https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:46:42 +0000 Fri, 18 Feb 2011 17:48:07 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37120 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1270152&title=pregnant-again--again#1270152 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 18 February 2011 at 5:48pm

YAY for hearing the heartbeat again hun and don't feel silly for worrying it is perfectly normal.]]> Fri, 18 Feb 2011 17:48:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1270152&title=pregnant-again--again#1270152 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1269373&title=pregnant-again--again#1269373 Author: pikelets
Subject: 37120
Posted: 17 February 2011 at 8:51pm

Wow awesome news Mitten!!
All the best ]]> Thu, 17 Feb 2011 20:51:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1269373&title=pregnant-again--again#1269373 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1268384&title=pregnant-again--again#1268384 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 16 February 2011 at 7:08pm

I did exactly that yesterday! And yup, the heartbeat was still there... feel a bit silly for worrying now! Slowly starting to feel real...]]> Wed, 16 Feb 2011 19:08:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1268384&title=pregnant-again--again#1268384 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1268310&title=pregnant-again--again#1268310 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 16 February 2011 at 5:12pm

That is the best news mitten!!!
I'm sure the paranoia will ease a little once you feel movements, in the meantime surely you can give your MW a call and go listen to the heartbeat to put your mind at rest a little.]]> Wed, 16 Feb 2011 17:12:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1268310&title=pregnant-again--again#1268310 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1265733&title=pregnant-again--again#1265733 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 13 February 2011 at 2:07pm

Hi there

Sorry, been away on holiday! I make it to 15 weeks tomorrow. My 12-weeks scan was really good, showed a healthy bouncing baby and measurements show a very low chance of Downs etc.

I was very very happy for a couple of weeks but not back to being totally scared and paranoid I'm told it's normal to feel this way but would really love to just relax and enjoy it! Maybe when I can actually feel baby moving I will? Or maybe I'll be like this for another 25 weeks... argh!

Thanks so much for all your support and kind wishes
xox]]> Sun, 13 Feb 2011 14:07:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1265733&title=pregnant-again--again#1265733 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1257939&title=pregnant-again--again#1257939 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 10:19am

How are you doing mitten? Hoping you have made it to that 12wk mark by now.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 10:19:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1257939&title=pregnant-again--again#1257939 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1237093&title=pregnant-again--again#1237093 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 11 January 2011 at 2:06pm

Just popped back to check on you mitten, am so pleased to see everything is going well. Not long to go now till you reach that elusive 12 week mark, I am sure after that scan you will start to relax a little. Also anytime you are feeling neurotic after that just call your MW and go in to hear the heartbeat (That's what my MW had told me I could do).

Tarns I hope you are doing OK hun.
]]> Tue, 11 Jan 2011 14:06:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1237093&title=pregnant-again--again#1237093 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1236775&title=pregnant-again--again#1236775 Author: Princess_Bubs
Subject: 37120
Posted: 11 January 2011 at 9:37am

So pleased all is going well Mitten, that is great news! I hope you're starting to enjoy your pregnancy a bit more now!

I'm sorry to hear of your loss Tarns, and didi I'm still thinking of you ]]> Tue, 11 Jan 2011 09:37:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1236775&title=pregnant-again--again#1236775 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1236342&title=pregnant-again--again#1236342 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 10 January 2011 at 6:52pm

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss tarns.

I had an appt with an OB today and got a quickie scan to check there was a HB. Baby still going strong in there, SUCH a relief, I've been worried sick.

Decided not to go with an OB after all, just can't seem to find one that suits, so it's a MW for me, maybe with the occasional referral when I get really neurotic ]]> Mon, 10 Jan 2011 18:52:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1236342&title=pregnant-again--again#1236342 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1235100&title=pregnant-again--again#1235100 Author: tarns
Subject: 37120
Posted: 08 January 2011 at 9:40pm

Mitten wishing you all the best and sending lots of sticky dust to you.......I have just departed the Due in august thread and am living in limbo till I go to the early pregnancy loss clinic for my `options' .

I am sure that should I be lucky enough to fall pregnant again, I will be terrified the whole time

Best wishes! ]]> Sat, 08 Jan 2011 21:40:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1235100&title=pregnant-again--again#1235100 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1234712&title=pregnant-again--again#1234712 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 08 January 2011 at 11:45am

Hi didi,

I'm glad it happened for you before new year. A miscarriage is a horrible way to start a year! I hope you continue to feel better and it doesn't hit you later on. I guess since you were emotionally prepared for quite a while then it makes sense that maybe you will move on more quickly this time.

I had a really great Xmas and new year, but it didn't take long before the anxiety came back. My good scan was at 7.5 weeks and now I'm almost at 10, and definitely in need of another scan to set my mind at ease. I'm so worried about everything! Changes in my boobs, lack of morning sickness some days, my appetite for food and sleep ... everything is up for more worries!!! Plus every day that goes by I'm just getting more and more attached to the idea of this baby and feel less and less like I could cope with another miscarriage.

I've got an initial consult with an Ob on Monday so hopefully I can get another scan then ... will report in with result!

Thanks so much for staying in touch, it's so good to know other people have been through the same thing.

xxx]]> Sat, 08 Jan 2011 11:45:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1234712&title=pregnant-again--again#1234712 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1232489&title=pregnant-again--again#1232489 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 05 January 2011 at 3:54pm

Hi Ladies, I've been away so haven't had a chance to come on here.
Mitten I hope you had a lovely Xmas and New Years knowing your bubs is tucked away nicely.
AFM: things finally happened and I lost bubs on the 28th, was a relief for it to finally be over am definately feeling alot better emotionally that the last times don't know if it's just that I'm kind of getting used to it or if it's all going to hit me soon.]]> Wed, 05 Jan 2011 15:54:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1232489&title=pregnant-again--again#1232489 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1228208&title=pregnant-again--again#1228208 Author: pikelets
Subject: 37120
Posted: 28 December 2010 at 7:29pm

Great news Mitten!!!! So happy for you!

Didi - how are you getting on hun - hope you are ok.]]> Tue, 28 Dec 2010 19:29:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1228208&title=pregnant-again--again#1228208 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1227160&title=pregnant-again--again#1227160 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 3:43pm

Awesome news mittens, very happy for you, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. ]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 15:43:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1227160&title=pregnant-again--again#1227160 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1227009&title=pregnant-again--again#1227009 Author: Princess_Bubs
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 11:34am

Congratulations Mitten, that's a wonderful Christmas present for you

Lots of and a merry christmas to everyone, I hope that Christmas is as good as can be xx]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 11:34:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1227009&title=pregnant-again--again#1227009 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226982&title=pregnant-again--again#1226982 Author: Pook72
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 11:03am

yay yay yay! VERY exciting!

That is the best news Mitten! I am so pleased! Long may it contunue and as Azza said, hope you have a very uneventful 9 months!!

Have a wondeful Christmas Mitten! xx]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 11:03:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226982&title=pregnant-again--again#1226982 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226966&title=pregnant-again--again#1226966 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 10:47am

That is fantastic news mitten, been thinking about you all morning and am so relieved for you.]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 10:47:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226966&title=pregnant-again--again#1226966 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226959&title=pregnant-again--again#1226959 Author: pickle
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 10:36am

yay very happy for you mitten - Have a very happy christmas ]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 10:36:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226959&title=pregnant-again--again#1226959 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226947&title=pregnant-again--again#1226947 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 10:09am

I am so thrilled for you mitten!!!

Keeping fingers crossed you have an uneventful 9 months ahead ]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 10:09:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226947&title=pregnant-again--again#1226947 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226935&title=pregnant-again--again#1226935 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 24 December 2010 at 9:45am

Woohoo!!! I had the scan and everything is FINE! Just my mind playing tricks on me I guess.

It's exactly the right size for 7.5 weeks and has a good strong heartbeat of 154 (both other pregs we were a week or more behind schedule and HBs were only in the 60s). So, so, so, so relieved. And actually feel happy about being pregnant for the first time since the first time!

Thanks SO much for your good vibes everyone, fingers crossed bubs stays strong and healthy!]]> Fri, 24 Dec 2010 09:45:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226935&title=pregnant-again--again#1226935 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226545&title=pregnant-again--again#1226545 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 23 December 2010 at 1:29pm

Thinking about you mitten, after having a couple of MC it is very easy to get stressed out, I really hope your scan goes well and you have a great Xmas with a healthy bub in your tum.]]> Thu, 23 Dec 2010 13:29:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226545&title=pregnant-again--again#1226545 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226373&title=pregnant-again--again#1226373 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 23 December 2010 at 9:24am

I've re-booked scan for 8:30am tomorrow. Still a bit hopeful it might all be in my head.

And if it all goes horribly wrong, at least I might be able to get a D&C before new year. My worst nightmare would be starting off 2011 exactly the same way as 2010 (one of my worst years ever). I just want this year to be over now and hope so much that 2011 is our year. And yours too didi!

Thanks so much for the thoughts everyone. ]]> Thu, 23 Dec 2010 09:24:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226373&title=pregnant-again--again#1226373 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226360&title=pregnant-again--again#1226360 Author: Princess_Bubs
Subject: 37120
Posted: 23 December 2010 at 9:06am

Good luck Mitten, there's lots of us thinking of you!

Same for you didi, there's alot of people thinking of you at the moment, and just wishing this wasn't happening xxxxxxxxxx]]> Thu, 23 Dec 2010 09:06:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226360&title=pregnant-again--again#1226360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226344&title=pregnant-again--again#1226344 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 37120
Posted: 23 December 2010 at 8:52am

Fingers crossed for you mitten!]]> Thu, 23 Dec 2010 08:52:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226344&title=pregnant-again--again#1226344 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226342&title=pregnant-again--again#1226342 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 23 December 2010 at 8:49am

I'm still worrying today so I'm trying to move my scan to asap, I won't be able to stand feeling like this for much longer! It's like torture. ]]> Thu, 23 Dec 2010 08:49:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1226342&title=pregnant-again--again#1226342 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225963&title=pregnant-again--again#1225963 Author: asicsgal
Subject: 37120
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 5:18pm

Mittens, I can really sympathise with what you are going through. I had three miscarriages in 2009 and I probably didn't really relax until the last few weeks of pregancy. I always found something to worry about, but then I am a worrier anyway. It is such a shame that miscarriages 'steal' the joy from pregnancy and replace it with worry and anxiety. Best wishes for a safe, happy and healthy pregnancy.
Didi, I am really truely sorry to hear how things have turned out, I had been stalking your progress when I could in your due thread. You sound like you are handling it really well though as much as what you can. I hope your appointment goes well hun and they sort it out for you, hopefully it's just a simple fix. For me they put me on clomid and even though I had one more miscarriage when I was seeing the specialist I felt like atleast I as in good hands (I self referred after the 2nd). Never give up hope of holding your little one in your arms one day. Some of my issues were due to a thin lining but I got pregnant with this little one on my thinist lining ever and was not even holding out hope of concieving let alone holding this one. Miracles do happen sweets and I hope that your little miracle comes sooner than later. xxxxxxx]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 17:18:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225963&title=pregnant-again--again#1225963 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225800&title=pregnant-again--again#1225800 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 1:59pm

Thanks guys. I'm thinking about moving my scan, but to be honest if it's bad news I don't think I want to go into Christmas in that pre-MC limbo state. I'd rather just hope for the best, I think, until the scan. It's a week to wait, hopefully I'll stay sane! ]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 13:59:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225800&title=pregnant-again--again#1225800 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225690&title=pregnant-again--again#1225690 Author: AzzaNZ
Subject: 37120
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 11:44am

mitten, just wanted to say I'm thinking of you! I know how terrifying it can be when your symptoms disappear.

This is one of the few times I hope someone feels ill... bring on the morning sickness at least until you have a scan that shows all is ok.]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 11:44:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225690&title=pregnant-again--again#1225690 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225686&title=pregnant-again--again#1225686 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 11:40am

Can you bring your scan forward and get it done before Xmas? You must be around 7.5weeks by now?? Which means you should definately see a heartbeat (unless you aren't 100% sure of your dates) I know you wanted to wait but sometimes I think it's better to know what you are dealing with as that unknown-ness just really messes with you head so much.
I have everything crossed for you babe, symptoms do come and go so hopefully you will be sick as a dog again tomorrow.]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 11:40:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225686&title=pregnant-again--again#1225686 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225667&title=pregnant-again--again#1225667 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 22 December 2010 at 11:25am

Having a bit of a panic today. My morning sickness was gone this morning, and I stayed awake till 11pm last night without feeling tired. Boobs aren't too sore today either.

Not sure whether I'm overreacting or not. This is exactly what happened the other times. Scared stupid. ]]> Wed, 22 Dec 2010 11:25:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1225667&title=pregnant-again--again#1225667 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224932&title=pregnant-again--again#1224932 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 10:51am

If you had them done yesterday morning then they should definately be with your GP by this afternoon, if it was yesterday afternoon then they cold be there this afternoon but definately by tomorrow morning.

I am getting some more cramping today, but still nothing major, she did say it could take a few days for them to build up and start kicking in. Am going to see my acupuncturist tonight as well so hopefully together they might do the trick.
I've had the same MW all 3 times 1st time she phoned me after the "bad" 12wk scan then came over to my house the next day and explained the D&C process, gave me forms etc. 2nd MC I phoned her when I started bleeding at 6.5 weeks (at 9 o'clock at night) she talked me down and sorted me out with a form for a scan, which I had then next morning (they told me I was only 5wks, but all looked OK aside from that). She phoned me after the scan and gave me reassurance that, that does happen sometimes. Then I phoned her that night when I lost the baby, she gave me a call the next day to see how I was and sent me a form to have a scan to check it was complete.
This time, she phoned after my scan on Friday and I heard from her yesterday to see if things had started yet.
Man that is a bt of a novel sorry, but all in all, yep I am really happy with my MW, I've noticed alot of people don't see their MW until they're 10ish weeks but every time I have seen her from 5wks. If you are still leaning towards a MW but not 100% sure on the one you have meet you could meet up with her and see what you think, she is in Glendene, I will PM you her details if you want.

Edited by didi99]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 10:51:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224932&title=pregnant-again--again#1224932 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224877&title=pregnant-again--again#1224877 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 9:50am

I'm doing okay, I'm going ahead with the testing, but only one HCG test and one 8-wk scan. I think any more than that will just encourage me to worry. And they should give me enough info to know whether I should get excited or not!

I had my bloods taken yesterday but probably won't ring for the HCG results until tomorrow. Does anyone know how long it takes for Labtests to get the results to a GP?

I still haven't decided whether to book with an OB or MW. I have to confirm with the MW I've met soon so I think I'll book with her, but I've also got an initial consultation booked with an OB in early Jan, so I might change later. Having cancelled on different MWs twice because of miscarriage I don't really feel like cancelling because of a change of mind is that different. Hopefully that's not too evil of me but will definitely miss out on the MW if I don't book soon.

My scan's not till after Xmas, so I'm trying to be reassured by feeling nauseous. I'm not working at the moment so I'm a lot less stressed than with my other pregnancies, so hopefully that's a good thing. I'm more confident about this one than my previous preg post-MC, so I guess that's a good thing too. FX!!!

How're things going with you Didi? Did the naturopath stuff help or are you still in limbo? Also, I was wondering about what your MW did after your MCs. My first one just phoned once, and was helpful about what to do for a D&C but that was it. The 2nd time, I'd never even met the MW I was hoping to book, and she just emailed but didn't call.

So far I've not really been that impressed by anyone I've dealt with, except my GP! I think if I'd really clicked with a MW or OB it would make deciding which to go with so much easier!]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 09:50:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224877&title=pregnant-again--again#1224877 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224828&title=pregnant-again--again#1224828 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 21 December 2010 at 8:38am

I wouldn't take it as definate Spanky (I would hate to get your hopes up for nothing) but that is what my MW said plus I'm sure once we get to the end we would be just like any other woman giving birth for the first time (it's just getting to that stage thats the hard part for us). Thanks for the advice I will make sure I ask for the karyotyping, honestly I think I am going to demand every test they have.

How are you feeling mitten? Sorry hun I feel like I have stolen your thread. Have you had any bloods done for HCG's or did you decide not to go down that road?]]> Tue, 21 Dec 2010 08:38:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224828&title=pregnant-again--again#1224828 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224589&title=pregnant-again--again#1224589 Author: pikelets
Subject: 37120
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 6:55pm

Thinking of you too Didi.

Mitten - hope you are doing ok too. FX for you ]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 18:55:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224589&title=pregnant-again--again#1224589 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224172&title=pregnant-again--again#1224172 Author: babygiraffe
Subject: 37120
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 10:21am

Thinking of you Didi - hope you are doing ok ]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 10:21:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224172&title=pregnant-again--again#1224172 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224133&title=pregnant-again--again#1224133 Author: spanky77
Subject: 37120
Posted: 20 December 2010 at 9:44am

The first few weeks are weird aren't they, it doesn't feel real (or didn't for me), esp if you have already lost some . . . its like trying not to get excited or too hopeful. FX this one will go full term with you

Didn't know that you could go with choice of midwife after going through recurrent mc clinic . . . I'd resigned myself to the fact that homebirth wishes were a thing of the past. Right now, it would be enough to get to go full term - not worrying about birth plan probably till I got to week 30.

Didi, wanted to recommend (I know everyone will be telling you stuff like this) when you see the mc clinic, if they don't send you and DP for karyotyping initially, I would recommend pushing for this. Hopefully there's nothing chromosomally wrong, but if there is, could save you a heap more mc's/later investigations.
FX this resolves for you quickly, (((()))))

Edited by spanky77]]> Mon, 20 Dec 2010 09:44:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1224133&title=pregnant-again--again#1224133 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1223629&title=pregnant-again--again#1223629 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 11:25am

I think it's a smart move to wait untill you're 8 weeks, those early scans can be more stressful than helpful if they are done too early.
Yep I was just planning on going with my MW, have had her all 3 times and find her fantastic. From what my MW has told me (very briefly) with the recurrent MC clinic they will look after me untill I am through the "danger period" and then I go to my choice of LMP, so your own MW or OB. I think at this point I will go back to her as I really like her and trust her and think she will suit me when it comes to delivery etc.

I had a D&C with my 1st and natural with my 2nd too. I do think naturally is better for you physically if it can be done, but I do think it is a very personal choice. The hard part is waiting for something to happen, been hanging out at home all weekend just willing something to start. ]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 11:25:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1223629&title=pregnant-again--again#1223629 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1223568&title=pregnant-again--again#1223568 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 19 December 2010 at 9:39am

I miscarried naturally with my 2nd. I found it quite traumatic but I think it helped me come to terms with it more quickly. My D&C just seemed like a bad dream afterwards. I hope it all goes as well as can be expected and that it's all over by Christmas/NY. Let's hope 2011 is the lucky year for us both!

My midwife appointment was good and she was really lovely, but I'm still confused about what to do. I'm so anxious and paranoid that I'm thinking maybe an OB would be better, so I'm going to make an appt to see the OB next week to find out how their process works.

Were you planning on going with a MW? Can you still go with MW if you are with the recurrent clinic, or do the OBs there look after you the whole way along?

I just told my mum so it's all starting to feel more real, and I have a viability scan booked for the 29th. Last time we got the scan a bit early (6 weeks) and it was unclear, which meant another week of worry, so I thought I'd wait till 8 weeks this time around. Hopefully it should be clear by then one way or another.

Fingers crossed....]]> Sun, 19 Dec 2010 09:39:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1223568&title=pregnant-again--again#1223568 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1222891&title=pregnant-again--again#1222891 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 17 December 2010 at 8:32pm

Thanks Mitten, I have heaps of family and friends now looking after me so all is good. Just need to wait for things to hopefully pass naturally as I would prefer to avoid a D&C if I can help it. I have a brew to pick up from my naturopath that will hopefully help things along.
On a positive note my MW has sent through a referal for the recurrent MC clinic today so at least I have the next step already underway and it's kind of nice to feel like I have something pro-active already underway.

How did your MW appointment go yesterday? have you decided if you are going to go with her or an OB?]]> Fri, 17 Dec 2010 20:32:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1222891&title=pregnant-again--again#1222891 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1222799&title=pregnant-again--again#1222799 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 17 December 2010 at 6:29pm

Oh no! I'm so, so sorry to hear that.

I can imagine how you feel and I've got tears in my eyes thinking about it.

I hope you can gather family and friends around you in coming days and grieve. How absolutely heartbreaking.

Sending loads of hugs xxx]]> Fri, 17 Dec 2010 18:29:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1222799&title=pregnant-again--again#1222799 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1222765&title=pregnant-again--again#1222765 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 17 December 2010 at 5:48pm

Well unfortunately not a great end for me, had an urge to get move my scan to today and bubs is not alive.

Mittens I really hope this is the one for you, I know it is hard but do try to keep positive. ]]> Fri, 17 Dec 2010 17:48:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1222765&title=pregnant-again--again#1222765 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221755&title=pregnant-again--again#1221755 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 16 December 2010 at 2:46pm

Sort of a close eye on me I had one scan 3 weeks ago, where they pushed my dates back by 5 days but confirmed a heartbeat and a subchorionic hematoma which is where the bleeding is coming from. Will have another scan next Wednesday, which I could have earlier if I wanted but honestly I am so busy between now and next Tuesday with work and if it's bad news I will be in a better place to deal with it on Wednesday. Apparently the hematoma could either dissapear or stick around the whole pregnancy, if it does stick around my MW said they will keep a really close eye on me as it can cause prem labour and issues during labour, but I think that's not really worth worrying about now theres alot to get through before I get to that point.

Great news re the GA, I guess if he was that insistant on an OB, then maybe that's the way to go. Although I think it depends on how good your MW is too.
It's great when the pregy signs start to kick in hey, as much as I hate feeling sick whenever I throw up I keep telling myself "this is a good thing, this is a good thing".
Sounds like a perfect response from your in-laws, my Mum has been the same way which really is perfect at this time. Part of the reason we haven't told MIL & SIL's is I know it will be 'full excitement' from them and I am really not ready to handle that yet.

I've been seeing a woman who does Psych-K as well, it's a little airy fairy but I have gotten some good techniques for helping to relax and think positive from her. DP said I was much brighter after a session with her, so it must do some good. ]]> Thu, 16 Dec 2010 14:46:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221755&title=pregnant-again--again#1221755 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221739&title=pregnant-again--again#1221739 Author: Princess_Bubs
Subject: 37120
Posted: 16 December 2010 at 2:26pm

Hi mittens, didn't want to read and run...

Congratulations on your pregnancy! It sounds like everything is going really well for you and that this is going to be your sticky baby !!!

(Same for you too didi - I'm looking forward to hugs with your baby next July!!!)

I can imagine how nervous you feel! My dp is finally on board with trying again, and I couldn't sleep the other night freaking out about it and how nerve wracking the whole thing is. Please let me sleep for 9 months and wake up with a healthy baby!

Big and I hope you can enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible, like didi said - try and think positively :)

My gp/obstetrician (who's delievered over 3000 babies) said he believes the biggest cause of m/c is stress. I know thats not helpful, as it may cause stress, but just try and relax. In fact - it's an order

Now enjoy xxx]]> Thu, 16 Dec 2010 14:26:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221739&title=pregnant-again--again#1221739 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221687&title=pregnant-again--again#1221687 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 16 December 2010 at 1:08pm

Hi didi,

It's nice to know someone in the same boat! Great that you've got to nine weeks ... sorry to hear about the bleeding, I can't imagine how stressful that must be, but I guess they are keeping a close eye on you huh?

The doc yesterday was great. He basically said that chances were slim that the GA could've done much damage, and since it was 3 weeks ago we probably would know by know if it had. My preg symptoms are getting stronger which is a good sign. Basically I can't change it now so there's no point worrying about it, as I'm worried enough just about miscarrying again without the added stress!

I'm seeing a midwife this afternoon, but my doc recommended VERY strongly that I go with an obstetrician. But that's partly cos of my age (I'll be 35 in March) and some other med history.

I'm trying to stay positive, but it really is so hard to relax and enjoy it and feel excited. Maybe in a few weeks! Oh and we told the in-laws, and they were happy but didn't go to 'full excitement' as they can see how we're worried. But they did take us out for dinner which was nice!

xxx]]> Thu, 16 Dec 2010 13:08:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221687&title=pregnant-again--again#1221687 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221530&title=pregnant-again--again#1221530 Author: didi99
Subject: 37120
Posted: 16 December 2010 at 9:35am

Hi Mittens, I am currently in a similar situation to you. Have had 2 MC one in Nov09 and another May10 and am currently 9weeks UTD but have been bleeding on and off for the last 5 weeks, so a very stressful time all round.
So far I have only told my Mum and a couple of girls at work (mostly because they fond me crying one day when I first started bleeding).
It is such a stressful time being pregnant again but I do think that the mind is a powerful thing so have been trying to do alot of positive thinking which kind of works sometimes.
As for the early scans etc, I guess only you know if it would help put your mind at ease, personally I prefer to know for sure sooner rather than later.
I am still with the same midwife I went to for my 2 MC pregnancies as I find her fantastic, however I am also seeing a natropath and doing acupuncture.

I really hope that this is it for both of us, how did your doc appointment go yesterday? Hopefully he put your mind at rest re the anaesthetic.]]> Thu, 16 Dec 2010 09:35:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221530&title=pregnant-again--again#1221530 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221384&title=pregnant-again--again#1221384 Author: pikelets
Subject: 37120
Posted: 15 December 2010 at 10:09pm

Im sorry to hear you have had two MC's, that is so unfair

I had a MC last week and already I can see that next time I get PG I will be paranoid as, so I can totally understand after two how worrying this must for you.

My fingers and toes are crossed for you this time Mitten! Let's hope this wee one sticks.

Take care
]]> Wed, 15 Dec 2010 22:09:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221384&title=pregnant-again--again#1221384 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221327&title=pregnant-again--again#1221327 Author: Luckymama23
Subject: 37120
Posted: 15 December 2010 at 9:08pm

Congrats mitten! And fingers crossed 4 a sticky bub this time xx]]> Wed, 15 Dec 2010 21:08:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221327&title=pregnant-again--again#1221327 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221265&title=pregnant-again--again#1221265 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 37120
Posted: 15 December 2010 at 8:18pm

I am sorry but I can't offer advice, but didn't want to read and run.
Congrats on your pg and I hope the GP can give you the reassurance that you need.

I can understand about the stress of the ILs staying, mine live out of town too. I always wanted my parents to know before my ILs, selfish of me I suppose, not sure how you feel about that. But depending on your ILs it might be better to tell them as it may make the week less stressful, they may be a bit more bearable to live with if they understand. Plus then you wouldn't necessarily need to hide any emothions/feeling you have.

Anyway enough rambling about nothing. All the best for the rest of your pg]]> Wed, 15 Dec 2010 20:18:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1221265&title=pregnant-again--again#1221265 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1220847&title=pregnant-again--again#1220847 Author: mitten
Subject: 37120
Posted: 15 December 2010 at 11:36am

Hi everyone

I've had two miscarriages this year (missed m/c at 12 weeks and D&C in Jan, and natural m/c at 9 weeks in July). I've just found out I'm pregnant again, which is great, but I am super-worried!

I think I'd be really worried anyway, but am particularly worried because I had a general anaesthetic at four weeks (took a preg test the day before and the day of op -- both negative). I'm seeing the doctor today so hopefully there'll be a bit of reassurance there. I only did the test last night (at 6.5 weeks!) cos I've been so convinced that if I'm pregnant then I'll definitely have another miscarriage, and I thought having confirmation that I was pregnant would somehow make it worse when it happened.

Now I need to decide whether to get the hcg tests, early scan etc, or just trust my gut, which told me very clearly before both m/cs that something was wrong (all my symptoms disappeared suddenly both times at around 8 weeks). And I'm not sure whether to go with midwife or obstetrician. And I'm not sure when to tell my in-laws, who are staying with us for the next few weeks (stress of that not making coping with preg stress any easier!!!).

I guess it's hard to think clearly after miscarriage!

We've been trying for baby #1 for nearly two years, so here's hoping it's third time lucky. It's due around the date of my partner's 40th b'day, so here's hoping it'll be the best 40th present ever!

xxx]]> Wed, 15 Dec 2010 11:36:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37120&PID=1220847&title=pregnant-again--again#1220847