https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 09:06:22 +0000 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 19:45:00 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=41775 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5793090&title=remembering-baby#5793090 Author: Pepi-bebe
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Posted: 15 April 2012 at 7:45pm

Hi Kellz,

We had a dear friend weave a beautiful flax box with a fitted lid to place the baby in, and with the last one we placed dried roses from our wedding in it. Then each time we buried them in a pretty, quiet, sunny spot on my families land. It turns out we don't visit there that often, but I think in time we will, it's just a bit hard at the moment. I wanted to put the first baby right near what is now our house (we weren't living here at the time but were planning it), but my brother had a friend who buried her baby right beside her house and she found it just really hard to have it so close. So we chose a spot that is a few minutes walk away and secluded. We planted a lovely tree there too that is deciduous with pink flowers in spring, then red heart shaped leaves - it's gorgeous! Called a Forest Pansy. We also brought two scented pink roses, which have been in their pots all summer (eeek), but we will plant them outside our window, so they are near us.
It was really hard burying the tiny woven boxes with our precious babies each time, but we made it as special as we could, those boxes are full of tears though. I think for me and my DW it was an important part of the grieving process, as with MC you don't get to properly see or hold you baby, so having something to bury and cry 'over' was really helpful to grieve for our baby. I hope having your baby returned helps you and your family too. ]]> Sun, 15 Apr 2012 19:45:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5793090&title=remembering-baby#5793090 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5792929&title=remembering-baby#5792929 Author: Kellz
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Posted: 14 April 2012 at 8:37am

Thanks.
As we still have our 2 kids placentas in the freezer, we have decided that once baby is returned to us from the hospital- still not back from having tests done in Palmy, we will buy 3 big pots and so each child ( including angel baby) will have their own pot with placenta planted and a tree in it. ]]> Sat, 14 Apr 2012 08:37:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5792929&title=remembering-baby#5792929 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5792920&title=remembering-baby#5792920 Author: Princess_Bubs
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Posted: 14 April 2012 at 5:20am

Kellz - I am so so sorry for your loss.

Although probably not entirely legal, my Angel babies are buried somewhere public (on a hill thatl looks over the sea) I love having somewhere physical to go on Anniversarys, due dates, or if Im just generally feeling crappy about my losses. I really do recommend thinking about something like that. My placenta will go up there too. It makes me feel like our family of "five" are all together somehow xx]]> Sat, 14 Apr 2012 05:20:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5792920&title=remembering-baby#5792920 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789887&title=remembering-baby#5789887 Author: tigger,roo
Subject: 41775
Posted: 25 March 2012 at 9:10pm

hugs Kellz, sorry 4 your loss.

we didnt keep our and i really wish we had 4 our 1st one especially.

hope you and your family are doin ok]]> Sun, 25 Mar 2012 21:10:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789887&title=remembering-baby#5789887 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789868&title=remembering-baby#5789868 Author: Kellz
Subject: 41775
Posted: 25 March 2012 at 8:35pm

Yeah Im really undecided as to what to do- we said we didnt wanna keep baby, but now I think I would like to- baby has been sent for histology and then the hospital brochere says it will be kept for 3 months then if not collected will be cremated, so I guess I can still change my mind.

But we still have our 2 kids placentas in our freezer- after 2 and 5 yrs, and I dont want baby in there too- we have no idea where we wanna bury them.

Edited by Kellz]]> Sun, 25 Mar 2012 20:35:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789868&title=remembering-baby#5789868 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789851&title=remembering-baby#5789851 Author: MandzG
Subject: 41775
Posted: 25 March 2012 at 8:15pm

Hi, I didn't bring either of my babies home, on reflection I kind of wish I had.

Edited by MandzG]]> Sun, 25 Mar 2012 20:15:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789851&title=remembering-baby#5789851 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789844&title=remembering-baby#5789844 Author: Kellz
Subject: 41775
Posted: 25 March 2012 at 8:10pm

Thanks for your comments.

Do you have baby buried at your special place/ under the rememberance tree?

]]> Sun, 25 Mar 2012 20:10:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789844&title=remembering-baby#5789844 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789551&title=remembering-baby#5789551 Author: MandzG
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Posted: 23 March 2012 at 9:10pm

Hi Kellz

I brought myself a really nice heart necklace, and also we have a remembrance tree. It is only tiny so is in a pot on our deck - we will probably have to plant it at some stage but for the next few years it will be ok. ]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 21:10:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789551&title=remembering-baby#5789551 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789499&title=remembering-baby#5789499 Author: Pook72
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Posted: 23 March 2012 at 6:06pm

Kellz, sorry for your loss.

We have a special place to remember ours and each time we have put a white rose into the sea! We also got married there so such a special place!]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 18:06:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789499&title=remembering-baby#5789499 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789412&title=remembering-baby#5789412 Author: Kellz
Subject: 41775
Posted: 23 March 2012 at 12:53pm

Not sure what we want to do yet. I like the idea of the 4 of us saying something about baby and releasing some balloons.
Did you bury baby? Can we do this in a cemetery or do we have to find somewhere at home to do it- we wont be here forever and dont have family land that we can bury baby on either.
Just after ideas really. Thanks]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 12:53:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41775&PID=5789412&title=remembering-baby#5789412