https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:52:05 +0000 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:33:56 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=40523 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1390463&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1390463 Author: Jentor
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Posted: 21 September 2011 at 6:33pm

Thanks for all the well wishes. I am feeling better, each day seems to be easier. I found talking about it helped heaps, but then I am a talker!

My midwife ended up ringing Sunday (I had miscarried on Tuesday), and was very apologetic. She said she'd had a really busy week. I am glad she rang because I hope to go back to her next time, if she hadn't rung I would not have gone back.

What a fantastic support network, thanks!]]> Wed, 21 Sep 2011 18:33:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1390463&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1390463 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1390282&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1390282 Author: monkeys
Subject: 40523
Posted: 21 September 2011 at 1:17pm

So sorry for your loss Jentor With my first m/c I had the same experience, I didn't hear from the midwife at all, when I fell PG the 2nd time I decided to switch and this was the main reason, when I met the new midwife I explained the situation and she had a student midwife in the appointment, and she reiterated to her student that it is so important to have the follow up even though it is a difficult call to make.
Unfortunatly that PG didn't go well either but my MW called me a couple of times after the MC to see how I was and to answer any questions that I had, safe to say I will use her again when I fall PG again.
Take care of yourself xxx]]> Wed, 21 Sep 2011 13:17:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1390282&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1390282 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389990&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389990 Author: pikelets
Subject: 40523
Posted: 20 September 2011 at 6:26pm

Hi Jentor, I don't have much more to add to what the ladies have already said above but I just wanted to say Im so sorry to hear about your loss ]]> Tue, 20 Sep 2011 18:26:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389990&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389990 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389608&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389608 Author: Luckymama23
Subject: 40523
Posted: 19 September 2011 at 8:53pm

Oh Jentor, so sorry to hear about your loss
With my first 2 m/cs I had midwives, and found (as hopeful69 said) they tend to only deal with 'normal' pregnancys.
I found my GP & the North Shore hospitals early pregnancy unit a lot more helpful (i.e follow up calls etc)
Hope you have lots of other support around you, it is such an upsetting thing to go through.
Also have you had a look at miscarriagesupport.org.nz ?
I found that website quite interesting.
Take care]]> Mon, 19 Sep 2011 20:53:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389608&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389608 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389410&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389410 Author: hopeful69
Subject: 40523
Posted: 19 September 2011 at 2:58pm

Jentor, so sorry to hear about your loss.
Having been thru this twice in the past 6 months I have to say I got more support from my GP then the midwives. First time I had to keep ringing her and asking her questions.I got the feeling that a "midwife" only deals with live pregnancies which I thought was very wrong. This more recent time I had a different midwife who was better but my GP has been brilliant.
I have also come to realise that only people that have been thru a miscarriage can truely understand how you are feeling.
Hang in there. Sending you lots of hugs and good wishes

2003 Jan 2011 Aug 2011]]> Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:58:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389410&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389410 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389164&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389164 Author: Pook72
Subject: 40523
Posted: 18 September 2011 at 6:39pm

So sorry to hear about your loss and lack of treatment.

Quite frankly I think that is disgusting of her! I hope the hospital has given you some follow up care? If not, give your GP a call and make an appointment for a check up :)]]> Sun, 18 Sep 2011 18:39:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389164&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389164 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389130&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389130 Author: MissGinger
Subject: 40523
Posted: 18 September 2011 at 4:12pm

I would try and get in touch if you would like to see her. I was in a similar situation to you, in that I rang my MW when the bleeding began, she sent me to ED, I had to stay the night etc. She rang me after I was discharged, sent me for bloods the following week (to see how low my iron got) and then came round a week later to see how I was. She did give me the option though, if I didn't want a follow-up she said I didn't have to have one..

You never know, she may have been crazy busy... but you would expect her to ring and ask how you are.

Edited by MissGinger]]> Sun, 18 Sep 2011 16:12:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1389130&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1389130 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1388965&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1388965 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 40523
Posted: 17 September 2011 at 7:04pm

Yeah that is weird? With mine she had to come around & do all the paperwork, mind you we hadn't had the first meeting so maybe that is why??

I would have thought though that she would have been more "caring" and rung to see how you were getting on?]]> Sat, 17 Sep 2011 19:04:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1388965&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1388965 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1388947&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1388947 Author: Jentor
Subject: 40523
Posted: 17 September 2011 at 5:47pm

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks this week, and haven't heard from my midwife, and am wondering if this is usual practise or not. I met her a few weeks ago, had a lovely appointment, really liked her. Then I had to ring her on Monday evening to tell her I was bleeding and ask what to do. Of course, I was in tears. She was very kind again and told me to go to the ED.

I miscarried the next morning, and ended up having to spend the night in hospital. I texted her (what she told me to do) to let her know, and of course the hospital sent her my notes and also rang her. But I haven't heard from her. So the last time I talked to her, I was in tears and about to miscarry at 12 weeks.

Is this the norm? Do most people talk to their midwives after a miscarriage, or is it completely over when the pregnancy ends? I really liked her, and would have gone with her again, but now I'm not sure.

Thanks!]]> Sat, 17 Sep 2011 17:47:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=40523&PID=1388947&title=midwife-role-after-a-misscarriage#1388947