https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 03 Apr 2026 20:14:27 +0000 Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:27:37 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=42878 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5825101&title=depression-or-grieving#5825101 Author: Mrs Mac
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Posted: 27 January 2013 at 8:27am

I don't know if you're still worried about this, but I was just on the Miscarriage Support Auckland website, and they thought it took women an average of 6 months to reach acceptance. I've struggled with depression in the past, and I'm thinking about getting some counseling to help me deal with my grief in a healthy way rather than slipping down that slope!]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:27:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5825101&title=depression-or-grieving#5825101 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5822235&title=depression-or-grieving#5822235 Author: Moobear
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Posted: 24 December 2012 at 7:58am

Hi tan73,

Sorry for your loss and to hear about the hard time you are having. I have been there and I think it varies for each person. I took my first miscarriage very hard and it took me a long time to get over it. Especially the fact that due to medical reasons I couldn't try again for at least 6 months after.

I miscarried in September and I think it wasn't until about February that I started to come right again. If you need to, ask for help... that is one thing I wish I had done was get some counselling. I thought I could cope but I couldn't and it just made things worse me not getting help when I needed it. The would have been milestone days were also very difficult (20 weeks, due date etc) but I managed to get through them and now I have a baby boy on the way.

Try to stay positive and know that you will get through this x     ]]> Mon, 24 Dec 2012 07:58:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5822235&title=depression-or-grieving#5822235 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5821709&title=depression-or-grieving#5821709 Author: Bizzy
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Posted: 17 December 2012 at 9:52am

Grief is such an individual thing and there is no real time frame on it. I dont know how far along you were but regardless pregnancy hormones can play hell with our bodies for ages after and if your sig is right it has only been 3 months which is really only 3 cycles. Not long really when it comes to hormones! If you have an understanding doctor though definitely talk to them and see what they have to say.]]> Mon, 17 Dec 2012 09:52:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5821709&title=depression-or-grieving#5821709 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5821702&title=depression-or-grieving#5821702 Author: tan73
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Posted: 17 December 2012 at 9:32am

I have struggled with depression in the past. Last year I had Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (I live in Christchurch) and had to go on meds. I went off them this year in January so we could try for a baby. The doctor felt it was best to go off them if I was feeling ready, before we tried.

So, as you can see, since June, we have been on a bit of a roller coaster. Now I find I am often sad or low - so not fun for DH. I am also tearful or bursting into tears often. When AF arrives it's the worst. I hide it from DH now because I think he doesn't understand and thinks I should be over it by now.

My question is: is this normal grieving? Is anyone else feeling like this? Is it normal to be often tearful and low this far out from a miscarriage? I am just working out whether I really need to be back at the doctors. I don't want to spend my holidays crying! ]]> Mon, 17 Dec 2012 09:32:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=42878&PID=5821702&title=depression-or-grieving#5821702