OHbaby! Forums : Remembering Marci Grace https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:58:17 +0000 Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:03:08 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=30351 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=912315&title=remembering-marci-grace#912315 Author: febbabe
Subject: 30351
Posted: 26 January 2010 at 9:03pm

]]> Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:03:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=912315&title=remembering-marci-grace#912315 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Marci&#039;s story is beautiful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=901585&title=remembering-marci-grace#901585 Author: JodyR
Subject: 30351
Posted: 19 January 2010 at 6:08am

Marci's story is beautiful and very sad. She does indeed have beautiful little hands. I can appreciate what you say about her telling you her name too, that happened to me with all three of my babies, including when Ally was stillborn. It wasn't a name we had considered, although Alistair was discussed briefly, but it just came right to us as being the right one at the point just before he was born. I'm so sorry for your loss, I can just picture her as you describe her, the type of little girl she would have been. When I think of Ally I see him as tall, red hair, sporty and Elisabeth (her middle name is also Grace) as being a bit of a tomboy, taking no nonsense, clever and wanting to work with animals. I admire your strength in sharing this will everyone so soon and Marci's story is one I won't forget. xx]]> Tue, 19 Jan 2010 06:08:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=901585&title=remembering-marci-grace#901585 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : KW - I think of you and Marci...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=886982&title=remembering-marci-grace#886982 Author: Caro07
Subject: 30351
Posted: 05 January 2010 at 9:52pm

KW - I think of you and Marci often and feel really privileged to have shared your journey together. I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you and your family are all looking after each other.

You have both influenced many lives in ways you will never know and Marci will never be forgotten. Thinking of you all ]]> Tue, 05 Jan 2010 21:52:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=886982&title=remembering-marci-grace#886982 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Like most others I have tears...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=883782&title=remembering-marci-grace#883782 Author: Roses are Red
Subject: 30351
Posted: 02 January 2010 at 9:08pm

Like most others I have tears streaming down my cheeks as I read the story of your little girls fight - both you and Marci have shown great strength and courage and my thoughts are with you and your family as you try to find a way to live with the void she has left in your life.
]]> Sat, 02 Jan 2010 21:08:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=883782&title=remembering-marci-grace#883782 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : With tears streaming i dont Know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=876627&title=remembering-marci-grace#876627 Author: julz85
Subject: 30351
Posted: 22 December 2009 at 3:37pm

With tears streaming i dont Know quite what to say , your story has touched my heart , Thank you for sharing this story about your Amazing wee Marci . My heart goes out to you and your family ]]> Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:37:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=876627&title=remembering-marci-grace#876627 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Margo, thank you so much for sharing...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=872235&title=remembering-marci-grace#872235 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 30351
Posted: 17 December 2009 at 12:49pm

Margo, thank you so much for sharing a time in your life that was very precious and heartbreaking all at the same time. You obviously had such a strong bond with Marci, and whilst I felt so sad reading your story it made me smile thinking about the games she would play with you and how she showed you her personality. What an amazing little girl and although she grew wings and decided to not stay in this life for long she will touch many through your amazing story. Thank you for sharing the photos, seeing her little fingers, they are so beautiful - what a treasure she was. Thank you for allowing us to share in your journey with Marci. ]]> Thu, 17 Dec 2009 12:49:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=872235&title=remembering-marci-grace#872235 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Oh Margo, I am so sorry for the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=871792&title=remembering-marci-grace#871792 Author: EmDee
Subject: 30351
Posted: 16 December 2009 at 8:40pm

Oh Margo, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious wee girl Marci

Thank you for sharing her story and some of her photos ]]> Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:40:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=871792&title=remembering-marci-grace#871792 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : this is about the 5th time Ive...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=871696&title=remembering-marci-grace#871696 Author: Andriea
Subject: 30351
Posted: 16 December 2009 at 6:43pm

this is about the 5th time Ive been on here wanting to leave you some words of comfort, but each time i just cant think of anything that would make you feel any better

so I will say, Im thinking of you and your family and I too thank you for sharing your story. Marci has the most beautiful hands truly gorgeous.]]> Wed, 16 Dec 2009 18:43:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=871696&title=remembering-marci-grace#871696 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thankyou for sharing ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=869455&title=remembering-marci-grace#869455 Author: susieq
Subject: 30351
Posted: 14 December 2009 at 12:18pm

Thankyou for sharing]]> Mon, 14 Dec 2009 12:18:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=869455&title=remembering-marci-grace#869455 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Margo, by sharing your story,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=866784&title=remembering-marci-grace#866784 Author: Zaylah
Subject: 30351
Posted: 10 December 2009 at 5:52pm

Margo, by sharing your story, you have brought comfort to others who have or will go through a similar experience. I cannot even imagine how hard it must have been for you to write that.

And your gorgeous baby Marci has brought immense love and care into the world and this forum - with everyone's heart feeling for you and yours.

You are both very admirable, and it is unbelievable how someone so small as Marci, has touched this many lives.

Our thoughts, love, and hugs, are with you not just today, but every day. xxx]]> Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:52:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=866784&title=remembering-marci-grace#866784 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : So sorry for your loss, my thoughts...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=866429&title=remembering-marci-grace#866429 Author: LeahandJoel
Subject: 30351
Posted: 10 December 2009 at 1:09pm

So sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family.

]]> Thu, 10 Dec 2009 13:09:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=866429&title=remembering-marci-grace#866429 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Im not sure where you find such...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=866309&title=remembering-marci-grace#866309 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 30351
Posted: 10 December 2009 at 11:28am

Im not sure where you find such strength, but wow, what an amazing woman you are, what an amazing Mum. And baby girl, rest in peace and love, you chose the perfect Mummy to celebrate your memory xx]]> Thu, 10 Dec 2009 11:28:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=866309&title=remembering-marci-grace#866309 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thanks for sharing. I&#039;m thinking...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=865075&title=remembering-marci-grace#865075 Author: shadowfeet
Subject: 30351
Posted: 09 December 2009 at 11:23am

 Thanks for sharing. I'm thinking of you and your family at this very sad time

]]> Wed, 09 Dec 2009 11:23:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=865075&title=remembering-marci-grace#865075 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Margo what an amazing woman you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=864986&title=remembering-marci-grace#864986 Author: maudie23
Subject: 30351
Posted: 09 December 2009 at 10:05am

Margo what an amazing woman you are. Marci was so beautiful and so very much loved by you and all your family.
I send you lots of hugs and strength through ths really hard time.
Marci had the most precious wee hands. Fly with the angles now sweetie.
One day you will hold you wee Marci again until then hold her very close to your heart.

Thinking of you and sending you love]]> Wed, 09 Dec 2009 10:05:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=864986&title=remembering-marci-grace#864986 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thank you for sharing your story...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=863355&title=remembering-marci-grace#863355 Author: NZ-rules
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 6:17pm

Thank you for sharing your story Margo. I had been quietly following Marci's progress and hoping that she'd have the strength to pull through. Your strength through this has been amazing and I hope you and your family get through this difficult time now that Marci is at peace ]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:17:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=863355&title=remembering-marci-grace#863355 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : minik8e wrote: Aliasmum wrote:With...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862977&title=remembering-marci-grace#862977 Author: Emmi_
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 1:16pm

Originally posted by minik8e minik8e wrote:

Originally posted by Aliasmum Aliasmum wrote:

With tears in my eyes, I admire the strength & acceptance that shines through your writing.


Ditto. I have no other words (I tried to find them but couldn't), except that my thoughts are with you and your family at this time.


Me too. Although my tears are streaming...
What a gorgeous wee girl Marci is. She is amazing, just like her mum.]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:16:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862977&title=remembering-marci-grace#862977 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : That is probably the most beautifully...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862955&title=remembering-marci-grace#862955 Author: clover
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 12:59pm

That is probably the most beautifully written thing I have ever read. Rest in Peace Marci, your time on earth was short but so very meaningful.]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:59:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862955&title=remembering-marci-grace#862955 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : a very beautiful story. Thank...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862944&title=remembering-marci-grace#862944 Author: NikkiB
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 12:50pm

a very beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. My thoughts are with you and your family ]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:50:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862944&title=remembering-marci-grace#862944 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thats just beautiful. Thanks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862902&title=remembering-marci-grace#862902 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 12:13pm

Thats just beautiful. Thanks for sharing that ]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:13:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862902&title=remembering-marci-grace#862902 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thank you for sharing xxx ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862821&title=remembering-marci-grace#862821 Author: Bumble
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 11:23am



Thank you for sharing xxx]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 11:23:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862821&title=remembering-marci-grace#862821 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : There is still so much I wish...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862746&title=remembering-marci-grace#862746 Author: Paws
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 10:04am

There is still so much I wish I could say or write but I just still can't seem to put it into words to either you or Marci. I'll settle for saying thank you for letting me part of her journey and short life, she won't be forgotten.

xxx]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 10:04:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862746&title=remembering-marci-grace#862746 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thankyou for sharing your journey....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862718&title=remembering-marci-grace#862718 Author: emz
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 9:38am

Thankyou for sharing your journey. I have no words, but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you at this hard time.]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 09:38:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862718&title=remembering-marci-grace#862718 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862710&title=remembering-marci-grace#862710 Author: lemongirl
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 9:31am

]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 09:31:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862710&title=remembering-marci-grace#862710 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Wow, I don&#039;t know what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862701&title=remembering-marci-grace#862701 Author: cuppatea
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 9:18am



Wow, I don't know what to say. Thanks for sharing and I think Marci is a beautiful name for your perfect little angel.

]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 09:18:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862701&title=remembering-marci-grace#862701 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : thinking of you and your wonderful...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862683&title=remembering-marci-grace#862683 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 9:06am

thinking of you and your wonderful angel..what a magical time parts of the pregnancy were and what a wonderfully worded account of your truly hard journey...

thinking of you

Edited by Four_eyes]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 09:06:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862683&title=remembering-marci-grace#862683 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Aww I have tears streaming!! What...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862611&title=remembering-marci-grace#862611 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 30351
Posted: 07 December 2009 at 12:08am

Aww I have tears streaming!! What a beautiful story, thanks for sharing and having the strength to share with us. Thinking of you and your family during this sad time hun

Rest in Peace beautiful little Marci Grace ]]> Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:08:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862611&title=remembering-marci-grace#862611 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Wow! Thanks for sharing your journey...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862604&title=remembering-marci-grace#862604 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 10:46pm

Wow! Thanks for sharing your journey Hugs to you at this time, for your angel xxxx]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 22:46:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862604&title=remembering-marci-grace#862604 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Huge hugs to you and your family....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862586&title=remembering-marci-grace#862586 Author: FionaS
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 9:54pm

Huge hugs to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your story & your courage. DH & I are thinking of you.

Edited by FionaS]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 21:54:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862586&title=remembering-marci-grace#862586 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : to you and your family Margo. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862577&title=remembering-marci-grace#862577 Author: tishy
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 9:49pm

to you and your family Margo. ]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 21:49:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862577&title=remembering-marci-grace#862577 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Aliasmum wrote:With tears in...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862552&title=remembering-marci-grace#862552 Author: minik8e
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 9:19pm

Originally posted by Aliasmum Aliasmum wrote:

With tears in my eyes, I admire the strength & acceptance that shines through your writing.


Ditto. I have no other words (I tried to find them but couldn't), except that my thoughts are with you and your family at this time.]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 21:19:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862552&title=remembering-marci-grace#862552 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : wow, what a heartbreaking but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862551&title=remembering-marci-grace#862551 Author: Kazzle
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 9:18pm

wow, what a heartbreaking but heartwarming story all at once.

I really dont know what to say, so i will jsut send you big hugs, and fly with angel wings little Marci]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 21:18:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862551&title=remembering-marci-grace#862551 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : With tears in my eyes, I admire...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862545&title=remembering-marci-grace#862545 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 9:10pm

With tears in my eyes, I admire the strength & acceptance that shines through your writing.]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 21:10:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862545&title=remembering-marci-grace#862545 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Margo It&#039;s always so sad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862538&title=remembering-marci-grace#862538 Author: FreeSpirit
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 9:04pm

Margo It's always so sad when angels fly home.]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 21:04:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862538&title=remembering-marci-grace#862538 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thank you for sharing your story...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862527&title=remembering-marci-grace#862527 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 8:56pm

Thank you for sharing your story of your beautiful girl My thoughts are with you and your family xx]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:56:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862527&title=remembering-marci-grace#862527 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thank you for sharing your story...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862516&title=remembering-marci-grace#862516 Author: X
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 8:51pm

Thank you for sharing your story Margo.

Little Marci truly touched so many people in so many ways-I will never forget her, or forget you for your strength & hope throughout this time. All along although I knew the prognosis was poor I kept hoping & praying for a miracle. I guess sometimes the miracles turn out to be the hope & strength that these tribulations inspire in people.

Although Marci only spent a short while here on earth she will be remembered for ever. I am sure she is watching over her family & one day you will all be reunited & you will get to hold her again.

Sending you big hugs & I hope that in time the hole in your heart gets smaller. ]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:51:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862516&title=remembering-marci-grace#862516 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Thank you for sharing Marci&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862508&title=remembering-marci-grace#862508 Author: Freesia
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 8:47pm

Thank you for sharing Marci's story with us. I had been quietly following her journey and she has touched my heart as well. What a truely amazing little girl

My thoughts are also with you and your family ]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:47:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862508&title=remembering-marci-grace#862508 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Beautiful Margo , my thoughts...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862486&title=remembering-marci-grace#862486 Author: mothersinstinct
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 8:31pm

Beautiful Margo , my thoughts have been with you and your family as we remember Marci and how she touched many hearts . ]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:31:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862486&title=remembering-marci-grace#862486 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Such a beautiful story. She touched...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862479&title=remembering-marci-grace#862479 Author: RicKer
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 8:28pm

Such a beautiful story. She touched so many hearts and will be greatly missed. My thoughts are with you Margo and your family.

Rest peacfully little Marci ]]> Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:28:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862479&title=remembering-marci-grace#862479 <![CDATA[Remembering Marci Grace : Marci Grace was born Wednesday,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30351&PID=862452&title=remembering-marci-grace#862452 Author: KiwiWonder
Subject: 30351
Posted: 06 December 2009 at 8:02pm

Marci Grace was born Wednesday, December 2, 2009 at 5:20pm after a fairly straightforward induction, and roughly 5 hours of active labour.

A scan on Nov 25th (at 21 weeks gestation) picked up that she had died in utero, and after time for arrangements etc was allowed, the induction was scheduled.

As indicated on the scans, she was born hugely swollen (for what she ’should’ be) and many of her features were indistinguishable. That said, she had absolutely perfect palms and feet, and perfectly formed little ears and mouth as well. She weighed 480g.

A service to farewell her was held today.

I was going to attempt to speak at Marci’s farewell, but I didn’t. Partially I chickened out… but mostly I just couldn’t put words together coherently in a way that would make sense to everyone.

not to mention I don’t like admitting pain, or particularly sharing the depth of it.

my pregnancy with marci was fraught with distress and worry. Truly, there was no time in which I was fully excited about the pregnancy. First there was the wee shock of the pregnancy as the timing was not 100% planned (tho even from the beginning she was very wanted, she just set her own schedule). Plus as I’ve had a previous miscarriage (despite a healthy pregnancy in between) I know it’s not fully ’safe’ to get all the hopes up in that first trimester. I did tell quite a few people early on, but most of the people either would help support me through a miscarriage should it happen, or at least would understand and not be insensitive.

what I didn’t tell many people was that I was fully expecting to miscarry. and it’s really hard to put into words my exact feelings about it all, because I know paranoia after a miscarriage is completely normal. My pregnancy with Katerina was directly after a miscarriage, with no cycle in between – but from day one with her I *knew* she was sticking around. Call it a gut feeling, or mother’s instinct. I didn’t have anything of the sort with Marci’s pregnancy – really, I think I knew all along that she would not be here for long.

she made herself known, though. with my previous miscarriage, I felt nothing. It may well have been what they unhelpfully term a ‘chemical pregnancy’, because I did not feel a soul hanging around me, and I had no pregnancy symptoms other than a missing period and a positive HPT. Of course I grieved when I miscarried, but it was grieving possibilities rather than definites, the loss of hopes and dreams and what might have been.

marci was different entirely. I tested with her before I was due for AF because I was feeling very pregnant, although not with anything concrete. It was more that gut feeling again. My sleep went to hell (which it did with Katerina too) and I was peeing all the time and my tastes had changed, tho no strong cravings or aversions. and I just knew, and got a positive HPT straight away.

marci’s was my roughest pregnancy too. it’s the only one in which I’ve actually thrown up (though I had mild morning sickness with both Zamara and Katerina). I had fairly severe fatigue, incredibly sore breasts (more than my other two girls combined) achy, shifty joints, ligament pain that wouldn’t let me twist hardly at all, and a finicky tummy. (not aversions as such, just would be halfway through a meal and get the omg-stop-eating-*now* feeling). although I definitely had the urge to nest, I never got the burst of energy that’s meant to go with it, just a slight lessening of the fatigue of before.

marci’s was also a magical pregnancy too. from very early on with her, I was ’seeing things’. That feeling of having something / someone move right at the edge of your peripheral vision – but when you turn to look, nothing’s there. It wasn’t so much an ‘I’m being watched’ feeling, but it was a definite feeling of presence. Really, it was as if someone was playing hide-n-seek with me but cheating in a friendly way.

Marci is not a name I would pick, myself, it’s not at all in the style I tend to prefer. But she told me that was her name. I decided to find her a name once we were given a tentative diagnosis. I wanted something meaningful but not tacky. My first thought was ‘Faith’ but in reading stories of others I found faith was a common name for babies that didn’t survive, and it didn’t feel right naming a still living fetus that. I looked for related names (in meaning) and found Mercy. I hadn’t decided on it at all, was just kicking it around in my head so to speak. But I found every time I thought about it, it came out ‘Marci’ and not ‘Mercy’ – including the spelling. After about two days of that I accepted she was trying to tell me something, and I wasn’t going to fight it. I then thought to look up ‘Marci’ and discovered it meant ‘war-like’. To me that was both more optimistic, and more appropriate, than the meaning of Mercy. Grace, her middle name, was automatic – my babies middle names always have been. (I don’t know why – but I don’t question it, either)

In utero Marci was incredibly quiet. I’ve had anterior placentas with all three of my girls, and never felt movements before about 17 weeks, but even after that with marci I felt very little movement. She did like to rest in such a way that, when I was lying down, it was like she was trying to poke out of my womb – I’d get a hard and definite lump on my right side (always the right) that was often uncomfortable. That trick babies (out of the womb) have of falling asleep on the parent when the parent is in THE most uncomfortable position – marci had that in utero.

I hired a doppler when I was about 16 weeks pregnant with her, as the prognosis given by scans were consistently getting worse, and I wanted to have a better idea of when and if she left. I felt a bit like I was spying on her. She got back at me by routinely hiding from it. Only about half the time could I get a strong enough heartbeat that the doppler would give me a BPM reading – most of the other half of the time, I could hear a clear heartbeat myself, but it sounded like it was coming from a distance. I never worried in those instances, because it was clearly a fetal heart beat – but she established a pattern of this ‘hiding’ from the doppler. There were several times I couldn’t find her heartbeat at all, but would try again later and usually find it quickly then. It wasn’t that she wanted me to worry I think… she just liked to keep me on my toes.

I knew roughly when she passed. It wasn’t a lack of movement, because she moved very little and it wasn’t at all uncommon to go a full day with no definite movements. The night before, I’d checked on her and gotten one of the quickest (in terms of speed of finding it) and clearest readings I’d gotten yet. It had been a really good day in general, and I went to bed feeling content and loved. As I lie in bed I thought about how every day I got a good reading on the doppler, I felt a little bit more hope that if she made it through this day, she could make it through the next, and so on. I talked to her that night, which I rarely did out loud. I told her that if she needed to go, she was free to – that I didn’t want her struggling and hanging on just for my sake. I told her that I did very much want her here with me – but that if that wasn’t meant to be I would accept it. And then I fell asleep and didn’t think on it. Until the next night, when I couldn’t find a heartbeat at all. As I put away the doppler, resolved to try again in the morning, I knew. I’m not sure if she’d actually gone then, or if she left overnight – but it was in that time period she left. Before when I couldn’t find the heartbeat, my first inclination was that she was hiding from me. This time… I knew this was it. That was the Sunday night / Monday morning. On Wednesday I had my next scan, which confirmed that her heart had stopped.

Since her spirit left her body, I haven’t had her toying with me in my peripheral vision. There were several times her body shifted in utero, which was mildly disconcerting, but she never again was pushing against my right side like a cat nudging to say hello.

My sense of Marci, from what she showed me in pregnancy, was that she would have been a truly awesome little girl. She had quite a different personality to either of her sisters, but I think would have meshed well. She would have loved hide-n-seek games, and lighthearted trickery such as ‘made ya look!’.

Her wee swollen body spoke of struggle. Her spirit speaks of play and strength.



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