https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Sat, 04 Apr 2026 00:43:56 +0000 Fri, 29 Jun 2007 08:47:44 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.04 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=8578 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168906&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168906 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 29 June 2007 at 8:47am

Mazzy wrote: Really glad you rang them and are feeling better, good on you for letting them know. I have been talking about similar stuff with DH and my mum about my birth experience, I don't feel good about mine either and am really nervous about the next one. If there is a next one. You are not alone in those feelings. It is hard eh, when you seem to hear all these people who have such wonderful, meaningful births. Your mum sounds like a wise woman Nikki, that is advice I probably need to take on board too. I totally felt like I 'failed' in the birth stakes. But in the end I have my darling girl and I'm here still, so it's not a competition or test that I 'failed'. Right? For the record, I didn't have a CS. Sorry if I shouldn't be posting in here, just struck a chord with me when you talked about your feelings to do with your birth.

hay no its alright i,m feeling heaps better today ladys i dont relly feel that i failed in james brith i,m just piss that no one listen to me all thur the brith]]> Fri, 29 Jun 2007 08:47:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168906&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168906 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168847&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168847 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 10:41pm

Really glad you rang them and are feeling better, good on you for letting them know.
I have been talking about similar stuff with DH and my mum about my birth experience, I don't feel good about mine either and am really nervous about the next one. If there is a next one. You are not alone in those feelings. It is hard eh, when you seem to hear all these people who have such wonderful, meaningful births. Your mum sounds like a wise woman Nikki, that is advice I probably need to take on board too. I totally felt like I 'failed' in the birth stakes. But in the end I have my darling girl and I'm here still, so it's not a competition or test that I 'failed'. Right?

For the record, I didn't have a CS. Sorry if I shouldn't be posting in here, just struck a chord with me when you talked about your feelings to do with your birth.
]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 22:41:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168847&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168847 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168787&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168787 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 9:17pm

oh lu! i'm glad you are feeling better about it now and very pleased you got an apology from them! asking you first would've been nice huh!
as an aside....all births are not the same. i'm sure you know that already and i can understand your anxious about going through it all again.   big ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 21:17:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168787&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168787 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168743&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168743 Author: lizzle
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 8:19pm

i have nothing much to add Lu, but just wanted to say I LOVE the pic of james on your sig! ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 20:19:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168743&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168743 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168576&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168576 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 3:22pm

thanks ladys now you got me crying the good cry not the ugly cry lol ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 15:22:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168576&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168576 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168536&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168536 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 2:24pm

I agree with Toni completely... talking things over really does help. I felt really disappointed with my birthing experience too and had to vent to my Mum who reassured me that getting out of the whole thing alive was more important than 'how well I performed' IYKWIM?

And you are doing a fabulous job raising James which will help him grow into a lovely young man... the birthing experience has nothing on that! ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:24:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168536&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168536 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168527&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168527 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 2:10pm

I'm all for using medical records as case studies as they have to use something to teach the students with (this is the same reason why I agreed to have a student MW share care with my MW).
But perhaps the way they contacted you was wrong? I personally think it would have been more respectful for a Records Clerk or similar to contact you in writing to ask if you minded if a student get in touch with you.

Good to hear you're feeling better about it though Lu. I felt the same about having another baby after what I went through this time, but I guess time heals all wounds. If you wanted to get some answers for closure or whatever I highly recommend speaking to your MW or requesting your labour notes and talking it all over. I know it made me feel a lot better (even though the MW said it was the most unpleasant labour she had been through in her many years of being a MW We don't like to do things by halves )]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:10:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168527&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168527 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168495&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168495 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 1:40pm

thanks ladys i know what yous are saying and i,m feeling much better about it now i have rung them and they appaligsed which is all i wanted and my records are now private which is what i wanted thanks nikki just in saying that it relly does help ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 13:40:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168495&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168495 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168467&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168467 Author: JD
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 12:49pm

I would make a formal complaint. I would also say something to the person that contacted you about it. They will feel terrible, but they will know who gave out the details.]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 12:49:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168467&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168467 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168433&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168433 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 10:56am

I'm sorry that their call made you feel horrible Lu... but I'm unsure what they did was illegal... it's a possibility because you gave birth at Dunedin hospital then your details are available for this sort of study. I'm sure you could ring the hospital and request your details don't be given out tho.

Anyway, I just read and article on a study which was done on c-sect mums which was to prove that there was no relation between c-sects and poor infant health - so surely that's a positive thing! Read about it here

I'm sorry that your experience was horrible too... I'm sure you wouldn't have such a terrible time if you did decide to have another baby as you'd go in with a whole lot more info (and support from the OhBaby-ers!)

Edited to fix spelling mistake


Edited by nikkiwhyte]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 10:56:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168433&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168433 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168364&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168364 Author: Two Blondinis
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 9:19am

I'd still put in a formal complaint Lu. I know they have to use medical records for teaching etc but to have a student contact you!?!?!? That's disgusting!    I'd be P'd off too!]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 09:19:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168364&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168364 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168319&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168319 Author: hailstones
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 8:20am

Big hugs Lu - I would be angry too. I remember them saying something about teaching hospital - blah blah blah, when I was having Elle - but seriously - I can't remember everything they said and did (or everything I said and did) in the heat of labour. They should have definately contacted you BEFORE they did anything at all with your notes. ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 08:20:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168319&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168319 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168306&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168306 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 28 June 2007 at 7:51am

thank ladyas i,m still alittle upset today i told my mum that my whole brithing experince as put me off having more childern she was,nt surprised at alli think i will just let this one slide but it does make you feel better venting here ]]> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 07:51:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168306&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168306 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168282&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168282 Author: Mazzy
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 10:01pm

That has to be a privacy issue - you poor thing! You have every right to be angry and upset. and on your behalf.]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 22:01:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168282&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168282 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168274&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168274 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 9:43pm

They would of picked it up through your NHI number as that is used quite often to get medical info. They don't usually match it up to a person thou and so asking them for stuff. I would be angry too.]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 21:43:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168274&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168274 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168106&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168106 Author: busymum
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 4:50pm

Call them while you're upset I too think it's a breach of your privacy! ]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:50:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168106&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168106 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168099&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168099 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 4:41pm

ps sorry emma that i metioned what hospital it was i,m just relly upsett about it ]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:41:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168099&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168099 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168098&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168098 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 4:39pm

I,M RELLY UPSET ABOUT THIS i feel like im re living again i already dont want a nother baby as i,m tooscared to go thur all that again now my day suxs ]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:39:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168098&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168098 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168083&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168083 Author: nuttymama
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 4:09pm

That really sucks. I would have thought it was a breach in the privacy act as well. You have every right to go mad at them how rude!!!]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:09:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168083&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168083 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168072&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168072 Author: Paws
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 4:01pm

I'd be having words with the hospital. I would have thought that this would be a breach of the privacy act. ]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:01:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168072&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168072 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168069&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168069 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 3:59pm

and now i,m crying they are just passing the buck around at the hospital and uni it was a very turmattic time for me and now i feel like i am reliving it all over again aggrrrhhhhh i am so mad ]]> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 15:59:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168069&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168069 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=8578&PID=168057&title=studys-on-csec-woman-huge-vent#168057 Author: james
Subject: 8578
Posted: 27 June 2007 at 3:48pm

i ahve been sent not from the med school here in dunedin if i would like to particapate in a study for c- sec mummys in the note it states we have been given your records and it shows you have had a c- sec within the last two years i,m not a happy mummy in this moment because i thought my records were private i dont care who this woman is that is studying or her case study all i care about is that my records are and stay private how dare they just hand them to anybady even if it is for a case study if they wanted to do that they should of contacted me frist (the hospital) aand i would of told them no if outher mums want to do it thats fine but its my right to say no and its not there right to hand my notes to anyone and no i dont care if it was the school of med they never informed me that they would be giving out my information at all as i would of told them no agghrrrrrrrrrrhhhhh i am so mad about this i am thinking of ringing them and going mad at them


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