OHbaby! Forums : insensitive co-worker rant https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 14:23:45 +0000 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 10:54:06 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42754 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : My mum miscarried when I was 1,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5826058&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5826058 Author: Mrs Mac
Subject: 42754
Posted: 06 February 2013 at 10:54am

My mum miscarried when I was 1, then took 18 months to conceive again. I was always taught that commenting on someone's lack/number of children was the height of rudeness. It took my breath away to have three people ask when I was having a second child within two weeks of miscarrying! ]]> Wed, 06 Feb 2013 10:54:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5826058&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5826058 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : OMG what a b!tch!!I hate that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5825242&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5825242 Author: kelzie_rose
Subject: 42754
Posted: 28 January 2013 at 10:29pm

OMG what a b!tch!!

I hate that how the second you get UTD with your first, everyone is all about the second baby.]]> Mon, 28 Jan 2013 22:29:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5825242&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5825242 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : wowsers...some people have no...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5825140&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5825140 Author: vineyardhoney
Subject: 42754
Posted: 27 January 2013 at 4:54pm

wowsers...some people have no idea do they?

you handled that really well noob. don't know how I would have reacted to that!]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2013 16:54:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5825140&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5825140 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Hi girls, I totally feel your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5825056&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5825056 Author: Leanabh
Subject: 42754
Posted: 26 January 2013 at 10:02am

Hi girls, I totally feel your pain.
I am gobsmacked by the personal questions people, that don't know me very well, feel entitled to ask.

Recently a colleague come over to my desk and - out load - asked me 'so when are you going to start having kids'... (we have been ttc for 2 and a half years...)

I just smiled and said 'who knows?'

The she continued... 'I bet you're sick of people asking you that question' to which I just kept smiling...

Then she suggested... 'You should just say what I used to say before I had my family and tell them that you're not able to have children - that shuts them up'

Honestly. ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2013 10:02:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5825056&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5825056 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Wow, you handled that well! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818579&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818579 Author: DzinerGirl
Subject: 42754
Posted: 08 November 2012 at 9:12pm

Wow, you handled that well!

I always think of responses long after the fact when people say bad things to me. I think it's terrible that people even think it's ok to make comments about people's weight, number of children/lack of children...it's none of their frickin business is it?!

Well done on how you dealt with it though

And Blondie, wow...I'm speechless, again WTH are these people thinking?!]]> Thu, 08 Nov 2012 21:12:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818579&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818579 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Thanks ladies. It is so nice to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818504&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818504 Author: n00b_mum
Subject: 42754
Posted: 08 November 2012 at 10:21am

Thanks ladies. It is so nice to hear all of your kind (and nasty, but not targeted at me) words.
Blondie - Oh my goodness, what a horrible thing for your co-worker to say! I just have no idea why someone would say that? I send you HUGE hugs

The weird thing with this co-worker is:
1) She is new to the team
2) She is kinda young
3) I had just spent the whole morning with her, helping her.

Then when we get back to the office she starts commenting on my photos.

The more I think about it, the more I think that perhaps she thought she was complementing me.
As though she was saying "wow those photos of you are stunning, you look amazing!" But maybe she had no bloody idea how to say that without implying (or as she did, just flat our stating) that I am now fat and no longer stunning.

Tiger Lilly - yeah I do think she has a HUGE fat fear. She said her mum was big and you could see that she is terrified of becoming "fat"

I am her fear personified!

Hugs to all,

N00b]]> Thu, 08 Nov 2012 10:21:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818504&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818504 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : What a complete cow!! I agree,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818496&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818496 Author: epictraveller
Subject: 42754
Posted: 08 November 2012 at 8:57am

What a complete cow!! I agree, definitely insecure!]]> Thu, 08 Nov 2012 08:57:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818496&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818496 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : OMG what a bitch.....do you have...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818484&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818484 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 10:20pm

OMG what a bitch.....do you have issues with her normally? I mean is she like that with work things as well?]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 22:20:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818484&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818484 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Noob I&#039;m sorry you have such...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818481&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818481 Author: blondie23
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 9:31pm

Noob I'm sorry you have such an incentive cow at work. You handled it so well.

I had a work mate say to me that I must be pregnant as I have a tummy and I'm too old not to have kids! I have been trying for almost a year and I have lost lots of weight and a size 14/16, and quite tall. I was fuming. Why are people so incentive?! I just walked away I was so shocked I couldn't think of anything.

Positive baby making vibes to you all. Lets ignore toxic people. They must be unhappy

]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 21:31:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818481&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818481 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Wow! That&#039;s horrible! Please...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818476&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818476 Author: Séraphine
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 9:12pm

Wow! That's horrible! Please try to remember people that say s$&t like that normally have really low self esteem themselves and try to prop themselves up by putting others down.
I'm really impressed by your reply though! I would've just burst into tears (or thrown something at her!)

I'm with you on the "needs a sibling" comments, I've been told that I'm selfish and also that DD will be a spoilt b$&%h if we don't have another kid, I don't have to explain my TTC issues to my workmates

My bets are you'll fin her crying in the bathroom at the Christmas party over how crap her life is ]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 21:12:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818476&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818476 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : OMG!!! What an insensitive cow!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818475&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818475 Author: tan73
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 9:05pm

OMG!!! What an insensitive cow! I liked your imaginary answer. Wouldn't be good if we could really say things like that?]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 21:05:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818475&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818475 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : When she asked about #2 I smiled...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818457&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818457 Author: n00b_mum
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 7:44pm

When she asked about #2 I smiled and said "well I have to get back to work now...."
I would have liked to shout "F*CK YOU! I don't care enough about you to explain my fertility situation! Get the hell away from my desk and don't come back unless you can act civil...ass-hat"

She then walked around me and continued to comment on all the photos I had up around my desk, she was SURE my wedding photo wasn't me. ]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 19:44:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818457&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818457 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : What did you say when she asked...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818454&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818454 Author: tan73
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 7:36pm

What did you say when she asked about #2? I hope you put her in her place! Size 12/14 is NOT large at all!]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 19:36:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818454&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818454 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Wow what an insensitive cow!!!Well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818453&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818453 Author: sem
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 7:33pm

Wow what an insensitive cow!!! Censored
Well done on your reply, I think I would have been so shocked I couldn't have had said anything! 

Big massive hugs Hug

]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 19:33:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818453&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818453 <![CDATA[insensitive co-worker rant : Just had a co-worker look at the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818451&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818451 Author: n00b_mum
Subject: 42754
Posted: 07 November 2012 at 7:16pm

Just had a co-worker look at the photos on my desk and say "Oh my god you WERE so skinny, what happened?"

Then she proceeded to tell me how she didn't want to have kids if this (being my size - 12/14) is the effect.

I told her with a smile that I am fine, and your body changes when you have a baby, maybe I'll be skinny again, but maybe not. The human body changes a lot with pregnancy and it is a wonderful thing. I was so pleased at my reaction, 'cause all I wanted to do was crawl under my desk and cry.

She then asked why I wasn't UTD with #2 as my toddler needs a sibling.We have been TTC#2 for almost 10 months now and we are waiting to hear from FA!

I feel awful. I want to be SUPER body positive so DD knows that all bodies are amazing and a gift, yet when I hear stuff like that I just feel like my chubby teenage self who has no self esteem.   

I would go out for a walk, but it's just me and DD tonight so I need to stay in. Will have to get big cuddles from DH when he gets home tonight after his boys night out.

Sorry about the rant, I just wanted to vent.
n00b


Edited by n00b_mum - 07 November 2012 at 7:17pm]]> Wed, 07 Nov 2012 19:16:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42754&PID=5818451&title=insensitive-coworker-rant#5818451