-a-csection#632120 Author: LeahandJoel
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 4:16pm

My tummy muscles were what hurt me the most, after everything being cut, that took a long time for me to heal enough to want to go there. All my other bits were fine and if my belly hadn't been so sore....DH would have got lucky a lot sooner than he did!!!

]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:16:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632120&title=sex-after-a-csection#632120 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Gah .. I recall it hurting after...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632101&title=sex-after-a-csection#632101 Author: lilfatty
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 3:56pm

Gah .. I recall it hurting after Issy .. although I also recall getting pg again .. so it cant of been that bad ]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:56:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632101&title=sex-after-a-csection#632101 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : very sore for me too.. but maybe...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632095&title=sex-after-a-csection#632095 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 3:51pm

very sore for me too.. but maybe the case of not much use during pregnancy..lol:) and labour first not sure if that makes everything sorer? in our case didn't take long to be ok though

Edited by foxxy_one]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:51:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632095&title=sex-after-a-csection#632095 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : I thought after a c-sec you could...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632056&title=sex-after-a-csection#632056 Author: Glow
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 3:12pm

I thought after a c-sec you could get back into it straight away I had a week off BUT yep def need KY or some other lube to avoid the friction burn

Edited by Glow]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:12:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632056&title=sex-after-a-csection#632056 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Oh you so know that with a subject...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632039&title=sex-after-a-csection#632039 Author: weegee
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 2:53pm

Oh you so know that with a subject like this there'll be way TMI in here, so I'm not even going to warn you

Originally posted by nzpiper nzpiper wrote:

I figured since we still had the designer v......a


LOL!

I just wanted to say, we were naughty and were back at it only 3 weeks after my c section, and it was really good So not eveyone has the same problem!

Hugs to those of you that do though

Come to think of it we were still... y'know... up to a week before JJ arrived so maybe it's not the c section itself so much as a period of abstinence combined with all the ligaments etc streching iykwim?]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 14:53:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=632039&title=sex-after-a-csection#632039 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : It just felt like virginity again...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631966&title=sex-after-a-csection#631966 Author: busymum
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 1:48pm

It just felt like virginity again for me, basically, so after a couple of times I was back into the swing of it. I put it down to good muscles lol. We also use KY jelly until things come back to normal as well.

Incidentally, it's worse after a VB because you are swollen and sometimes stitched as well. We first did it 4 weeks after H was born (c/s) but 7-8 weeks after the other two (VB)!]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:48:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631966&title=sex-after-a-csection#631966 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : Eeek! you have all scared me....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631937&title=sex-after-a-csection#631937 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 1:13pm

Eeek! you have all scared me.  just been googling and it seems EVERYONE has this problem following c-sections.  I must admit, my smear hurt a little when OB put the speculum in.  Said it was due to lack of oestrogen with breastfeeding so maybe thats it.

 

Maybe I need to express off some bottles and then have a few drinks first

]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:13:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631937&title=sex-after-a-csection#631937 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : TMI i was ready in mind about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631850&title=sex-after-a-csection#631850 Author: palomino
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:44am

TMI i was ready in mind about 1mth afterwards. tried and hurt so bad has put me off for a long time. still not ready yet. it hurts a little now, and can only last about 5mins before it too sore. So DF has to really be begging for it before i give in lol. ]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 11:44:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631850&title=sex-after-a-csection#631850 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : I havent tried yet as only finally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631837&title=sex-after-a-csection#631837 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:33am

I havent tried yet as only finally stopped bleeding last week and MIL was here.  Was thinking of "treating" DH but now you have me scared.  What hurts???? I figured since we still had the designer v......a  it would be ok.

 

 

]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 11:33:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631837&title=sex-after-a-csection#631837 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : yeah i had that too, it took about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631836&title=sex-after-a-csection#631836 Author: Kazzle
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:32am

yeah i had that too, it took about 3 months for it to stop hurting like that, and then another 3 months before there was no discomfort at all.

although i have since found out it shouldnt be like that, but it also hurts me majorily when i have internal exams etc....maybe its something to talk to the midwife, specialist, doctor about]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 11:32:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631836&title=sex-after-a-csection#631836 <![CDATA[Sex after a c-section : I understood that sex can be uncomfortable/painful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631824&title=sex-after-a-csection#631824 Author: ginger
Subject: 25086
Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:13am

I understood that sex can be uncomfortable/painful after a c-section when you first venture back down that road but I've gotten a bit of a shock at exactly how painful it is. 'Uncomfortable' doesn't really describe it!

For those of you who have experienced this - does it take very long to come right? I'm a bit terrified just quietly - it was really teeth-clenching/lip biting/brough tears to my eyes and not in a good way!]]> Mon, 09 Mar 2009 11:13:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25086&PID=631824&title=sex-after-a-csection#631824