https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 15:31:11 +0000 Tue, 17 May 2011 20:43:23 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=39206 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1328482&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1328482 Author: escadachic
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 8:43pm

Oh, I didn't know they have playgroups for school aged children.

Where would you suppose I look for that kind of thing?]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 20:43:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1328482&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1328482 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1328391&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1328391 Author: AandCsmum
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:22pm

Yeah that is a pain when the groups dissolve, ours is hanging on by a thread.

Yes that would be hard with the kids being in after school care.

I don't see any of the kids/Mums outside school & I know a lot of them don't work.

I tend to just go to other playgroups in our area & try and chat to Mum's there. It's hard but you have to do it, each one of us is probably feeling the same as each other.]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 19:22:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1328391&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1328391 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1328329&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1328329 Author: escadachic
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 6:14pm

I do go to the school and home association morning teas once a month, but all those mums children are in a different block to my Sophie.

I have just started her at Brownies today and at least 1 other child goes to her school.

I did used to go to PIN groups, with some mums from her school, but the PIN groups keep dissolving.

I find it does make a little harder when you are a newcomer to the school and have changed school, mid through the first year. A lot of bounds are created when children transition from Kindy to school I reckon and at least when they start school together.

I tried to avoid changing schools for this reason, but once I stopped working over Wadestown way, I found it impractical to keep going all the way over there, plus DP's job became non-existent due to recession over that way. I'll keep at it though.

I think DD finds it hard to make lasting friendships within her classroom, as she's slightly special needs. So kids want to take care of her, more then be-friend her. And all the other parents have their kids in after school care, except 2. But I will keep trying.]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 18:14:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1328329&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1328329 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1327783&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1327783 Author: AandCsmum
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 7:48am

I think you'll find that with every school there are differences like that.

My DD thinks that money grows on trees & that is nothing to do where we live or where her friends live. Kids don't really have that true concept until much older.

I joined a play group at school & meet like minded Mum's through there. You might find those groups that stick together are all on the PTA or what ever your school calls it.

I wouldn't say I've gained friendships with the Mums at school, although I've become friendly/acquainted with the Mums in her class, this is more to do with when she is invited to parties.

I'm also not bothered, if they're not warm and welcoming then I'm not interested in being their friend. Just smile & say hello as you walk past ]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 07:48:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1327783&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1327783 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1327761&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1327761 Author: escadachic
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Posted: 17 May 2011 at 1:17am

Right, so I live in a really well-off suburb. But we are at the cheap as hell end. As in 3 bedrooms, $300pw. Pretty damn cheap!

And my DD goes to school in this very well-off suburb.

The hard thing is, she thinks, because the majority of kids at her school, have it all and are well-off, that we must be too and expects so much of us and we just can't provide it.

I sure she thinks money grows on trees, but what child doesn't?!

Also, at times, some kids can be mean, cause she's not got all the flash gears and such. But mostly they are ok.

How do I deal with this difference in incomes and help her understand, we are not rich like so many of her school mates?

I must admit, I find it hard too, being rather poor and being at school around all these well-off parents. I feel kind of stink. Though I really do try and find common ground with them and attempt to talk with them. But I find, they tend to stick with who they know, so that makes it hard for me to gains friendships with mums at her school.

Anyone else in a similar situation?]]> Tue, 17 May 2011 01:17:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39206&PID=1327761&title=how-do-you-get-around-this#1327761