OHbaby! Forums : Feeling really pi*sed off. https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 09:16:26 +0000 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 10:10:35 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=32005 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : I don&#039;t want to say but argggh!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=965803&title=feeling-really-pised-off#965803 Author: lemongirl
Subject: 32005
Posted: 12 March 2010 at 10:10am

I don't want to say but argggh! I had a mc that dragged on for weeks and weeks and to be honest that was the worst part. I don't think that you can't begin to emotionally heal until your physically through the process.

I hope that things happen for you.


]]> Fri, 12 Mar 2010 10:10:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=965803&title=feeling-really-pised-off#965803 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Does it ever I&#039;m sorry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=965514&title=feeling-really-pised-off#965514 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 32005
Posted: 11 March 2010 at 9:27pm

Does it ever
I'm sorry they aren't listening. It's cruel. Thinking of you!
]]> Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:27:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=965514&title=feeling-really-pised-off#965514 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Hi ladies, And so it drags on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=965435&title=feeling-really-pised-off#965435 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 32005
Posted: 11 March 2010 at 8:14pm

Hi ladies,

And so it drags on and on. HCG has still been rising (it did in my previous miscarriages) but still very low. To put it in perspective, HCG is now 1,200 at 6.5 weeks, with Jackson it was 27,000 at 6 weeks.

Today I had a scan, and just like the last times, it showed a tiny sac, measuring about 4.5 weeks.

I am tired of hearing the bullsh*t. Being told my dates could be wrong. No - they can't be! Firstly, I only had sex around my normal ovulation time then got really sick and it was the last thing I felt like. Plus, I got a strong positive on a preg test two days before AF. How could I be two weeks out? Not possible. Being told that it's always impossible to see anything in a sac that size, so to come back in a week to see if anything has changed.

They keep saying it's too early to know for sure, even though this is EXACTLY what happened the last two times. My HCG rose then, and an ultrasound showed a tiny sac with nothing else. Last time, I didn't start bleeding until 10 weeks, even though we knew at 7 weeks it was all over. I played their game, tried to have a natural miscarriage, but when I was still bleeding at 12 weeks they finally gave me a D&C. Interestingly, reading my Fertility Associate notes from when I got pregnant with Jackson, our specialist wondered if it was the D&C that cleared everything out and created a good endometrium for when we did conceive 6 weeks later.

Why will noone trust my instincts. And my history? I now have to have more HCG. And another scan in a week and then they will refer me to the system, where I will probably have to muck around for days.

Why do they put people through this trauma? It's horrible. I appreciate the need to be sure, but when I am so, so very sure of my dates, can't we just proceed from here. This "pregnancy" is not going anywhere. I would have given anything to be proven wrong at my scan today, but it was not to be.

Not to mention I start a new job in just over two weeks, and am going on a 5 day tramp in four weeks, so I need to get this sorted before then. It's causing me stress and lost sleep, I feel sick all the time (thanks HCG) and am an emotional wreck. It took me so long to get over the depression from Jackson's feeding issues and start feeling normal again, and now this.

It sucks to be me right now.

Edited by kiwilaurie]]> Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:14:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=965435&title=feeling-really-pised-off#965435 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : *big hugs* from me, too ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=957337&title=feeling-really-pised-off#957337 Author: BugTeeny
Subject: 32005
Posted: 04 March 2010 at 8:48am

*big hugs* from me, too ]]> Thu, 04 Mar 2010 08:48:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=957337&title=feeling-really-pised-off#957337 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Aww hun sorry to hear this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=957241&title=feeling-really-pised-off#957241 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 32005
Posted: 04 March 2010 at 12:48am

Aww hun sorry to hear this You should definitely speak to your MW or Dr about it. When I had a BO I wanted to let nature take its course but after a week of on going spotting and monitoring my HCG levels I was over it and wanted it gone so I asked for a D&C.

Thinking of you hun ]]> Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:48:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=957241&title=feeling-really-pised-off#957241 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : So sorry for your loss ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=957028&title=feeling-really-pised-off#957028 Author: Luckymama23
Subject: 32005
Posted: 03 March 2010 at 8:51pm

So sorry for your loss ]]> Wed, 03 Mar 2010 20:51:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=957028&title=feeling-really-pised-off#957028 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : from me too. I dont know what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=956894&title=feeling-really-pised-off#956894 Author: Emmi_
Subject: 32005
Posted: 03 March 2010 at 7:27pm

from me too.
I dont know what your options are, but if you want to speed up the process as others have said there is the pills or a DnC... I would go see your GP or MW and see what they can do for you. I would think your body would catch on pretty quick this time as your HCGs were pretty low (from memory, sorry I cant remember exactly) (rather than being massively high and needing time to come down)
If you want someone IRL to talk to Im in Wgtn too, and am quite happy to be an ear if you want
Hugs hun...]]> Wed, 03 Mar 2010 19:27:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=956894&title=feeling-really-pised-off#956894 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : I&#039;m so srry for your loss!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=956855&title=feeling-really-pised-off#956855 Author: Jacindarella
Subject: 32005
Posted: 03 March 2010 at 6:47pm

I'm so srry for your loss!]]> Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:47:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=956855&title=feeling-really-pised-off#956855 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : massive hugs to you.... if it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=956450&title=feeling-really-pised-off#956450 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 32005
Posted: 03 March 2010 at 2:27pm

massive hugs to you....

if it were me i would talk to the mw or doc and have a DandC right away.. i never had the pills but i had the DandC cause i found out 4 weeks later and they were worried about infection and i couldnt handle waiting to mc naturally(had a natural one after that and preferred the DandC)

hugs to you..life is unfair:( ]]> Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:27:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=956450&title=feeling-really-pised-off#956450 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Well, I have lived through this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955897&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955897 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 32005
Posted: 03 March 2010 at 7:37am

Well, I have lived through this before and I will again. It mostly just sucks because it is extremely rare to have 2 blighted ovums let alone 3 so therefore I can't help but worry that there is something wrong with one of us. I don't want to keep doing this. It's scary and heartbreaking.

I went out with my coffee group girls last night, but that was a bad idea. Two more of them announced they were pregnant again and I just found it hard to get through the evening. I didn't want to tell people over dinner and spoil the happiness of the others. I pulled over on the way home and had a massive cry and then another big cry when I got home. Poor DH doesn't know what to do with me. He really is quite philosophical and just wants to shake it off and keep trying.

At least we know we can have a baby. I was imagining all the people in my boat but without a baby, and that is really very sad. I spent an hour in JJ's room last night just patting his fluffy head and feeling grateful, despite my misery. ]]> Wed, 03 Mar 2010 07:37:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955897&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955897 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955887&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955887 Author: NikkiB
Subject: 32005
Posted: 03 March 2010 at 7:15am

]]> Wed, 03 Mar 2010 07:15:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955887&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955887 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : I am really sorry and understand...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955815&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955815 Author: Smiles
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 10:32pm

I am really sorry and understand what you are going through.

I've just been through a MC at 13 weeks (went for scan and baby had died a weeks prior). Was devastated beyond belief and thought I wouldn't get through it. Went through the sadness thing and just when I thought I'd begun to accept it, I went through the angry and bitter stage. Unfortunately you just have to ride the storm. It sucks big time but please don't lose hope. Life is unfair some times but you have love & support and other people who have been through the same or similar things.

Hang in there and yes it sucks about having to wait - when I found out baby had died I just wanted to get the D&C over with so I could move on.

Please don't lose faith or hope. Try and find some positivity or optimism otherwise this will destroy you.

Chin up x]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 22:32:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955815&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955815 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Just to say I feel for you and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955744&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955744 Author: Kalimirella
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 9:36pm


Just to say I feel for you and big hugs your way.]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 21:36:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955744&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955744 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : I cannot believe you have to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955526&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955526 Author: FionaO
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:16pm



I cannot believe you have to just wait, that sounds just horrible, I really hope they can do something to help.

]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 19:16:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955526&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955526 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : I don&#039;t have any advice,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955362&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955362 Author: X
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 5:27pm

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to send you a big hug

Sometimes life just sucks.]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:27:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955362&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955362 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : The first time I waited and when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955279&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955279 Author: luvmylittlies
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 4:20pm

The first time I waited and when my body still hadn't caught on after 16 weeks!!! I asked for a D&C to get it over with and try to move on.  I'd chase someone up and ask for one.  Not the most pleasant experience but yes, it gives you a point in time that you can try and start healing.

What you've written about "should have known better" sounds exactly how I was beating myself up after each loss. Try not to be so hard on yourself.

Big hugs.  I wish there was something to make it better, but I know there's not.  We're all here for you.

]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:20:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955279&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955279 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Man Laurie I can&#039;t imagine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955003&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955003 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 1:16pm

Man Laurie I can't imagine how you are feeling at the moment, I'm so gutted for you!]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 13:16:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=955003&title=feeling-really-pised-off#955003 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : yep talk to the doc or mw or whoever...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954999&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954999 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 1:15pm

yep talk to the doc or mw or whoever it was that confirmed the blighted ovum and see what other options there are for you.]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 13:15:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954999&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954999 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Sorry to hear about your loss....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954987&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954987 Author: popstress
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 1:08pm

Sorry to hear about your loss. Your post made me so sad. The lack of support for MC is unbelievable.

You need to contact you MW or if you don’t have one you need to contact your GP. They will refer you to the local hospital (usually the Emergency department) where you will see the on call gynaecologist who will offer you the option of a D+C or some Pills to take (I would personally recommend the pills over D+C).

You should not wait for it to happen naturally if you dont want to.

]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 13:08:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954987&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954987 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : I&#039;m so so sorry. That just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954983&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954983 Author: arohanui
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 1:05pm

I'm so so sorry. That just sucks.

Sorry no advice but I'm glad you're letting yourself be angry and grieve. I really understand about it being the loss of dreams. As soon as I found out I was pregnant with #2 I started loving him/her and imagining what the baby was gonna be like, and planning their room, thinking about how old Harry would be etc. Then I lost the baby. Sure it was early on and yeah it was never gonna happen but I still loved that baby. You're not stupid for making plans, you're a mummy, it's natural. Today would have been the due date for that baby I lost, and I'm feeling it. Different situation but I just wanted to let you know I feel your pain and anger and it's not stupid at all.


]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 13:05:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954983&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954983 <![CDATA[Feeling really pi*sed off. : Well, as you might know, it&#039;s...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954961&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954961 Author: KiwiL
Subject: 32005
Posted: 02 March 2010 at 12:48pm

Well, as you might know, it's happening again. I am sitting here waiting for the ineveitable to happen, knowing I have a blighted ovum. For the third time.

I am so angry. Last two times this happened, it took my body weeks to work out that there was no baby in the sac. And then the MC was hideous and painful (worse than childbirth) and I ended up having a D&C.

I don't want to just sit here and let three months of my life go by on this. Does that sound callous? I know there is no baby, so I just want everything done so I can get back on with my life. I am sad and grieving, but I knew this pregnancy was doomed, so it is more for the loss of the dreams I had. The stupid plans I made in my head, the mental decorations I did to the spare room, the thoughts of what life would be like with two. Why did I even bother? I am so angry with myself for knowing that this could happen, but still not being sensible.

I don't want to feel mad but I am so angry with my body for doing this to me again and me not understanding why I keep having blighted ovums. Is there something wrong with me? Or DH? Surely your body shouldn't keep doing this. It's really not fair.

Does anyone know if there is a way I can speed this up and get it over with?]]> Tue, 02 Mar 2010 12:48:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32005&PID=954961&title=feeling-really-pised-off#954961