https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 21 Apr 2026 14:56:27 +0000 Mon, 23 Aug 2010 20:46:53 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35135 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1133445&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1133445 Author: busymum
Subject: 35135
Posted: 23 August 2010 at 8:46pm

I've only really dealt with this issue on a sibling to sibling basis but my 2cw anyway... The trouble with under 2yrs and even often under 3yrs (especially for boys) is that the language is so limited. So when that age feels "threatened", e.g. by other kids taking and playing with his toys or even his space, the only thing he knows to do is to push and shove. Playing with others co-operatively doesn't usually come until 2yrs so it can take a lot of work, but try to get him into situations where he can feel less threatened with another child there. I'm not sure what you could start with but perhaps he has a whole heap of mega bloks which can be shared without either of them running out. You may need to put your hand on his and keep him occupied on building (or whatever his level is at) instead of the other kid. And I'd keep the visits short and sweet and build them up over time.]]> Mon, 23 Aug 2010 20:46:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1133445&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1133445 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1132827&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1132827 Author: KitKat
Subject: 35135
Posted: 23 August 2010 at 10:32am

He'd have a great time with Locks- He hides behind me with most kids! and cries when other kids squeal. lol...I shouldnt laugh but its so different... he is generally the woos in any room lol.

Sorry no useful advise. Just wanted to let you know you arent alone with behavioural pickles.

Maybe our 2 would make good buddies at school, yours could protect mine from the other kids

I think explaining like you are sounds like a good way to go. Thats what Id do.]]> Mon, 23 Aug 2010 10:32:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1132827&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1132827 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1128513&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1128513 Author: crafty1
Subject: 35135
Posted: 17 August 2010 at 2:16pm

I used to nanny a boy who was a like this and what fixed it was just removing him and being consistent over a few weeks. So when we were out somewhere fun and he repeatedly bullied other kids, i'd pick him up, put him in the car and go home. Soon enough he learned that if he did it he would be removed from fun situations. Before we went i would always remind him how to behave and what would happen if he didn't. Then while there if he bullied he'd get a reminder, second time he'd get the ultimatum (do it again and we're leaving), third time just go no discussion. That's the Supernanny method - that women knows her kids, it worked so well.

I'd tell friends what we were doing beforehand and say sorry if we leave but i've got to knock this on the head and people understood (and respected you for not enabling a bully!).   I think it only took about 3 times of actually leaving and then warnings were enough.

You have to make it their problem and if you say you're going to do it (leave) you have to be prepared to do it or they'll learn that what you say isn't true. ]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:16:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1128513&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1128513 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1121931&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1121931 Author: weegee
Subject: 35135
Posted: 09 August 2010 at 12:59pm

We've had a bit of this sort of behaviour, although mostly directed at me rather than other kids. I read a great article, think it was on the babycenter site, that said basically to ignore the behaviour (because you don't want them to form the notion that hitting/pushing around = attention), but you should make a big fuss over the child that's been hit or pushed so your child knows that the only outcome from that sort of behaviour is that the other child gets lots of attention.]]> Mon, 09 Aug 2010 12:59:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1121931&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1121931 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1121878&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1121878 Author: Mrs_B
Subject: 35135
Posted: 09 August 2010 at 11:58am

Thanks Squishysmum

50 views and only one reply! Surely there are other mums in this situation!??]]> Mon, 09 Aug 2010 11:58:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1121878&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1121878 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1120682&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1120682 Author: SquishysMum
Subject: 35135
Posted: 07 August 2010 at 1:46pm

Not too young for time out at all! We do the same thing, get down and explain "be gentle, we don't hit etc", followed by shifting the child away in the room. If it continued said child was put into time out (either the mat around the corner, or into bed) until they were ready to play again.

I highly recommend Diane Levy's book "Of course I love you, now go to your room". Has a lot of good advice in there! Good luck, just remember, "this too shall pass"!!!]]> Sat, 07 Aug 2010 13:46:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1120682&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1120682 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1120631&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1120631 Author: Mrs_B
Subject: 35135
Posted: 07 August 2010 at 12:09pm

My son is a bully I realise it is normal toddler behaviour but how do you deal with it?
My friend came round yesterday with her son who is the same age and he spent the whole time pushing him round. I was horrified I got down to his level and said "We do not hit others it's not nice!" etc and then redirected his attention but he just kept doing it over and over again. In the end I put him in his room for a few minutes - too young for time out I'm sure but didn't know what else to do! ]]> Sat, 07 Aug 2010 12:09:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35135&PID=1120631&title=how-do-you-deal-with-bullying#1120631