OHbaby! Forums : Telling People https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 03 Apr 2026 22:02:12 +0000 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 21:20:01 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=43004 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Telling People : After having a m/c in August when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825698&title=telling-people#5825698 Author: LG
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Posted: 02 February 2013 at 9:20pm

After having a m/c in August when i hadnt told people we were pregnant, i decided next time we got pregnant i would tell our families and a few friends straight away. I found it hideous telling people i needed help after m/c when they didnt know i was pregnant in the first place.

Ive had 2 people put something on FB after having a m/c when they hadnt announced their pregnancy yet. Both of them got so many comments from people who had had m/c saying they wished they had told people. Personally i wouldnt do that but am probably going to put something on for our due date because its a date we've both been counting down too (sorry, slightly off topic)]]> Sat, 02 Feb 2013 21:20:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825698&title=telling-people#5825698 <![CDATA[Telling People : Mrs Mac and Melinda so sorry...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825148&title=telling-people#5825148 Author: Pitter patter
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Posted: 27 January 2013 at 6:45pm

Mrs Mac and Melinda so sorry to hear about your losses. I agree with you Mrs Mac considering 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage most of us to not know how common they are or what happens when you miscarry because no one talks about it. Next time I get pregnant I am going to tell those that I told and were supportive after the miscariage when I get a bfp, I know they will be the ones I would need (along with the forum girls on oh baby) if it happened again.
Mrs Mac there are lots of us on here that have had miscariages so know what you are going through. I wish I'd taken some multivitemens after mine as i didn't realise how hard it was on my body until later. I did take time to rest and grieve which I am glad about. Hugs to you at this hard timeHug
]]> Sun, 27 Jan 2013 18:45:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825148&title=telling-people#5825148 <![CDATA[Telling People : Thanks Milinda, 1 MC is bad, 3...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825090&title=telling-people#5825090 Author: Mrs Mac
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Posted: 26 January 2013 at 9:30pm

Thanks Milinda, 1 MC is bad, 3 must be really hard! Best of luck to you too!]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2013 21:30:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825090&title=telling-people#5825090 <![CDATA[Telling People : Hi Mrs Mac, So sorry to hear of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825087&title=telling-people#5825087 Author: Milinda104410
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Posted: 26 January 2013 at 9:16pm

Hi Mrs Mac,

So sorry to hear of your loss, we have had 3 MC now and support of family and close friends is a must to get me through also.

Hope your third time lucky
Best wishes ]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2013 21:16:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825087&title=telling-people#5825087 <![CDATA[Telling People : On Tuesday (today is Saturday)...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825086&title=telling-people#5825086 Author: Mrs Mac
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Posted: 26 January 2013 at 9:05pm

On Tuesday (today is Saturday) I miscarried my second baby at 7 weeks 3 days. On Monday we had a dating scan where we saw a beautiful little baby with a strong heartbeat. After the scan we told our parents, who were thrilled. It was a complete shock when I started bleeding and cramping on Tuesday afternoon.

It felt dreadful telling our parents that we lost the baby (especially so soon just after we told them we were pregnant), but they were wonderful. Also, I'm the kind of person who needs the support of her friends when something like this happens. Since then I've told a few close friends what happened, even though they didn't know we were pregnant.

I was just thinking we have such a weird culture around miscarriage. Most women I know don't tell people they're pregnant until after the 12 week scan "just in case we miscarry." We didn't tell anyone until after our dating scan at 7 weeks "just in case we miscarry," but when we actually miscarried I needed the support of friends and family so I told them anyway.

I think next time I'll be telling them when we get a BFP. I won't be publishing it on Facebook or anything like that, I just think that our close family and friends are such a wonderful support, if I'm going to call on them if I miscarry then there's no reason not to tell them straight away, so they can share in the joy of discovering the pregnancy too.]]> Sat, 26 Jan 2013 21:05:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43004&PID=5825086&title=telling-people#5825086