https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 14 Apr 2026 19:57:03 +0000 Tue, 29 Aug 2006 19:01:33 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=3251 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=69218&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#69218 Author: thunderwolves
Subject: 3251
Posted: 29 August 2006 at 7:01pm

Hi,
here is my two cents,,
I work full time in early childhood, and i have to say they way they are dealing with your little guy sounds totally inappropriate, they as professionals should be aware of how hard transition stages can be on children, also with you being pregnant that is more for him to deal with, on the other hand perhaps you should talk to the centre supervisor before pulling him out, that is also a big decision for you to make, and more changes for quinn. I have family members that decided to pull their older child out of kindy when new bubs arrived and it left him feeling more out of sorts, kind of like not only did he have to share his parents and attention he also lots the big thing that was just his, kindy.
so thats my thoughts
good luck]]> Tue, 29 Aug 2006 19:01:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=69218&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#69218 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62780&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62780 Author: newmum
Subject: 3251
Posted: 03 August 2006 at 9:04am

hehehehehe ]]> Thu, 03 Aug 2006 09:04:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62780&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62780 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62777&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62777 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 3251
Posted: 03 August 2006 at 8:58am

lol Ana, cos that's SOOOOO much better! ]]> Thu, 03 Aug 2006 08:58:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62777&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62777 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62761&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62761 Author: newmum
Subject: 3251
Posted: 03 August 2006 at 8:02am

OMG!!!!! Tears are coming to my eyes, I am laughing soooo hard!! ROFL, NKOTB aaahhhh those were the days hahahahaha, I must say, I was never a fan! I went for Vanilla Ice ]]> Thu, 03 Aug 2006 08:02:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62761&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62761 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62673&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62673 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 4:02pm

hehe i had a cat called joey..named after the love of my life...from new kids on the block ]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 16:02:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62673&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62673 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62646&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62646 Author: newmum
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 3:23pm

LOL, i got a surprise when I read that until I remembered your cat is called Joey.... ]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 15:23:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62646&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62646 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62631&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62631 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 2:46pm

lol way to scare your kid to sleep. lol, speaking of that, paris has been scared at night because of our cat - he hid in her room once and jumped on her bed just as she had gone to sleep. she freaked out cos she is apprehensive of most animals alot of the time (no idea why).. We also had another time where the back door happened to have not been shut properly during the day, and the wind blew it open and joey took advantage of this quick smart and walked in as it was opening - leading Paris to believe that he could open the door himself and get in... argh

so every night now i get the "joey's outside aye mum?" and then the "he can't open the door aye mum?" which comes with much reassurance from me that he's outside the door is locked, he's too little to open the door, he doesn't have any oposable thumbs lol, and he's cuddled up inside his bed in the bushes by our gates. lol

Don't you just love when they get to this stage of being scared? We have now also had talk of monsters, am hoping that's as far as it goes.

Edited by mum2paris]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 14:46:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62631&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62631 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62605&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62605 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 1:41pm

and no reading "baby's bloody birthday" again....skip the bloody though- sounds like we are reading our children some sort of horror book.
Completely off-topic, I found this book in Japan about a little girl who won't go to bed. It sayd only cats, robbers and ghosts are up at this time of night. And if you aren't asleep, the ghost will come and take you away. then shows the little girl crying as the ghost takes her away. the end. Lovely story huh! I didn't buy it, (but kinda wished I had)]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 13:41:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62605&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62605 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62490&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62490 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 9:30am

And while practicums are hard work isn't it nice to be in a new atmosphere with intelligent conversation?!(mostly, lol)]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 09:30:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62490&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62490 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62465&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62465 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 8:40am

By making sure their children have several naps during the day! I had Jake in daycare once a week and it was wonderful! Now I don't, but we go to playcentre twice a week which means i at least get uot of the houe. And next week I hvae my six week of teaching practice starting.]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 08:40:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62465&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62465 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62460&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62460 Author: newmum
Subject: 3251
Posted: 02 August 2006 at 8:30am

Survive???? LOL, I have turned in to a cracked loon in the year I have been a sahm, muaaaahahahaha (crazy laughter) ]]> Wed, 02 Aug 2006 08:30:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62460&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62460 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62444&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62444 Author: Anna
Subject: 3251
Posted: 01 August 2006 at 8:42pm

Thank you!! I am generally such a believer of gut feelings so I am glad I went with this one. We went to pick up his gear today and had one last visit with my fav ladies from the baby room and I am glad we are not going back there cause his behaviour was so "off" (if that makes sense!)...

Back to being the full time stay at home mum, how do people survive without their time out?!]]> Tue, 01 Aug 2006 20:42:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62444&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62444 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62396&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62396 Author: newmum
Subject: 3251
Posted: 01 August 2006 at 3:57pm

How sucky!! I would say why he wasn't coming back to the daycare too. Good on you for doing what you feel is right for Quinn but don't forget you too!! As Nikki suggested maybe look at other childcare options. PORSE Network is great too. Hugs!! ]]> Tue, 01 Aug 2006 15:57:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62396&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62396 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62354&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62354 Author: kiwigal
Subject: 3251
Posted: 01 August 2006 at 1:50pm

I would say something to the boss or one of the staff there about it.As when you drop your kid off it should be blunt.Kiss, cuddle "Mummy is going now and will pick up later" If he is peforming then one of the staff should take Quinn off you and go and read a book, do a puzzle etc so you can get out the door without him holding onto your leg.

Edited by kiwigal]]> Tue, 01 Aug 2006 13:50:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=62354&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#62354 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61396&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61396 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 3251
Posted: 27 July 2006 at 10:24am

Research other child care options???
Have you thought about the whole barnardos thing where they go to the carers home? Maybe that environment would suit him better? You could even go in with another family (to make it cheaper and ensure he is socialising with other kids)?]]> Thu, 27 Jul 2006 10:24:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61396&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61396 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61360&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61360 Author: Anna
Subject: 3251
Posted: 27 July 2006 at 8:01am

I had a look thru his book yesterday, it is so cute! Lots of dancing with his 'girlfriend' Monique! But nothing from him in the big kids room...

Yesterday I dropped him off, it tears out my heart because he is so excited to get to daycare but then cries when he finds out he has to go to the toddler room not the baby room. They said Hi Quinn but then left us to our own devices. We sat down and did a puzzle like Janine suggested but then after sitting there for 15 minutes I got up to leave, he clung to my knees and cried . We had a bit of a cuddle but then when I tried to pry him off the (*&^%$!!) lady just watched, smiling.   I got a bit narky and asked thru gritted teeth if she could help me. I really wanted to go and say something to the boss lady but by that time had worked myself into a tizzy (damn hormones) so left while having a mini blubber!!

Am gonna phone today and tell them he is not coming back. I am sure it is not their fault, he is a particularly sooky wee guy but I don't feel that they are helping much and I don't see the point in upseting him if he doesn't need to be there?!

So it is back to full time sahm-ing for me... (gah, i am knackered at the thought of it) but feel so much happier!! Thanks everyone!! ]]> Thu, 27 Jul 2006 08:01:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61360&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61339&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61339 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 3251
Posted: 26 July 2006 at 9:12pm

Hope it gets sorted Anna!

With the profile books, our creche has them in clear files out for the kids to look at. It is sooooo cool! Every time I go in there I find kids pulling them out and pointing at the pictures.
Hannah's one is hilarious... lots of eating paint ]]> Wed, 26 Jul 2006 21:12:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61339&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61339 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61273&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61273 Author: james
Subject: 3251
Posted: 26 July 2006 at 3:36pm

good luck anna hope it went well ]]> Wed, 26 Jul 2006 15:36:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61273&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61273 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61168&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61168 Author: Anna
Subject: 3251
Posted: 26 July 2006 at 8:21am

Thanks for all the advice ladies!

I know they look after him well, everytime I go to pick him up he is happy and shows me what he has been doing all day. It is just the dropping off thng that gets to me. And as daycare time is only time out for me it is easy to find somewhere else more suitable.

He does have a folder, and it is fantastic but then again, I haven't had it since he started in the big kids room.

Mostly I think I am probably overreacting, but my plan is to drop him off this morning and see how it goes. I will go with my gut and if it happens again today then it will be his last day.

Wish me luck!!]]> Wed, 26 Jul 2006 08:21:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61168&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61168 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61154&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61154 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 10:11pm

We have that for both of the girls - it's wonderful, and everyo once and a while we bring it home and i will fill in a page about what has been happening at home and the special things that have happened - and add pics of our own.]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 22:11:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61154&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61154 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61141&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61141 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 9:28pm

I'm not sure about your daycares, I'm pretty sure that iot is a legal requirement from the Ministry however, that your child receives an "observation" portfolio thing. Russel Street gave me Jakes when we left and often sent it home for me to see. It has examples of his "work", pictures of him and just descriptions of what he's learning and doing through the day. It was the neatest thing to read. If you haven't seen it, ask your daycare staff about it. ]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 21:28:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61141&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61141 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61132&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61132 Author: linda
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 8:05pm

Harry went through an unsettled stage at two. Very trumatic dropping him every day but the teachers understood and helped us each day when we had to leave. Harry has been in creche since 3 mths so we were confused as to why he got so unset but we were explained that this can be quite normal with kids. He is now fine but we could not have done it without the teachers help.]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 20:05:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61132&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61132 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61102&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61102 Author: james
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 5:48pm

same here james daycare are wonderful but if they did that too my son or newphew they would be out of there before there heads could spin ]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 17:48:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61102&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61102 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61048&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61048 Author: my2angels
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 3:04pm

Yeah got to agree, I would be taken kobe out in fact I did pretty much for that reason. He wasnt upset or anything but I could walk in there pick him up and leave and no one would say anything to me even when he would wave good bye no one acknowledged and it broke my heart. I didnt have any idea what he did during the day and if he had a good day or anyhing so I moved him and am so glad I did. this place I can hardly get away from cos they keep talking and love it when i take addy in, all the kids gather round to see her and one of the teachers will sit with her and the kids while I get kobe sorted. If in doubt I would follow your guy instinct ]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 15:04:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=61048&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#61048 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60939&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60939 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 9:54am

Our daycare is wonderful with transitioning the kids from the under-2 section to the "senior school" (sounds very grown up!) I definately think that they should pay more attention to your concerns - not having enough time is a load of bull - it takes more time to calm down a destructive toddler who has been like that all day cos they got really upset when mummy left, than it does to quietly distract them...

although we have always tried to be honest and let our kids develop trust in us by ensuring that we do not sneak away but instead give a kiss and cuddle and hand them to a member of staff for cuddles - so they can wave as we leave.. that was how it has been since they were tiny so that even as they went though the "separation anxiety" stage at 9/10 months old, the same thing happened all the time and they developed trust in knowing that mummy/daddy would return just the same as they always do.

Our daycare also encourages us to set boundaries and routines with our children so that they have the same thing each morning.. With paris i do 1 puzzle with her each morning (she always picks the same one) then its a kiss and a cuddle and she waves bye bye out the window as i cross the parking lot. it took a while but now she will put the last piece in the puzzle and say "you can go now mummy, stand up and give me kisses" and 9 times out of 10 she's fine.

Try this out if you want and tell them what you are doing, suggesting maybe it may work with some other kids... find an activity to do each morning make it something with a clear end point such as a book or puzzle, then say bye bye give hugs and hand to a member of staff for cuddles - or guidehim towards a group activity... and well - if they don't then support you in your efforts to help him get used to the new environment then i would be talking with the managment or considering alternatives.

Edited by mum2paris]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 09:54:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60939&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60939 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60923&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60923 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 9:13am

I have heard things at my uni about "the next creche up" where the kids are left a lot more to fend for themselves. This scares me a bit as their time in the nursery creche has been pretty structured.

So while you do have to be aware that he is moving into an environment where they have to be a bit more independent, I also think the staff should ease the transition as much as possible. Maybe make some time to sit down and talk to the creche manager to see if you can come up with a plan where at the very least they try to get Quinn to join in with play that is already going on. I know I'd expect the same when Han moves up to the next creche.

If that doesn't work then I would consider other options. Maybe let the manager know how the staff just dismissed your concerns too. They should be receptive to that kind of stuff! (Especially if it makes their job easier too.)]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 09:13:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60923&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60923 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60917&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60917 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 9:08am

Jake was in the toddler area in our daycare, and did the same things as Quinn. The daycare staff were lovely and would take him off me and distract him while I snuck away. I'd definitely consider opther options Anna.]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 09:08:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60917&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60917 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60911&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60911 Author: mum2emj
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 9:02am

no i dont think your being a preggy-over-reacting-ball-of-hormones as you put it!!!! i'd feel the same. its nice to know that when you take your children to daycare etc... they are happy settled and looked after. i'd be annoyed too. just becasue quinn is in the bigger room doesnt mean he doesnt have the same needs as when he was in the other! it hasnt been long and its a big thing for him
i havent had the same problems, my girl loves her preschool, they are all wonderful and caring there, but if it was me, maybe i would be looking at other options, or discussing how i felt with the staff.
you gotta be comfortable aye?]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 09:02:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60911&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60911 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60905&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60905 Author: Anna
Subject: 3251
Posted: 25 July 2006 at 8:52am

Alrighty ladies, this has been playing on my mind all week and I need a second (third and fourth) opinion...

Quinn has been a daycare kid for a while, he has always loved it but now he has moved into the big kids room. That was a few weeks ago and every time I drop him off we go thru the lip wobble routine, this is not what bothers me tho. What gets to me is this: in the little kids room they'd whisk him off saying things like "come on Quinn, lets check out the sand pit!" and distract him while I left but now in the bigger kids room they just leave him. And by leave him I mean they say and do absolutely nothing, and leave me to pry him off my leg and leave while he is whimpering. I feel that they should be trying to help him ease into it... Am I expecting to much? I have mentioned it briefly to them but apparently "I have to realise that there are more children in the toddler room than the baby room so not as much time to focus on each child"... am I wrong in assuming that if they can't pull it together to be nice to him IN FRONT of me than perhaps this is not the place for us? I am not at uni anymore, am taking this semester off for newbie baby so it is really easy for me to pull him out and consider other options?

Am I being a preggy-over-reacting-ball-of-hormones or am I right in thinking this is not cool?
]]> Tue, 25 Jul 2006 08:52:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3251&PID=60905&title=daycare-dilemma-help-needed#60905