https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 22 Apr 2026 11:12:54 +0000 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 17:43:25 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42681 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5826406&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5826406 Author: Dophy
Subject: 42681
Posted: 10 February 2013 at 5:43pm

I agree, wouldn't be happy either. In a daycare setting I would expect them to distract the child which usually works. my dd has just started at a daycare/kindy I went along the first couple of times and noticed a couple of times when the older ones were naughty they had to sit with the teacher for a certain amount of time (depended on age of child) which seemed to work and I'm happy with that for my little girl as punishment at home is time out. Any tantrums were quickly defused with distraction. I think this is the best way.

Try get on the waiting list for a couple of the other centres and do some visits like you have. Your gut instinct is usually right.]]> Sun, 10 Feb 2013 17:43:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5826406&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5826406 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5824160&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5824160 Author: Kristina103761
Subject: 42681
Posted: 17 January 2013 at 11:44pm

I totally agree with Kellz and your decision to take him out of there and since you felt uncomfortable...

But I wouldn't give up. If you feel he needs extra stimulation, have you considered putting him on a waitlist of a place that you feel more comfortable with? Always helpful to find out what their policies are on tantrums or unwanted behaviour (how they deal with it) and watch how the teachers interact with the children.

I certainly have my favourite teachers in my son's daycare and I have made a beeline for them when dropping him off and encouraged that connection.   have had concerns in the past with a couple of things but they've been straightened out and I love my son's daycare and I'll be sorry to leave it in a few weeks time - they have been amazing and really given him a great education in his little life.]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 23:44:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5824160&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5824160 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5822028&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5822028 Author: KatzWtgn
Subject: 42681
Posted: 20 December 2012 at 12:20pm

I woukdn't be happy either. I took my son to a daycare that was well recommended but at one of his "settling-in" days, my husband saw one of the teachers physically drag DS by one arm to make him sit on the mat for mat time (DS was only 15 months old at the time). That is not something we would ever do. DH picked DS straight up, left and we never went back. We then found a much more caring daycare that suited our ideas of how he should be treated.

You have to go with what you want your child how to be treated - you know best!]]> Thu, 20 Dec 2012 12:20:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5822028&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5822028 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5821952&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5821952 Author: snugglebug
Subject: 42681
Posted: 19 December 2012 at 3:38pm

Just to reassure you, no not all daycares like that. My son's daycare is quite firm but loving- if they have tantrums they do get talked to but they also get removed from the situation and a staff member stays with them. They get lots of cuddles when they are upset. Don't get discouraged by this one experience, there are lots of wonderful daycares, if there is another you can get to then you could go for a visit and see how they are ]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:38:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5821952&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5821952 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816353&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816353 Author: sarah_#1
Subject: 42681
Posted: 11 October 2012 at 5:06pm

I wouldn't be happy with my son there either. I don't think you are over reacting. ]]> Thu, 11 Oct 2012 17:06:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816353&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816353 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816167&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816167 Author: Sharlene28
Subject: 42681
Posted: 10 October 2012 at 9:37am

Thank you for your reply Kellz, I've decided that I'm not comfortable at all with how he has been treated and I'm going to keep him home.]]> Wed, 10 Oct 2012 09:37:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816167&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816167 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816134&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816134 Author: Kellz
Subject: 42681
Posted: 09 October 2012 at 9:20pm

And this may just be one of the reasons why this daycare was the only one in town with spaces avialable!]]> Tue, 09 Oct 2012 21:20:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816134&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816134 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816132&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816132 Author: Kellz
Subject: 42681
Posted: 09 October 2012 at 9:14pm

The daycare my DS goes to is definatly not like that- they all have varying policies. If the way they do things doesnt feel right and is not in line with how u parent- find one that is.


ETA- sorry I hadnt read the very last line of your post. Not sure what to do if there are no places available anywhere else. Maybe go back to other centres and/or get recommendations from other parents and see when they will have a place for him. You may not have to wait too long.
You need to both be happy- no use leaving him somewhere if u are worried about how he is being treated. I dont think you are over-reacting at all. I wouldnt feel comfortable with this at all either. At DS's daycare if they cant have what they want they are redirected/ distracted til they are happy. If they are hurt they get cuddled, if they are naughty they are told what the correct thing they need to do is, then if they carry on they are removed from the situation WITH a staff memebr who talks to them about what happened and will read them a book or do something with them til they are ready to return to the group.

Edited by Kellz - 09 October 2012 at 9:19pm]]> Tue, 09 Oct 2012 21:14:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816132&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816132 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42681&PID=5816124&title=uneasy-about-daycare#5816124 Author: Sharlene28
Subject: 42681
Posted: 09 October 2012 at 8:25pm

My 2 and a half year old is a very busy child.  I have my hands full a lot of the time with my 9 month old, so I thought it might be nice for him to be able to get out of the house and burn off some of his energy.  He goes to Playcentre twice a week with me, but he seems to need more to do.  I enrolled him at a Kidzcare facility for 3 days a week, four hours at a time and he has been there twice so far.  Earlier this week, I was in the office with the Manager talking through the paper work etc.  I heard my eldest screaming, I come out and he is crying in a heap on the ground having a huge tantrum.  There is no one paying any attention to him.  One lady saw me, walked over to him, picked him up, then told me it was because he wanted to go outside.  She then let him out, then said as he ran off  "you get what you want don't you" I thought this was quite rude and unprofessional.  I asked about this and apparently it is their policy to leave them to cry it out and basically get over it.   I was told that staff member would get spoken to when I left about her comment.  Does this seem right?  I know the comment was off, but surely they are meant to give a cuddle or something if they are tantrumming?  I have no idea what is normal in a care type facility, so I would appreciate some advice about whether I am over reacting or not.  There are no spaces at any other centres where I live (small town).


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