OHbaby! Forums : my son https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 03 Apr 2026 22:00:57 +0000 Thu, 26 May 2011 12:48:02 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=38728 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[my son : its been a few weeks now and we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1334217&title=my-son#1334217 Author: k1wimum
Subject: 38728
Posted: 26 May 2011 at 12:48pm

its been a few weeks now and we are slowly moving forward im still having a hard time being around new babies it just makes me ache for max so much. we have started talking about trying again i would love to but am so scared if something were to happen with another baby i dont think i could survive that and i still have two wonderfully healthy boys which without them id be lost. it just feels like for us our family is incomplete i guess it always will be, has anyone else been in a similar situation of losing two babies with spina bifida and had a healthy baby afterwards? i now take 5mg folic acid everyday
        ]]> Thu, 26 May 2011 12:48:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1334217&title=my-son#1334217 <![CDATA[my son : I&#039;m so sorry for your loss...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1315000&title=my-son#1315000 Author: Georgiegirl
Subject: 38728
Posted: 29 April 2011 at 12:51pm

I'm so sorry for your loss too, I can't imagine what it is like for you to lose you Beautiful little Max.
I have a little girl 15 months who is profoundly intellectually handicapped. So I understand the pain of an utterly broken heart.
I believe the pain will never go away, but I hope that it has made me a stronger better more compassionate person.

If you ever want to talk PM me.

A saying that helps me is...

"Even on my darkest days I get a little bit stronger".

]]> Fri, 29 Apr 2011 12:51:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1315000&title=my-son#1315000 <![CDATA[my son : Im so sorry for your loss ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1312320&title=my-son#1312320 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 38728
Posted: 25 April 2011 at 4:59pm

Im so sorry for your loss ]]> Mon, 25 Apr 2011 16:59:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1312320&title=my-son#1312320 <![CDATA[my son : I&#039;m so sorry for your loss...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1310750&title=my-son#1310750 Author: bikershaz
Subject: 38728
Posted: 21 April 2011 at 3:35pm

I'm so sorry for your loss k1wimum. I still find going shopping really difficult. I have started going after work to avoid couples with their babies at the weekend. I just can't cope with it. I have had to walk out sometimes as I'm near to tears.

I had the feeling and still do that the world is carrying on yet I'm stuck.

Big hugs to you and your family and I know it doesn't really help but you are not alone.

Take care and PM if you ever feel like someone to talk to.

S xxx
]]> Thu, 21 Apr 2011 15:35:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1310750&title=my-son#1310750 <![CDATA[my son : I know how you feel hun, everyone...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1310380&title=my-son#1310380 Author: queenbean
Subject: 38728
Posted: 20 April 2011 at 11:18pm

I know how you feel hun, everyone just carries on as normal but for you it feels like the world has stopped. Big hugs xx]]> Wed, 20 Apr 2011 23:18:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1310380&title=my-son#1310380 <![CDATA[my son : baby max will be arriving home...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1309003&title=my-son#1309003 Author: k1wimum
Subject: 38728
Posted: 19 April 2011 at 10:34am

baby max will be arriving home today my partner has gone back to work and the world keeps turning it just doesnt feel that way for me.am trying to keep myself motivated and doing things that need to be done but its so very hard. we went and did shopping yesterday and everywhere i looked there were brand new babies i no they would have been there anyway it just made me feel so empty ]]> Tue, 19 Apr 2011 10:34:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1309003&title=my-son#1309003 <![CDATA[my son : ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1308103&title=my-son#1308103 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 38728
Posted: 17 April 2011 at 9:24pm

]]> Sun, 17 Apr 2011 21:24:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1308103&title=my-son#1308103 <![CDATA[my son : so sad, it&#039;s so hard it sounds...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1308012&title=my-son#1308012 Author: Topkat
Subject: 38728
Posted: 17 April 2011 at 7:33pm

so sad, it's so hard it sounds like max passed away peacefully bathed in love....please come on here and chat to us if ever you need anything we are all thinking of you and your fam ]]> Sun, 17 Apr 2011 19:33:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1308012&title=my-son#1308012 <![CDATA[my son : I&#039;m so sorry , Max is a lovely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307618&title=my-son#1307618 Author: shadowfeet
Subject: 38728
Posted: 16 April 2011 at 9:20pm

I'm so sorry , Max is a lovely name for your loved wee boy

]]> Sat, 16 Apr 2011 21:20:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307618&title=my-son#1307618 <![CDATA[my son : So very sorry to hear about your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307593&title=my-son#1307593 Author: kabe
Subject: 38728
Posted: 16 April 2011 at 8:18pm

So very sorry to hear about your loss. Know that we are thinking of you and your family ]]> Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:18:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307593&title=my-son#1307593 <![CDATA[my son : A very beautiful name for a very...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307490&title=my-son#1307490 Author: Limochick
Subject: 38728
Posted: 16 April 2011 at 4:32pm

A very beautiful name for a very special little boy!! I am so sorry for you and your family, I will be thinking of you in the days and weeks to come ]]> Sat, 16 Apr 2011 16:32:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307490&title=my-son#1307490 <![CDATA[my son : we had our son last night and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307473&title=my-son#1307473 Author: k1wimum
Subject: 38728
Posted: 16 April 2011 at 3:36pm

we had our son last night and named him max he is beautiful he was with us for nearly an hour and passed away peacefully in his daddys arms, i feel so hollow and empty and miss him so much but am glad he in a better place i wanted to thank everyone for there kind words and advice ]]> Sat, 16 Apr 2011 15:36:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1307473&title=my-son#1307473 <![CDATA[my son : Oh k1wimum, this is heartbreaking....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303424&title=my-son#1303424 Author: queenbean
Subject: 38728
Posted: 10 April 2011 at 5:49pm

Oh k1wimum, this is heartbreaking. I'm the other Mum with a spina bifida baby. You'll be going through so much right now, but there definitely is hope. Like kebakat, I take a whopping 5mg of folic acid when TTCing, and have had two wonderfully healthy children since losing Eva.

I'm so, so sorry hun, please feel free to PM me anytime ]]> Sun, 10 Apr 2011 17:49:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303424&title=my-son#1303424 <![CDATA[my son : Im so sorry hun. Thinking of you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303155&title=my-son#1303155 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 10:09pm

Im so sorry hun. Thinking of you and your family during this sad time ]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 22:09:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303155&title=my-son#1303155 <![CDATA[my son : I&#039;m sorry that you have to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303022&title=my-son#1303022 Author: kebakat
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 5:51pm

I'm sorry that you have to go through it twice! That's just beyond unfair.

Jared was our spina bifida bub. About a month after I had him I put myself on 5mg of folid acid rather than the 800mcg and took that just in case we got pregnant again, I didn't want another bub straight away but I thought that if I did get pregnant again I wanted to make sure I had loads of folic acid. Alex is healthy and doesn't have spina bifida. I was offered an amnio which can tell you if your bub has spina bifida. But that's still at like 15w.]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 17:51:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303022&title=my-son#1303022 <![CDATA[my son : i&#039;m so very sorry and sad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303011&title=my-son#1303011 Author: Topkat
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 5:14pm

i'm so very sorry and sad to read this you must be a strong and couragous women to have to do this twice! But I know you would skip the life lessons, and the strength you gain, to not have to go through this. It's the hardest thing in the world losing a child of any age and for you to have to go through this twice is truly un-fair.

It is nearly four weeks since I gave birth to our angel baby at 19 weeks due to Kindney problems, we are doing ok but I know how you will be feeling. There is another lady on here who has lost a child to spinabifida I hope she gets in touch as I know she has gone on to have healthy bubs. Please Pm me if you want to chat but I guess you already know the emotions and the process you will go through. I'm sure you will go on to have a wondeful heathy bub once you find the strengh to carry on. As will I......Massive hugs to you xxxxxx

Edited by Topkat]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 17:14:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1303011&title=my-son#1303011 <![CDATA[my son : Oh huge hugs. I can&#039;t imagine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302943&title=my-son#1302943 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 1:20pm

Oh huge hugs. I can't imagine what you are going through.

]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 13:20:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302943&title=my-son#1302943 <![CDATA[my son : Also didn&#039;t want to read...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302921&title=my-son#1302921 Author: Lexidore
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 12:11pm

Also didn't want to read and run, I can't offer any advice but huge hugs and sympathy]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 12:11:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302921&title=my-son#1302921 <![CDATA[my son : I am so sorry that you are going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302916&title=my-son#1302916 Author: EmDee
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 11:52am

I am so sorry that you are going through this, again. How utterly heartbreaking My thoughts are with you and your family ]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 11:52:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302916&title=my-son#1302916 <![CDATA[my son : I am so sorry that you and your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302912&title=my-son#1302912 Author: Limochick
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 11:45am

I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this, I don't have any advice but didn't want to run without letting you know that I will be thinking of you ]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 11:45:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302912&title=my-son#1302912 <![CDATA[my son : I didnt want to read and run....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302903&title=my-son#1302903 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 11:27am

I didnt want to read and run. I am so sorry for your loss, I dont have any advice, but just wanted to send you some

 

]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 11:27:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302903&title=my-son#1302903 <![CDATA[my son : in the next few days we will be...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302820&title=my-son#1302820 Author: k1wimum
Subject: 38728
Posted: 09 April 2011 at 8:09am

in the next few days we will be giving birth to our son he has spinabifida and wont have a great outcome we have tried to work out how we could make it work with the multiple surgeries possible seziures etc that can be an issue for alot of babys in this condition but with to other young children to consider and quality of life for them as well as baby we came to this heartbreaking decision. we have been here before and it sux im worried about my mental capabilitys dealing with this again and the effect on my eldest which we explained the best we could that his baby brother will be going to heaven and not coming home with us.i just want to fix everything and i cant and feel i have failed again at being a good mother i love and adore my kids they are my world and with this being the second one im a high risk has anyone else gone on to have a normal baby after losing two with spinabifida]]> Sat, 09 Apr 2011 08:09:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38728&PID=1302820&title=my-son#1302820