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Subject: 43392
Posted: 10 March 2021 at 4:22pm

Rachel265687- I am sorry to read your story, and I am happy to know you have a baby. x]]> Wed, 10 Mar 2021 16:22:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5910430&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5910430 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5909789&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5909789 Author: Rachel265687
Subject: 43392
Posted: 01 December 2020 at 5:13pm

I'm sorry for your loss... I, too, have experienced such grief, I understand you, although I do not want to. I had thoughts of suicide, of heavy drugs, but something stopped me. My husband was always there for me, and he supported me, even though he suffered also. I started smoking marijuana, to somehow forget about it, to make me feel at least a little easier. It wasn't easy to find weed because I didn't even know where to buy it. It turns out that everything is simple for a long time and you can just order on the site and bring it home. Thanks to the fact that I relaxed and let go of the situation, I soon managed to get pregnant. I wish you the same, ladies.

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Edited by Rachel265687 - 01 December 2020 at 5:14pm]]> Tue, 01 Dec 2020 17:13:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5909789&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5909789 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5909769&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5909769 Author: NicholasBlak252766
Subject: 43392
Posted: 25 November 2020 at 8:03pm

hello this is very nice topic let me tell you somethingbeing pregnant is always getting many women in depression because they start understanding and perceiving many objects and perspectives in their life from a sober point of view without any masks.. my wife, after getting pregnant few months ago, felt depressed for few days, but you know those kind of depressions that just gets you even better right, but still I couldn't see her in that state (even that she was looking pretty normal) I made her a red vein maeng da and she started to get her mood up:) Anyway, if you feel depressed just know that this is a possibility to get better.

Edited by NicholasBlak252766 - 25 November 2020 at 8:07pm]]> Wed, 25 Nov 2020 20:03:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5909769&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5909769 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5909758&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5909758 Author: Max265389
Subject: 43392
Posted: 24 November 2020 at 7:47pm

yeah, my wife feels the same...
she's stressed and simply exhausted...]]> Tue, 24 Nov 2020 19:47:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5909758&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5909758 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898381&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898381 Author: Vikki124435
Subject: 43392
Posted: 30 May 2016 at 12:47pm

Hello everyone I am very new to posting, never posted on a forum before! A bit of background, I am 44 (45 in Dec) and DH is 45 in Oct - I have a 22 year old son from a previous relationship & DH and I have a 3.5 year old daughter together. Took quite some time to fall pregnant with her at 41 but it happened naturally, we were lucky. But now we are trying for one more, we fell pregnant unexpectedly in Sep 2015 and were thrilled, but little bean passed at about 6 weeks, found out at 8 week scan - totally gutted. Ended up miscarrying naturally BUT then haemorrhaged badly the following evening & was rushed in for emergency D&C - awful. I lost a lot of blood so had to get iron levels back and was on supplements for 3 months. Started trying again in Jan this year, tracking cycles and using ovulation tests, still have regular periods every 27-28 days (sometimes 29 or 30) but no luck so far.

Due to age we have a very low chance of conceiving every month, but keeping fingers crossed that we have one more miracle, this is our last chance.

Babydust to all ladies ]]> Mon, 30 May 2016 12:47:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898381&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898381 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898362&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898362 Author: Bonnie7725
Subject: 43392
Posted: 30 May 2016 at 7:41am

Thank you. I am panicking a bit but I'm prepared with OPK test to do it all again next month. Sigh! ]]> Mon, 30 May 2016 07:41:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898362&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898362 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898360&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898360 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 30 May 2016 at 7:25am

Aw Bonnie it's a rough heart breaking journey! Sounds like you have been at least given some answers to what could have caused your losses! Could the operation have caused your cycle to have been mucked up? Don't panic if it is negative as you now have hope! ]]> Mon, 30 May 2016 07:25:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898360&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898348&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898348 Author: MountTaylor
Subject: 43392
Posted: 29 May 2016 at 8:03pm

Good luck Bonnie, it is certainly a journey isn't it?! Let us know how you go.
]]> Sun, 29 May 2016 20:03:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898348&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898348 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898347&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898347 Author: Bonnie7725
Subject: 43392
Posted: 29 May 2016 at 8:02pm

Hi all. New here. I'm 37 and we have been ttc for 2 and a bit years. 3 miscarriages in that time. 1st was a natural mc and the next 2 resulted in a d&c. Has all the tests under the sun and they thought it was due to a uterine septum which I had removed earlier this year. This was our first month ttc since the op and medication. AF is 1-2 days late but I've been impatient and had 4 negative tests so far. Stressed!]]> Sun, 29 May 2016 20:02:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898347&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898347 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898072&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898072 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 20 May 2016 at 1:35pm

so, i just wanted to update this thread to say that Ive had a BFP this month- 6 months after the d&c. in fact, i would have been gearing up for the baby about now had it not gone so wrong...
Im very nervous about it all, and not really believing it will be. But the two hpts i've done have been much darker than the two previous pregnancies that havent ended well. so im liking to think that is a sign.
I hope everyone is going well.

]]> Fri, 20 May 2016 13:35:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5898072&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5898072 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897101&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897101 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 9:04pm

After my first miscarriage it took a couple of months before I got my period back! Second one I didn't stop bleeding for weeks ]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 21:04:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897101&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897101 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897100&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897100 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 8:53pm

Hi Jes, I'm really sorry for your loss and fingers crossed for some good news for you soon. In my experience hormones do some super weird things after a loss and can take a while to get back to normal x]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 20:53:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897100&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897100 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897092&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897092 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 7:01pm

Also, did any of you gain weight after your D&C? I didn't overboard with the comfort food and kept up my regular workouts. It's so frustrating to have an extra few pounds and my belly hasn't gone back to normal. I was starting to show at 12 weeks and wonder how long it will take for the uterus to shrink down. Hopefully right in time for it to shrink back out!
I'm hoping it's just my hormones being all over the place and they will settle down soon. I'm breaking out like a teenager too! ]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 19:01:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897092&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897092 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897091&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897091 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 6:18pm

We were going through it all around the same time :( Such a crappy time and I see you have been here before today, so sorry for you.
Good luck to you as well and hopefully we'll have good news to report soon!I took a test yesterday and it was negative but I think it was way too early to test (or at least that is what I'm telling myself). Was so grumpy today and feeling so tired (maybe pregnancy symptom!) Such wishful thinking. Good luck and hope you are emotionally healing too. ]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 18:18:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897091&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897091 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897090&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897090 Author: MountTaylor
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 6:04pm

Good luck! Don't worry if your stressed about no period yet. My miscarriage was March 14th and haven't had a period yet either (although my D&C was a few days later). Our specialist advised to wait two cycles, but we are trying this cycle also. We got the timing right but I don't have any pregnancy symptoms, I usually have a lot of CM in the two weeks following ovulation when Ive got pregnant.

Seriously good luck to you. Will be thinking of you.]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 18:04:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897090&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897090 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897089&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897089 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 5:24pm

Good luck honey xxx I hope it has worked that quickly for you! When will you test?]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 17:24:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897089&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897089 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897082&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897082 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 April 2016 at 1:02pm

Hello, I had a missed miscarriage on March 10th. We went in for our 12 weeks scan and no heartbeat was found. I still get sick to my stomach when I think of that day. The baby measured to be 8 weeks along. I had a D&C on 14 March and here it is a month later and no period yet. We didn't want to wait a cycle and started trying. We've tried about 6 times now and I think it's too early to take a test. I have a rapid heart rate and overall feeling off like I did when I was first pregnant. My boobs aren't sore like they were before. I want to test but I am afraid of the disappointment. So here's to trying again!]]> Thu, 14 Apr 2016 13:02:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5897082&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5897082 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896191&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896191 Author: Indigo Blue
Subject: 43392
Posted: 19 March 2016 at 9:37am

That's good news Mount.. Wish I had done that straight away! I found the D&C a lot easier than misoptostol .. So I hope when you come round you feel good, relaxed and at peace that it's all over xx]]> Sat, 19 Mar 2016 09:37:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896191&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896191 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896190&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896190 Author: Mushroom
Subject: 43392
Posted: 19 March 2016 at 9:14am

Good luck with your D&C today! I ended up needing an emergency one done on Tuesday evening, so great you can get it scheduled in before you possibly end up in my situation. Hope your recovery goes smoothly for you.]]> Sat, 19 Mar 2016 09:14:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896190&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896190 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896186&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896186 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 19 March 2016 at 7:21am

Omg mount you must be starving! I'm so glad your getting a dnc I would also feel better about it knowing the have cleared everything! Gosh you have had such a rough couple of weeks! I hope your in there bright and early today xxx]]> Sat, 19 Mar 2016 07:21:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896186&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896186 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896182&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896182 Author: MountTaylor
Subject: 43392
Posted: 18 March 2016 at 10:10pm

Ladies thanks, I needed people in my corner. As it turns out my doctor called today saying he had spoken to the hospital regarding my follow up ultrasound and that they wanted me to go in. Came into hospital, they said they wanted to do a D&C because lining was still very thick and not happy with the bloods. I am
Not urgent so have been waiting with nil by mouth since 10am but there have been lots of emergencies today! I am first on list tomorrow morning if no more emergencies. I feel relief because it means I can be sure that everything is fine and we can move forward without a horrible "what if" hanging over our shoulders. I feel like a weight is off my shoulders, plus I didn't have to go to the wedding as I have been here. Hope everyone else is well. ]]> Fri, 18 Mar 2016 22:10:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896182&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896182 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896155&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896155 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 18 March 2016 at 7:16am

2furkids - that would have been heart breaking, especially getting to that magic 12 week mark and being told the worst possible news. Im so happy that this baby all is good!!

Mount it is definitely not sulking, I know my husband didn't get it when I had my 2 miscarriages. Your not sulking, your heart is breaking and I know I wouldn't want to be around other people trying to pretend that everything was ok. Look after yourself honey xx]]> Fri, 18 Mar 2016 07:16:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896155&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896155 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896149&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896149 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 10:24pm

Thanks karenka, its definitely been a weight off my shoulders ]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 22:24:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896149&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896149 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896148&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896148 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 10:21pm

PS. So glad to see your tests came back all clear 2FurKids]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 22:21:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896148&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896148 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896147&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896147 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 10:20pm

Oh Mount I'm so so sorry for your loss. Huge hugs to you. It's just not fair! Bugger the wedding I say! It's a hell of a lot more than sulking - your body has physically gone through something massive, that alone the effects of the rapid hormone shift. Take care x]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 22:20:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896147&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896147 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896141&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896141 Author: Indigo Blue
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 8:26pm

There are risks with everything, I had the choice of a D&C when I was first admitted to hospital and said no as well, something that I often think about now.. But i figure at some stage I'll have another little baby in my arms and that will be the baby that I was meant to have. My mum miscarried between my brother and I, and if she hadn't then I wouldn't be here.. I try to think like that .. I say try because it's bloody hard.
I can totally understand not wanting to deal with everything at the wedding... Have a good sleep tonight and see how you feel tomorrow xx]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 20:26:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896141&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896141 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896136&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896136 Author: MountTaylor
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 7:16pm

I had scan and bloods today. HCG is down to 3500 today from 62,000 on Friday. The doctor said he wanted to see it lower than that, damn I thought that was pretty good.

Scan shows a thick endometrial lining, I dont really know what that means. Im frustrated because my LMC is the one reviewing and giving me a follow up plan and he is old school. Im certain that he will either say "just wait it out for a bit" or to take more Misoprostol... I really dont want more of that sh*t. My first choice when at Hospital on Monday was for a D&C, unfortunately the young doctor there had virtually no information and she scared my husband into being very against me having a D&C. Now I wish I had just done that and Im pissed off.

We are meant to be attending a good friends wedding tomorrow, I told her when this was all happening so that she could plan if I didn't make it. My husband is adamant I'm going, he says I cant sit at home and do nothing and 'sulk' and the best way to move on is to get out there and socialise. I seriously don't want to but I don't have the energy for an argument. I just want some bloody space and cant think of anything worse than getting dressed up, having to handle pads/bleeding etc at a wedding, sit down for dinner and make polite conversation with people. He says it will be good for me because all my friends are there, but I dont want to ruin their night either, they are there to have a good time.

I seriously just want to fast forward a couple of weeks right now.

]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 19:16:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896136&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896136 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896121&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896121 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 10:44am

Anthea I'm over 13 weeks now, our baby was diagnosed with trisomy 18, so we made the decision to end the pregnancy due to the poor prognosis. Unfortunately the combined screening came back low risk anyway so this time we have opted to pay for prenatal screening which had a higher detection rate. Happy to say that it has just come back all clear!

Mount, I was told if still bleeding after 2 weeks to see my GP and get hcg levels checked, to see that they are dropping, just be firm with what you want if you feel you need it, I don't believe in overtesting for things.]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 10:44:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896121&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896121 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896120&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896120 Author: Indigo Blue
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 10:31am

Hey mount, sending you lots of love... It's bloody rough having a mc... I had a bad reaction with misoptostol as well, not very nice and pretty traumatic. I think it was far more traumatic than my labour and my labour was hectic (induced/posteria babe/forceps/vontuse/c section and then Neo Natel for a week).. Horrible horrible! I really don't recommend misoptostol you poor thing. I ended up having retained products for six months after misoptostol so I would really recommend that you're very firm with wanting follow up scans and bloods after this ordeal - and if you suspect things haven't returned to normal within a few months go straight through to a specalist.. Don't wait for six month like I did hearing from GPs that I was fine and it was impossible to have retained products! I had a D&C in December and concieved the next cycle so I do think it makes you particularly fertile .. The doctors said to me it was like a reset button for your body.
After D&C my cycles went back to proper 28/29 day cycles rather than 24 days when it was trying to get rid of rpoc.. I can't stress enough that you make sure you get comprehensive follow up.
Lots of love to you at the moment, just a horrid experience xx]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 10:31:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896120&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896120 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896119&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896119 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 10:18am

Aw mount I'm so sorry - that's just so unfair xxx I've only just clicked who you are - how are you feeling now?

2furkids - how are you doing? How far along now?? That was a late miscarriage! I'm so sorry - what happened?? ]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 10:18:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896119&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896119 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896108&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896108 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 17 March 2016 at 7:35am

Mount I am so sorry to see what has happened your body wont ovulate again until your hcg level has dropped low enough, how long this takes depends on how high it was in the first place and whether there is any retained products (which can delay it as your body tries to get rid of it). An early loss (CP) will usually be followed by a normal 4 week cycle as the hcg levels aren't huge, after my D&C at 14w I had no complications or retained products and it took 3 weeks for hcg to drop and to ovulate, giving me a 5 week cycle (which I thought wasn't too bad). I don't think it matters whether you have a D&C or tablets as long as nothing is left behind.]]> Thu, 17 Mar 2016 07:35:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896108&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896108 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896102&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896102 Author: MountTaylor
Subject: 43392
Posted: 16 March 2016 at 9:49pm

Hey Mami, yeah it was on the 2 week wait forum... guess I will be back there soon enough.

I would like to start trying again, I don't cope well with waiting. But I'm uncertain about TTC when HCG is still in your system?

I see a few of you ahve talked about being very fertile after a D&C, does a D&C make your HCG drop down really quick or something? I thought it took weeks for HCG to get back to normal?]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2016 21:49:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896102&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896102 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896101&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896101 Author: Mami Smith
Subject: 43392
Posted: 16 March 2016 at 9:43pm

Oh hun, you poor thing, I am so so so sorry to hear of this happening to you I remember when you announced this preg to us, was it in 2 week wait??
What an ordeal you've had to go through, how are you doing/feeling now? Such a frightening experience for you, and can completely appreciate the frustration you are feeling after going through treatment etc, it is a real kick in the guts I am sure. You are allowed to be f**ked off babe, it is good to get all of your emotions out so that you can heal and move forward.

I had a chem preg last cycle, and just got AF today, so am feeling a bit sorry for myself today.

Having had a D&C in November, I have no idea what it is like having a later natural/induced mc, but can understand that actually passing bubs would provide much more closure than just a flood of blood. My chem preg (at nearly 5 weeks), I was still convinced that things might still be ok, merely because it was so hard to believe I could just pass the little embryo like a normal AF, so bizarre a!

Big hugs to you


]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2016 21:43:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896101&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896101 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896100&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896100 Author: MountTaylor
Subject: 43392
Posted: 16 March 2016 at 9:08pm

Hi Ladies. I recognise a few of you from other forums and pages (Hi Anthea!)....

I just had a miscarriage (3rd) on Monday, but this time it was different for us. My first two were from non-viable embryos. This time, we had a healthy baby, had a great scan with a great heartbeat last Monday (8w2d), but by Wednesday had developed a large sub chorionic hemorrhage. Had a scan Thursday which diagnosed it but baby was still healthy. Ended up in the ED at hospital on Friday night with terrible pain, had a scan which showed a reduced heartbeat and then a scan this Monday morning sadly showing baby had no heartbeat and that baby stopped growing at 9w1d so Sunday. By 1.30pm I had taken Misoprostol, but had a bad reaction and within 10 minutes I was back in the ED after suffering a seizure from hyperventilating because of pain which came on so strong and fast I went into shock. By 8.30pm on so many IV painkillers I had passed out baby and the placenta (which was actually cathartic being able to see and have closure compared to my previous early miscarriages which were just blood really). And was out of hospital yesterday evening.

Now I'm just feeling f****d off and frustrated that I have to start at the beginning again with fertility treatments. ]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2016 21:08:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896100&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896100 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896094&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896094 Author: Mami Smith
Subject: 43392
Posted: 16 March 2016 at 7:10pm

Hey Jes, nice to hear back from you so soon, so glad all went well & you are feeling good. Glad you recovered quickly that is awesome! So sweet they did the special little box for you guys, andyyour wee ceremony sounded just perfect
You should come & join us in 'The mighty tww' thread'

Xx ]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2016 19:10:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896094&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896094 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896050&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896050 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 15 March 2016 at 11:17pm

Tonight we had a nice burial ceremony under a tree on Mount Victoria in Wellington. Sweet words were said, candles lit, and prayers offered up. We carved a heart with RIP and the date we found out there was no heartbeat. It was so so so sad but we both needed a good cry together. We now have a place to visit and it's time to move forward with hope but never forgetting. ]]> Tue, 15 Mar 2016 23:17:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5896050&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5896050 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895981&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895981 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 March 2016 at 7:30pm

Glad to hear from you Jes- and glad it went smoothly. That is great that they left you a box- for me they took it away (even tho I said no to tests) and I didn't get it back for weeks... I wrote a letter that we've buried with the tissue with a kowhai tree. I got myself a gemstone ring with a citrine stone to match my garnite one for my daughter- November is a yellow gemstone month and kowhai are yellow so I saw it as a sign. I couldn't bring myself to read the letter out load as we buried it. I didn't want to bust into tears with my 3yo. She didn't know what was happening (after the earlier mc we had decided not to tell her till 12 weeks and then you know what happened there). It still felt cathartic writing it. So I hope you are able to do something that resonates for you. Xxx ]]> Mon, 14 Mar 2016 19:30:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895981&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895981 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895973&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895973 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 March 2016 at 5:13pm

Hi ladies. I'm back from my D&C and actually doing surprisingly well. We had quite a long wait which was rough because I just wanted this nightmare to be all over with. My husband was great and we made the most of our time together. The procedure was over before I knew it and I woke up in recovery pretty quickly. They had per our request placed the remains in a box that was at the foot of my bed. It was hard to see that and I got teary eyed but also relieved it was over and I can start the process of healing. I've always loved my husband deeply and I don't know if this terrible experience was supposed to bring us even closer, but it has and I'm looking for the positives in this situation so I'll take it. I'm bleeding quite heavily as expected but laying low and waiting for a few friends to drop dinner off for us later. I'm feeling so much more hopeful than I was the last few days. I was in such a daze and actually hated that the sun was shining. When we left the hospital I commented on how nice the sun felt and the breeze driving home with the windows down.
I'm working on our little ceremony that we'll have for our baby. I've written down my thoughts and wanted to come up with a poem or something that we could frame and have as a reminder.
What have you chosen to do or make/buy as a reminder of your little one?
Hope you all are having a good day. I'm blessed to have had the chance and I know I'll get my time again. The doctor was the first person to say that I could go ahead after 2 weeks and that in his opinion women are very fertile after a D&C. I do think we'll wait 1 cycle just for peace of mind. I don't want to increase the chances of being back in this situation again so soon. I'm strong but don't want to push it:)]]> Mon, 14 Mar 2016 17:13:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895973&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895973 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895949&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895949 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 13 March 2016 at 10:03pm

Wow, I didn't think the support would be like this. It's sad we've all experienced this...but there is hope and it helps so much to hear others stories, so thank you for sharing. Every time you type it out or talk about it, you are reliving it and I know that has to be painful.

I'm heading to bed soon as I have my D&C early tomorrow morning. I'll relish in the last few hours of being pregnant with this little person. I'm hopefully for the future and another chance to experience pregnancy and hopefully become a mom. I knew I always wanted to be a mom and if that day comes, I'm going to love my baby even fiercer than I knew imaginable! I'll check back in soon.

Good night!]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2016 22:03:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895949&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895949 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895942&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895942 Author: Mami Smith
Subject: 43392
Posted: 13 March 2016 at 5:56pm

Hi Jes,

That's awesome you have made a couple of friends, but yeh I can totally relate to the 'so not sure what to say' awkwardness! None of my friends have been through it either, so yes, it was really hard. I just did a lot of crying, days worth. And took a week off work, which I probably should have done 2 I think, just because of the emotional healing. My physical healing wasn't too bad at all to be honest. I only bleed heavy on the day of the op, and then another 3 or so days worth of light bleeding after that.
I was VERY stuck on the baby being dead inside me too, I couldn't believe it had been so long and I had no idea. I did read a beautiful thing about MMC's, that the mother's maternal instinct must have been so strong that it just was not prepared to let the baby go, so I hold onto that as a positive

Yes TTC definitely was my healing, there was no way I was going to wait as such, although the first cycle after was a bit of a write off due to healing physically etc. But after my first period (after D&C) we officially started. A lot of people get pregnant straight away, my body had other ideas haha. We are in Auckland, soon to relocate to Tauranga! Can't wait!

Yes the op was definitely as straight forward as they said, I lost a little bit of blood but nothing they were worried about. I was really scared and anxious, but you get to meet your surgeon before hand, and she was a lovely young chick so I could really relate to her, and she was so sweet, she told me they would take great care. And after the op they came to see me in recovery and told me they had a really good go at it and got everything as far as they were concerned, so I was really happy with that.
I went straight home from hospital after recovery and just slept for hours. Then cried some more, and then cried some more. Hubby cried, then I cried, and then after a couple of weeks I was back to my normal self!!   

All the best for tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you! Once your feeling good, let us know how your doing ok!

Big big big hugs ]]> Sun, 13 Mar 2016 17:56:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895942&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895942 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895906&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895906 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 12 March 2016 at 2:11pm

so sorry about your loss Jes. I had the same experience in November and I am still coming to terms with it. at the time my mother was actually very ill in hospital, and so my grieving process for my own loss was kinda on hold. For me I was evry open about what had happened, as being around lots of pregnant woman, and babies as I was at Playcentre made me very emotional and i needed ppl to understand.
The feeling of pregnancy when knowing my baby had died was something that I couldnt handle so went for the d&c.
it was very quick, and i didnt have any pain or issues from it (that i am aware of!)
We started trying again after waiting one cycle (although I cant bring myself to really admit I am TTC as then each month the lack of a bfp would be so much harder to take iykwim)- and as others have said,, i think it takes your body a bit to get back to normal as I had a super light period which suggested there wasnt much for any cells to cling anyways....
my due date for my first mc is coming up in a week or so. so feeling reflective on that. But I am not sure how i will go in May with this second one... especially if im not pg again. but i cant control that.
just wanted to send you my thoughts- and know that you are not alone in this awful, most heartbreaking thing.
wishing you all the best in getting that kiwi baby you dream of xx

]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2016 14:11:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895906&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895906 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895889&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895889 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 12 March 2016 at 7:29am

Aw honey Im so sorry - its an awful feeling to go have scan and not see a heartbeat. I totally also know how you feel knowing your baby is dead inside you. I lost my daughter at 37 weeks and she was dead inside me for 4 days before I final gave birth, its heart breaking! In so many ways you just want them gone in other ways you don't.

I know I, like many others were desperate to fall pregnant again after our losses, its is very healing! I hope you get your dream of a kiwi baby!]]> Sat, 12 Mar 2016 07:29:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895889&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895889 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895881&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895881 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 11 March 2016 at 9:27pm

I'm just lurking now (still got notification from when I was posting in here) but I just wanted to say how glad I am to see you came and posted here after me mentioning it, thinking of you . You will see the previous posts (including mine) which might help answer some questions you have. I found that while I was waiting to TTC again it was torture, watching others move forward with their pregnancies and TTC while I felt like I was standing still, so actually trying again gave me something to focus on and helped with the grief a lot. We waited the recommended 1 cycle until trying again and I am glad I did as AF was quite weird and light, indicating my lining probably wasn't suitable for implantation anyway.

Edited by 2furkids - 11 March 2016 at 9:29pm]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2016 21:27:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895881&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895881 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895864&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895864 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 11 March 2016 at 6:42pm

Hi Mami Smith and thank you for your reply. I'm in Wellington and thankfully have made friends here who knew we were pregnant and have been extremely supportive. It's so hard for everyone and I know they aren't sure what to say. I can't stop thinking about how my baby is inside of me but not alive and I'll never know anything. Did it have my eyes, his skin tone, maybe long fingers like me, and a sweet temperament like his/her father?
Did you find that TTC again helped with your grief? Where are you located?
Was your D&C as straight forward as they say it is? Did you wait a cycle to start trying? ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2016 18:42:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895864&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895864 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895861&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895861 Author: Mami Smith
Subject: 43392
Posted: 11 March 2016 at 5:08pm

Hi Jes,

So so so sorry for your loss, I had EXACTLY the same thing happen to me in November last year, except I had my D&C on the Tuesday as had to have clinic app on the Monday. I totally feel your pain. And I can only imagine what it would be like not having your Mom, as I just needed my Mum by me too, it just seemed to make it a bit better. Have you made any friends that you can call on for support? Where in NZ are you, because there are also some groups that you can go and meet up with and hang out with that are all going through the same thing, so there is so much support. We are still TTC since December, had a chemical preg last month, but atleast I know everything is working again
There are so many of us who have been through all of this, you will definitely find solace in here, I certainly did

Any questions, just ask

xx]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2016 17:08:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895861&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895861 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895858&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895858 Author: Jes1018
Subject: 43392
Posted: 11 March 2016 at 4:37pm

Hello, I never thought I would be posting on here. I am 34 yr old American living in NZ with my husband. We are here on a 3 year work visa and wanted so badly to have a baby in NZ before we go home in Feb 2017. We were 12 weeks pregnant and yesterday went in for our NT scan and no heart beat was found. The baby appeared to be 8 weeks along. I had no cramping or bleeding. My body still hasn't realised the baby is gone and I haven't miscarried yet. I am scheduled for a D&C on Monday. It's devastating. I'm so far away from my family and close friends. My husband has been supportive but nothing compares to a hug from mom. We hope to TTC as soon as we can so our dreams of having a kiwi baby will happen. I'm glad I found this forum. I'm so sorry for all your heartaches - because damn it really does hurt.   ]]> Fri, 11 Mar 2016 16:37:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5895858&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5895858 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892871&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892871 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 08 January 2016 at 9:35pm

Mine was nov. I only needed one cycle after my first mc to conceive again but that was a much earlier mc (6wks vs 12) but part of me wonders if not waiting longer is why I had the second mc. From a rational point of view It's unlikely but the mind wonders doesn't it !]]> Fri, 08 Jan 2016 21:35:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892871&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892871 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892869&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892869 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 08 January 2016 at 9:31pm

Oh that really sucks! Is there anyway to get your body right again? My last miscarriage was in September!]]> Fri, 08 Jan 2016 21:31:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892869&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892869 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892868&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892868 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 08 January 2016 at 9:13pm

I am the same- in that the period I had after the mc was very short. Perhaps all is not quite right just yet...
Depressing :/]]> Fri, 08 Jan 2016 21:13:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892868&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892868 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892866&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892866 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 08 January 2016 at 8:01pm

I found AF was lighter and shorter last time too, I asked and others said it could be that my body hadn't built up a thick enough lining, so maybe that your body isn't quite right after the miscarriage?]]> Fri, 08 Jan 2016 20:01:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892866&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892866 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892865&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892865 Author: antheawren
Subject: 43392
Posted: 08 January 2016 at 7:56pm

I'm sorry 2 fur babies - I know how you feel I too would have been getting my 20 week scan at the end of the month?

Since my last miscarriage my cycle has dropped to 3 days prior to that it was 6 days - does anyone know why that would be?]]> Fri, 08 Jan 2016 19:56:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892865&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892865 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892864&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892864 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 08 January 2016 at 7:40pm

No 2furkids I don't chart. I just note down periods and keep a mental tab on cm... Im too obsessive to chart I think. May have to if ttc take much longer. Although tbh my issue seems to be more holding onto the pregnancy :(
Cm still not doing anything I recognise as normal- maybe this month is a write off? Who knows.

That is a long wait for a specialist... Here's hoping things are going so well it's not even on your mind in 6mos time.
]]> Fri, 08 Jan 2016 19:40:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892864&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892864 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892623&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892623 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 03 January 2016 at 3:47pm

do you chart snifter? Your cycle might be a bit off but stress can delay ovulation so try not to worry and keep an eye out for the fertile cm. I went through the same thing right before xmas, I was due to have my 20 week scan the week before xmas, which of course I wasn't seeing others having their scans has been quite hard, also have a few ppl at work who are not much further ahead than where I was so watching bumps grow, the only one I have is a xmas food baby!

Got a referral letter from the genetic specialists in Auckland before xmas too, my GP had spoken to one of the doctors up there and asked if I wanted to talk to them too (was happy to do over the phone), but letter indicated wait time for an appt would be 6+ months! So think I will flag that as I need to move on.]]> Sun, 03 Jan 2016 15:47:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892623&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892623 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892621&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892621 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 03 January 2016 at 2:55pm

Glad that you found it interesting Karena.
I feel a bit stuck in limbo as according to my previous cycles I would be in my fertile week by now but my cm is nothing like it used to be so im wondering if my cycle is all messed up....
I tried using opks awhile ago and has zero luck with them which is why I save myself the bother now).
Just venting.
Would have been having a 20week scan soon but instead I'm picking up my 'tissue' at the hospital on Tuesday. :/
]]> Sun, 03 Jan 2016 14:55:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892621&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892621 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892275&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892275 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 December 2015 at 9:59pm

Wow interesting read Snifter. Made me cry. Thanks for sharing.]]> Mon, 21 Dec 2015 21:59:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892275&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892275 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892254&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892254 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 December 2015 at 1:20pm

Nell- I was reading your post in the other thread about scarring- i really hope that isnt the case for you. do you know if its treatable?
xx]]> Mon, 21 Dec 2015 13:20:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892254&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892254 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892252&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892252 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 December 2015 at 1:08pm

well it seems AF has found me about a month after the D&C..... It seems heavier to me, but Im not sure if thats just cos i has such little spotting with the D&C that Im judging it badly?
So now I will see how i feel about trying this month. almost feels too much to think about.
i read an interesting article the other day- thought I would share it here.

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/parenting/unpregnant-the-silent-secret-grief-of-miscarriage/article27576775/

]]> Mon, 21 Dec 2015 13:08:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892252&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892252 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892072&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892072 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 14 December 2015 at 8:25am

DH is taking vitamins, not every day - more like every 3 days

I never used to be fussed about him taking anything, but now, after so much loss we'll try anything.

At the end of the day, if it's something genetic there's nothing we can do. Sadly we can't pick what egg is fertilised and what sperm fertilises that egg. (Unless you do IVF of course! And get the extra testing done.)

Cross your fingers and hope for the best ]]> Mon, 14 Dec 2015 08:25:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892072&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892072 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892032&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892032 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 11 December 2015 at 2:55pm

mine took vitamins for 3 months before in order to actually affect the sperm producing a baby (takes 72-90 days for sperm to develop), didn't help us....]]> Fri, 11 Dec 2015 14:55:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892032&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892032 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892031&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892031 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 11 December 2015 at 2:43pm

yeh i wasnt as phased after the first one... thought it was just unlucky. now after looking at the statistics- the chances of having a baby after 3 mc's goes down so dramatically that i am more scared now of a mc because of that... and what it would mean.

i think you need to do whats right for you too.. even falling pg again wont bring the same relief eh.. its just a new thing to worry about. gosh im deep and dark for a Friday.

anyone got their husbands taking vitamins? mine isnt keen. but i feel like its worth a try.]]> Fri, 11 Dec 2015 14:43:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892031&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892031 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892017&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892017 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 10 December 2015 at 9:54pm

I think deciding when to start TTC again is up to you, every doctor has a different opinion on how long you should wait, remember that heaps of miscarriages are caused by genetic problems which are out of your control. I personally did everything by the book the first time round and look where that got me so this time I don't think I will care as much really, kind of a bit of a 'why bother' attitude but that is just where my mind is at right now. I still think we will have the extra testing to check all is well, although I am not too thrilled by that thought right now, can still see the mark where they did it last time....]]> Thu, 10 Dec 2015 21:54:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892017&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892017 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892008&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892008 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 10 December 2015 at 8:31pm

hi again. after saying previously i had no bleeding. i went on to spot for a week... seems to have stopped for now.
im a bit in two minds about when to start ttc... (when im back on a cycle that is!)
i had one cycle after my first mc before getting pg- and that ended in a mc at 12 weeks. so i wonder if had i waited i wouldnt have had the mc. i know its impossible to know. but the mind wonders.
what things are ppl doing to hopefully avoid this path again? i want to do whatever i can :/]]> Thu, 10 Dec 2015 20:31:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5892008&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5892008 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891609&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891609 Author: Mami Smith
Subject: 43392
Posted: 28 November 2015 at 5:33pm

Hi guys,

That's interesting what you have been saying about iron, I knew you needed it when pregnant but didn't realise it was important pre-conception! I am taking Swisse pre-natal vitamins, surely that would have sufficient amounts, plus of course dietary intake too? Sheesh, maybe I will go and have bloods done, I haven't had any done since, nor have I been told to see a Dr since op, it that weird?? Oh and of course after saying I hadn't had anymore bleeding, after my acupuncture last night, I had bleeding again, it was red, but then it hasn't amounted to anything?? Hmmm this whole thing sux s*%t doesn't it!

xx]]> Sat, 28 Nov 2015 17:33:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891609&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891609 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891605&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891605 Author: Indigo Blue
Subject: 43392
Posted: 28 November 2015 at 3:16pm

Yeah defiantly I think that might be the problem! I dint know if I have enough vitamin c in my diet.. So today my first day of iron tablets with a tall glass of orange juice.... :)]]> Sat, 28 Nov 2015 15:16:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891605&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891605 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891583&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891583 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 9:57pm

sometimes you can eat heaps of iron but your body doesn't absorb it and that's where the problem lies - hope they come up soon and you can get your BFP ]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 21:57:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891583&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891583 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891581&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891581 Author: Indigo Blue
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 9:47pm

I think I'll guzzle orange juice for the vitamin c... So surprised that I'm low, we have so much red meat, and our garden is bonkers with spinach so we have that every night... Blah! At least I know why I've been feeling so crap now! Onwards and upwards]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 21:47:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891581&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891581 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891579&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891579 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 9:21pm

What a bugger!! My iron levels were checked today and all was good, but I often have an iron level up the high end of the scale. Don't forget to take with vitamin c (I think) like with on as it helps adsorption.]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 21:21:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891579&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891579 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891578&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891578 Author: Indigo Blue
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 9:12pm

Hey guys something to think about.. Iron levels! I got mine back today and I'm only sitting on 10 which isn't fab..and when I put "low iron levels and fertility" into Google it's not great news for BFP... So I'll be going on iron supplements. My point is, if you've had a a m/c or D&C etc etc maybe go and get some iron to help your body bounce back... And, don't think you're fine like me because you have a good diet with plenty of red meat, because you still might be low!
Hope this helps someone! X]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 21:12:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891578&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891578 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891566&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891566 Author: minik8e
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 5:53pm

2furkids - I understand that they like you to wait at least one full cycle so that your lining and hormones can go back to normal. That's what I was advised in any case.]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 17:53:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891566&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891566 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891564&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891564 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 4:39pm

Thanks Mami, my normal GP rang me and results came back at 7 which I am super pleased about, she also agreed that it should mean no retained placenta and that the bleeding should settle down shortly. Between the two GP's they are going to follow up my notes and come up with a plan and discuss whether we need to see genetic specialist or not. After never seeing the same doctor more than once and having no-one talk to me about anything this is a pleasant change! Also said that we only have to wait until after 1 normal period to start TTC again - my avo just got exponentially better!!    ]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 16:39:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891564&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891564 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891563&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891563 Author: Mami Smith
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 4:31pm

Omg wow, I have been wondering what had happened to our beautiful thread as I hadn't been getting any emails alerting me to new posts! But I just got one for your reply 2furkids! So sorry I have missed so much!

2furkids, I am glad to hear that things are settling down for you now. Bet you are gritting your teeth waiting for your results. After my op (on the 3rd), I had bleeding for around 3-4 days but it was pretty minimal. Then there was nothing until the 14th when I just had this weird gush of blood/fluid which lasted for the arvo then it was gone in a day or two. We hadn't had sex at all since the op until the 17th as I had hopes that if the weird bleed on the 14th was some kind of period then I was close to ovulation because I have a 21 day cycle, normally. Have had sex 2-3 times since then and am just going to roll with it and see what happens?? I was told that you can ovulate after d&c without a period and are very fertile, my friends midwife told me to go for it and there is no medical research to backup the notion of waiting. That that is very old school and if you feel ready mentally and physically just go for it. The only reason I have heard to wait is to make sure you know your dates, but that's what scans are for right!    SO my advice would be to just chill, jump back on the 'horse' so to speak haha and just go with it. I have read heaps of ladies getting pregnant two weeks after d&c without a period in between so I believe the less you think about it and if you have sex at least every 2-3 days, nature will do the rest! Oh and I am also having weekly acupuncture and taking Shatavari from my naturopath, it tones uterus, balances hormones and gets everything into gear again, google it ]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 16:31:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891563&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891563 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891561&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891561 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 27 November 2015 at 4:08pm

GP apt went ok today, she sent me to get urgent bloods today to check hcg levels and if they are not low she will get me to go for a scan, so just waiting to hear back about the bloods today. She seemed disappointed that nobody had spoken to me in Auckland about what to do going forward, and turns out my notes have not been sent through to the GP's like I thought they would, and I should've been given some notes when I left which I wasn't. Question for you though, she recommended waiting for 2 normal periods before trying again, but im not sure if the reasoning behind it was more for mental recovery or physical? I have read various things on other sites from 1-6 months wait and some OB's have said no need to wait as there is no medical evidence behind waiting. So in a bit of a sh*t pants mood today, the only thing keeping my head above water recently had been clinging onto the hope of TTC again after (when!) AF returns    ]]> Fri, 27 Nov 2015 16:08:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891561&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891561 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891457&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891457 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 24 November 2015 at 1:24pm

Just like how you make a doctors appt and suddenly start feeling better....after posting on here yesterday I haven't had any more spotting/bleeding, so fingers crossed its stopped!]]> Tue, 24 Nov 2015 13:24:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891457&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891457 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891432&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891432 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 3:53pm

Hi snifter, after the first day i have had minimal bleeding really compared to a normal period, just seems to be dragging on a bit. In saying that I have had nothing else today and barely anything when I wipe, but this is what happens most days then in the avo I get some new flow. You might be lucky in that your body gets back to normal quickly, fingers crossed that's the case. I've had no mention of any extra scans but I had no trouble up until they noticed the deformity, I have been told by my MW that I will be offered CVS/amnio testing next time as my combined screening came back low risk, which it wasn't/shouldn't have been. ]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 15:53:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891432&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891432 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891430&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891430 Author: snifter2
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 3:29pm

hi again. went for a d&c on friday. i have been surprised by how little bleeding i have had. only a tiny bit on the fri and nothing yest or today. must be huge variations in how the ops go.

i was getting really upset last week at seeing tiny newborns and pg ladies. im.feeling much better now (hugely better psychologically after the d&c). but just had email from close friend in france with her good news of being pg with #2. we would have been due the same time :( thats hit hard. but not much to do about it eh.

im just so nervous already for ttc. the scan dr made comments about how next time i would be having more scans- is that what ppl do? i feel so sad about the scans now. (having had two pregnancies end with scans) struggling to see how more of them would make me feel better.

def check in with a dr on the bleeding- ive been discharged to gp. but i would call the hospital and go over that if i wanted info as my gp isnt up to much.
ggosh typing on my phone is shocking. sorry!]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 15:29:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891430&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891430 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891419&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891419 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 1:30pm

It's a very big slap in the face and as well, I see all those babies who deserve so much better. If my circumstances were different I would foster and adopt as many as I could. I have so much love for little people, they just need someone to give them a home with security.

Yeah I'm way too OCD to relax I think my charting speaks for itself Although I think I am pretty relaxed in person, I just focus all my energy into graphs and tick boxes and that actually helps me

Edited by Nellennium - 23 November 2015 at 1:30pm]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 13:30:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891419&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891419 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891416&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891416 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:42pm

yes I took them 3 months before and afterwards, DH was on man vitamins. MW said there is no need to take fancy stuff, and only need folic acid up until 13 weeks but iodine all the way through, but it was just convenient to order elevit online and have it sent to me as I was going to run out before MW appt and didn't want to pay to see doctor. I just don't feel like putting all the effort in this time really, it is a slap in the face when you see others who aren't trying to get pregnant and go on to have healthy kids, when women who do everything right are struggling. Although I am a bit OCD so lets see how the 'relaxed' approach goes! ]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:42:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891416&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891416 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891415&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891415 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:23pm

I know all my rights now!

Unfortunately a bit too late. But hey, if I can help someone else then that's some good.]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:23:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891415&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891415 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891414&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891414 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:21pm

Yeah, I was a mooncup user! So pads were very foreign to me

I take prenatals pretty much permanently now As you're 'supposed' to take them for 3 months before even TTC, then during TTC and then after still! I think iodine while breastfeeding as well. I really need to renew my iodine script, haven't taken that one in a while.

Haha yeah, all this effort and $$ we put into TTC. Feels like a slap in the face when it goes wrong.]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:21:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891414&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891414 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891413&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891413 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:18pm

whoops posted at the same time! Good idea, im one of those ppl who likes to be prepared and know my options before I go, I find that doctors don't seem to offer the most proactive approach to begin with unless prodded, and what you don't know you don't know....]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:18:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891413&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891413 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891412&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891412 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:16pm

I think its just a crappy reminder of what has happened too. nothings normal, I don't think I have ever used pads in my life so have no idea what my normal would look like haha! hmm, maybe should change it to spotting for an extra day then.... maybe I will book in to see her, I would like to get a script for folic acid and iodine too so that I have it when I need it again, im not paying for elevit again - fat lot of good that did for me last time! ]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:16:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891412&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891412 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891411&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891411 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:16pm

If you're confident you can just say, This is what's happening, this is what I want: A referral for repeat bloods for hCG and a referral for a scan to check for retained product.

That's what I do now I just can't be bothered mucking around and some GP's umm and ahhh about so many things.]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:16:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891411&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891411 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891410&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891410 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:11pm

It really does do your head in! Yeah, spotting really does depend on what's your normal and not. Anything in a wipe or on a liner I call spotting. If you need more than a liner I call it a flow.

Your temp will take a while to come down, your body has to flush out all the hCG before it can do that.

If I was you, I'd book in at your GP for Thursday or Friday, have a check up, explain you haven't stopped bleeding and also ask for a form to get your hCG levels checked this Friday and next Friday (it can be a clue to retained product, it can also give you some sanity relief if the numbers are dropping nicely so you can sort of estimate when your body will return to normal).

Your Dr can send you for a scan to check if there's retained product, they might want to wait another week before doing so. Depends on their personal preference.]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:11:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891410&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891410 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891409&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891409 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 12:01pm

Thanks Nell - gosh didn't the amount of time bleeding/spotting do your head in? would what I am having count as spotting or light flow? I know it is objective depending on the person, I've been charting again so you can see my chart in the other thread. So they can see if there is something there? I am not sure who is looking after me actually, surgeon said no need to go to doctor after two weeks unless something wrong (sick, unwell etc), nurse after procedure said you have to go to doc after two weeks, but I haven't seen my doctor since before I was pregnant so seems weird to go to her! My temps are still quite high for me too, not fever high but higher than pre ov temps....]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 12:01:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891409&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891409 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891408&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891408 Author: Nellennium
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 11:53am

After my D&C I had 6 days of bleeding and spotting stopped on day 12.

If you look at my chart Chart

It's the cycle starting April 07 2015

For my natural MMC I had 40 days of spotting and then a very heavy bleed. Dec 09 2014.

For my medicated MMC I had 33 days of spotting and then a very heavy bleed. Feb 27 2013.

If you're still spotting after 2 weeks (So CD14) it is worth telling your Dr, or who ever is still looking after you as you could have retained product. (which is what I had). They do a scan to check and then depending on the size decide how to manage it. I won't bother boring you with that info unless you actually get there ]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 11:53:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891408&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891408 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891403&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891403 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 23 November 2015 at 10:50am

Good morning, got a TMI question for you ladies - those who have had a D&C, how long did it take to stop bleeding and was it a bit all over the place rather than a gradual decline? Today is day 10 since procedure and for a few days now for 18-20 hours I will get nothing on a pad/liner then just a little brown when I wipe, then I will get a little burst of red blood again (probably a bit more than a liner quantity), so I think that it might be coming to an end and then she is like 'haha, jokes!!' and its driving me nutty ]]> Mon, 23 Nov 2015 10:50:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891403&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891403 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891371&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891371 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 November 2015 at 10:32pm

I was a bit like you in that even prior to my first pregnancy I never took being able to have a baby for granted - especially having endo and being ancient when we first started ttc. I would also love to have that naivety and relaxed feeling back. It seems like such a marathon to having a healthy baby, but I try and think one step at a time. First step in the marathon is being ready to ttc again after a loss; then bfp; the heartbeat; then nuchal/12 week scan etc etc]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2015 22:32:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891371&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891371 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891370&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891370 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 November 2015 at 8:53pm

I find it amazing just what we can cope with, dealing with horrible information and making decisions that you thought you would never be able to - and somehow always pulling through and moving onto the next decision. I'm a bit of a pessimist so even though this was my first pregnancy I never took anything for granted, didn't want to tell people early etc but I think when our time comes I will be so grateful for what we have because of the challenges to get there, but it will be a bit sad as the naivety is gone and at no stage will I be able to truly relax and enjoy things as I know it can be taken away at any time (I have spent way too much time on this forum even before TTC so have seen some really sad things happen    )]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2015 20:53:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891370&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891370 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891369&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891369 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 November 2015 at 8:36pm

Yeah the waiting and not knowing what was going on was terrifying and I totally feel for you having to go though that. For us it went on for months as we waited to see how his heart condition would develop; where I'd have to give birth; if he would be able to breathe on his own when he was born; whether he'd need open heart straight away etc etc.

I totally understand how hard it is watching others that are due at a similar time to when you were. I find that really hard too - I'm a couple of weeks away from my due date of my 3rd miscarriage and at one stage thought I'd have a newborn this Christmas.

You know what though, I really think that the scary experiences that I had when I was pregnant with my son (and the subsequent open heart surgery he's had etc), have made me a better mum. I don't take him for granted and rarely lose sight of what a absolute gift and treasure he is (even when he's being a little sh*t!). I appreciate him so much and I'm not sure if I would have had to the same level, if I'd had a straightforward, no drama, take it for granted everything's going to be fine, type of pregnancy. I spend as much time as I possibly can with him and find parenting reasonably easy most of the time, partly because I think I'm so fcking privileged that he was ok. When people moan about hard parenting is, I have nothing to contribute to the conversation, as I just feel grateful that I am a parent. I also know that because the road to number 2 has been a bumpy ride, if I am lucky enough to have a second, I will appreciate/treasure him/her more so than if it was easy. When you guys have your babies, you will likely find the same too xoxo
]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2015 20:36:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891369&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891369 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891355&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891355 Author: Gen123
Subject: 43392
Posted: 21 November 2015 at 11:24am

I don't think any of us should have to apologise for being sad, even though we don't want to bring down the people around us. We just care and if we didn't care then we wouldn't be the best mums when we get there! I agree it's hard to see people pregnant though and meeting everyone's new bubs, when ours would have been due about now. Wishing everyone the best :)]]> Sat, 21 Nov 2015 11:24:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891355&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891355 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891344&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891344 Author: 2furkids
Subject: 43392
Posted: 20 November 2015 at 9:49pm

Karenka, that is exactly what could've happened to us, being rushed into making a decision like that, which would have been terrifying. I didn't realise you had to have testing done - you went through the scariest parts we did. I think that the time where we knew there was a problem but nobody would tell us exactly what and the uncertainty and unknown while waiting for appointments was the most stressful and upsetting time for us, so many 'what ifs' and different outcomes it could have and what we would do for option A option B etc. Making the decision was hard and upsetting don't get me wrong, but I think more tears were shed when we didn't know what was going on. Now I am going through the bitter stage, watching others around me who are pregnant and were due at a similar time, looking at the baby things I had in my spare room, thinking of how I should've been having my 20 week scan before xmas.... sorry I am being such a sad sack!]]> Fri, 20 Nov 2015 21:49:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891344&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891344 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891342&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891342 Author: Karenka
Subject: 43392
Posted: 20 November 2015 at 9:33pm

Guh!!! In summary it said:

Snifter I'm really sorry for your loss. I no have advice re medical vs d and c, as ll my mcs have been early and natural, but I know it's been discussed here recently so scroll back a few pages and you should be able to find it.

2furkids - I imagine the thought of finding out later is a scary thought. I had an amino with my son at 22.5 weeks, as the heart condition they discovered on the 20 week scan is linked with chromosome defects. He had a 1 in 5 chance of having a trisomies and other goodies that "weren't compatible with life". By the time we got the results (and if they showed a chromosome defect) we would have had 3 days to decide and have the termination (if that's what we decided to do) before the 24 week deadline. The odds of him having a chromosome defect and the time frames in which to make a decision were pretty scary, but we were lucky that his results came back fine (after a hideous 8 day wait) and we never had to make the heartbreaking decision you did. Anyway the point of all this is, although I have no idea what you're going through, I have spent a lot of time thinking about what it would be like, so big hugs to you.]]> Fri, 20 Nov 2015 21:33:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891342&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891342 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891226&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891226 Author: 2furkids
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Posted: 18 November 2015 at 10:21pm

Bugger karenka, must've disappeared!]]> Wed, 18 Nov 2015 22:21:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891226&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891226 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891225&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891225 Author: Karenka
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Posted: 18 November 2015 at 10:09pm

Hmm did my lengthy reply disappear or can other people see it?
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Posted: 17 November 2015 at 9:16pm

Abc123 - feeling for you, really rough.. Just imagine how your day will be when everyone is congratulating you - positive thoughts xx]]> Tue, 17 Nov 2015 21:16:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891175&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891175 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891174&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891174 Author: Gen123
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Posted: 17 November 2015 at 8:39pm

Oh, so sorry to hear that snifter. Hopefully, you will have a bigger family soon! Just had a rough day at work with the girl beside me announcing her pregnancy and people congratulating and discussing it all day. So happy for her, but sad too, as we would so love to have one of our own. She had that Harmony blood test...apparently 99% accurate, so may be worth it if anyone on here has the $. ]]> Tue, 17 Nov 2015 20:39:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891174&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891174 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891145&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891145 Author: 2furkids
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Posted: 17 November 2015 at 1:27pm

Nell, I just read a bit about it and its still only a screening test and not a diagnostic one, so a lot of $ to not be 100% sure....

snifter I am sorry to see you in here I am not as wise as some of the other ladies in here as I have only joined myself, but take the time you need to, whatever decision you make will be the right decision for you ]]> Tue, 17 Nov 2015 13:27:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891145&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891145 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891143&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891143 Author: snifter2
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Posted: 17 November 2015 at 1:08pm

hi all. its been a long time aince i posted on ohbaby. last time was a due in group for a pregancy that had absolutely no issues... yet at my 12 week scan yesterday they found no heartbeat - the baby had died a few days ago. it was such a shock even though i was extremely nervous and worried after having had a miscarriage at 6.5 weeks back in july.(and we had an scan at 6.5 weeks that showed a heartbeat and everything ok.)
im going to have to decide on d&c or medical. hard to know whats best.
my little girl is nearly three and we have been ttc for a year now. really didn't expect this to happen.
best wishes to everyone in their ttc journey. i have taken comfort from reading about your experiences. you are all so brave and wonderful for sharing your stories.
i am not sure i can go through it again - just so stressful :( but i really want a sibling for my daughter.
]]> Tue, 17 Nov 2015 13:08:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891143&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891143 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891142&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891142 Author: 2furkids
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Posted: 17 November 2015 at 1:00pm

Thanks Nell, name vaguely rings a bell...will have a look at it. The CVS I had this time wasn't too bad and pre-lim results are back within 48 hours, I am just so nervous that it could've been missed and we might have been making the same decision at 20-22 weeks, I can't imagine the pain I would've felt if we had got that far considering we weren't getting excited until we had our 12 week scan to check all was well, so never got overly attached as it was never quite right, just weeks of testing and scans to confirm our fears ]]> Tue, 17 Nov 2015 13:00:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891142&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891142 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=43392&PID=5891140&title=ttc-after-miscarriage-loss#5891140 Author: Nellennium
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Posted: 17 November 2015 at 12:50pm

Hugs! You can pay for the harmony test, it's around $1,000 in New Zealand and I think about 3 labs offer it here now. It is of low risk (just a blood test taken from you), more accurate and can be done as early as 10 weeks (I think, I better double check that). It's not public funded so I guess that's why your MW didn't mention it xx

http://www.sclabs.co.nz/index.php/clinicians/harmony

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